I consider myself an emotionally balanced person for the most part. I can manage a lot of different life situations as needs arise. But I hate to wait, especially for a spanking.
When the demands of daily life cause spankings to be interrupted or postponed, how do you and your partner cope with these unplanned schedule changes? Have you any advice for getting back into the right mindset at a later time? Or is the opportunity simply lost?
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I usually get more and more witchier the longer it is postponed.
If I know the reason why it is postponed, I am fine to wait for it. And DH will spank me, no matter what. If I don't know the reason and simply think he forgot, than I get really bitchy because I think he doesn't care about me and simply forgot. Just writing this, it sounds stupid to behave that way...
We try not to put a spanking off for more than 24 hours because apparently I get really edgy waiting. He's planned on spanking me and hasn't told me before so that I wouldn't fret over it.
When a spanking has to be postponed, I know it's my responsibility to remember to do it later. It's not good for P, though, because she becomes more and more unstable the longer she has to wait.
My only advice is (if possible) give a timeframe for the spanking. P is never a hundred-percent, but she's better knowing when it will happen.
Her mindset is always fine when we come back to it. It's mine that needs adjusting. The longer the wait, the less-inclined I am to do the thing up right.
We are both firm believers in routine, so a scheduled spanking is rarely missed. But if, due to circumstances beyond our control, it doesn't take place, then we always reschedule it to another convenient time in the not-too-distant future.
Fortunately or unfortunately, depending on your perspective, when the appointed day for a spanking comes and goes, it may be a week or more before there is another. Given the general pace of life, the opportunities for time alone for Anne to "take care of business" don't come along with great regularity
The only reason my spankings have been postponed in the past is because we've been in public. This has happened on several occasions. Each time my lover has whispered the threat of baring me right then & there and punishing me in front of others. My head knows he's too modest to do this, but my libido does not. The prospect gets me so excited, every little look from him makes me short of breath, an innocent little butt-pat makes me tingle. So that, by the time we do get down to business, I'm REALLY into it, and randy as hell immediately afterward.
Jean Marie
When it comes to erotic spankings theres rarely a need for it to be postponed. Simple heat of the moment as we are in the moment already type of thing. As for discipline spankings, sometimes they do need to be postponed because either we are away from one another (texting etc), our child is around, we are in public, etc. When a spanking has to be postponed it drives me crazy. I am on complete edge. I just want to get it over with NOW. I dont like the anticipation of waiting for one especially when I know its for punishment and I have dissapointed my Sir. I perfer to have the slate wiped and be reset right away.
When the time comes we are both good at getting into the mindset though. Actually if anything now that I think of it, those kind I probally submit better to because I have had time to think about it and I really know I deserve it and I just want the slate wiped.
-Melly
If we miss a spanking, we wait until we know we will have a time when we can both be emotionally in the right headspace for the spanking.
We simply reschedule for the next day if possible. There are often times when having others around don't make it possible to take care of things when we want to. It does cause me angst but I decided a while ago that like everything else in a messy life, we are grown ups and we have to act like it. Sometimes that means waiting and it can be a good thing at times. When we finally get some alone time together we are both more resolved.
Because of our current living situation - regular spankings - scheduled spankings - are just not on our agendas.
And right now with W busier than a one armed paper hanger - I have no idea when the next one will happen - hell I don't even see a blip of one on my radar.
To be honest - it makes me very cranky - then angry with myself - because I know.. KNOW.. that if a spanking was possible - it would happen.
So I hang on by my fingernails until an hour or so can be found for "us" ........ and then all is right with the world again.
P knows I get edgy when a spanking is postponed so he always tries to make sure it happens within a day or two. He never forgets I'm due a spanking.
Love,
Ronnie
xx
For me, my disciplinarian isn't someone I see on a daily basis or anything like that, so spankings/punishments don't take place on the spot (except for a few occasions) and they usually have to be postponed for a little bit. This can be irritating because it's something you want to be over and done with so the slate can be clean, but I think the most important part is knowing that there is consistency there so that it will take place when it can. It'd be worse to question whether or not it will take place at all.
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