A maintenance spanking is neither disciplinary nor recreational. It is focused instead upon the well-being of the recipient and the relationship. The spanking itself is typically fairly intense and generates considerable residual soreness.
Some couples schedule maintenance spankings at regular intervals. Others employ them as needed. In either situation, the objective is to provide balance, preserve peace of mind, re-establish communication, and reconnect the partners. Our question this week examines whether and how couples utilize maintenance spankings to enhance their relationships.
Do you and your partner employ maintenance spankings? If so, in what circumstances and how effective are they? If not, would you consider this practice? Why or why not?
If you would like to submit a contribution to our brunch discussion, I invite you to leave a comment below. Once everyone has provided their responses, I will publish an edited summary of our discussion.
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I get a maintenance spanking once a week, it is a priority. Master sees it as a reminder that I am not in charge and as a deterrant to a punishment spanking. I see it as peace of mind.
abby
We absolutely do use 'maintenance' or 'resssurance' spankings, generally about twice a week. They have become the cornerstone of our Dd marriage!
I think what we do is more of pseudo-maintenance as I ultimately have control over it. Probably most people doing Dd would just consider it recreational spanking, but it makes an adjustment in my head anyway so it might as well be maintenance. Works for us!
I think I get spanked often enough (not punishment) that I don't require maintenance spankings.
Our spankings are purely recreational, but we do engage in them on a regular basis, and they are very necessary for my well-being. They help me unwind, relax, and reconnect with my husband. They aren't maintenance spankings in the DD sense, but they are very beneficial to our relationship.
For the past two months, we've scheduled a maintenance night once a week. Beyond the benefits of simply setting the tone for the week ahead, I've noticed that I no longer have intense headaches. Go figure. :)
How did you know that this is ALL we've talked about at my house this week? Yes, we do these two times a week and since we started them, punishment spankings are few and far between. I think things would get topsy-turvy if we were to give them up.
Yes, Daddy gives me maintenance spankings, but it usually ends up being a "paintenance" spanking, maintenance + punishment = paintenance....killing two birds with one stone and all;)!
Love,
Kitty
I'll give Grace a maintenance spanking about 3 to 4 times per week. They help refocus her and put her in the correct headspace. The biggest benefit though is the fact that her anxiety will lessen after one of these spankings. So for us, they are basically therapeutic.
I don't get dedicated maintenance spankings. I get spanked arbitrarily nearly every night, though, and there are times when I use that to focus myself in the way that you've described. I've gotten "reminder" spankings in the past-- spankings that were meant to keep my mind focused on accomplishing a particular task or minding a rule which I hadn't been giving enough focus to in the past couple of days.
How great is your timing with this discussion. We are missing each other and needing to reconnect and he feels a spanking is the answer and I agree. If I haven't been getting into trouble the last few weeks, so spankings have not been necessary. YAY! And our sex spankings haven't been going on much either since we haven't been able to do much of that either. I miss my husband and I miss my spankings and we might just have to do maintenance or something because I don't want to brat to get in trouble.
I think our situation is the same as Hermione's. We have regular "fun" spankings 5 or 6 days a week if not every day, which keeps us pretty much on an even keel. I believe they contribute greatly to the increased closeness we've had over the last 4 years or so.
J and I have scheduled maintenance spankings once a week. I'm glad we do because I'd hardly ever get spanked otherwise. Why is that? Because I'm so well behaved, duh! Lol. The spankings aren't particular hard but having them does help me to de-stress and feel more centered when it's been a while.
We tried maintenance (or "practice", as I liked to call it). We didn't really stick with it. But we've never had a true punishment - just played around with some minor corrections - so all of mine have been either practice or purely erotic. Obviously, we are still figuring all of this out.
Having said that, I would like once-a-week practice to 'reset' our relationship and keep the threat of spanking in my mind.
oh wow, your timing for this week's topic is scary. I had my first proper maintenance last night. It was intense and harsh and he wouldnt stop until he was ready to stop, as opposed to stopping when I ask. Hmmm another step forward for my Sir. The maintenance was just before bed, which followed a punishment earlier in the day. I think its going to work wonders, I really do. Im going to post a blog about it later ;)
love and hugs kiwi xxxx
When we were together, Davey gave me a maintenance spanking every morning to set me up for the day ahead and remind me to behave. Typically, it was not harsh, it was just enough for me to not want a harder repeat later!!!
When I lived alone, he used to make me self spank while on cam with him...I hated that. Fortunately, one of my kids moved back home with me, so that stopped! Interesting question! xxx
I'm (of course) late, but I thought I'd comment anyway. :)
I've not been in a relationship where this would come in to play, but I find myself intrigued by the notion. I'm perhaps a bit uppity, and it seems that may be an interesting dynamic for reminding me who wields the paddle. ;)
I have considered having maintenance spanking sessions for both my wife and myself on several occasions. That fact that as of late we have become two very stressed out individuals, maintenance spankings may be required to keep us somewhat sane!
I do see the merits of maintenance spankings. I have suggested them for some of our friends as well.
no maintenance spankings here, all r given under the discipline label and all r painful with considerual soreness afterward. i love it that way. she says it makes me think of her everytime i sit down! not far from the truth!
We do not have a label, however judging by your definition my wife and I do use maintenance spankings. Such as when I ask for it, or she does, or either of us decides that it would be good to spank, just do it, put the clothes back on, and then we go about our things, with all well in the world, and at peace again. No set time or interval, just opportunistic.
And then there is the other kind of spanking, deliberately executed as prelude to other fun. Both hurt all the same though, spanking is meant to hurt, no?
We do not use spanking as discipline
Since my relationship is long distance, the idea of maintenance spankings doesn't really work because we only see each other every few months and when we do, we take care of any discipline first, and then we just play copiously until it's time to go home.
When I was in a different relationship, one much closer to me, maintenance spankings didn't really work. I went with them because he wanted them, not because I needed them. When that relationship died, so did the idea of maintenance spankings.
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