Was there a moment when you knew that spanking would always be a part of your life? Was there a specific event or realization that brought you to this conclusion?
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As the spanker, I can say about two years ago I spontaneously held what I called "slave night" with my wife. I told her she had to do everything I demanded for the evening. At one point she touched my cock without permission and I spanked her for the first time, a mock punishment for not asking permission, and from that first slap two years ago, I knew I was hooked. We had already been married three years at that point so I was really really lucky that she was fine with it, and has since come to enjoy a good spanking!
My moment was when Jake told me he wouldn't spank me and I had never been so disappointed. I didn't realize how much that kind of attention meant to me until I was told it wouldn't be a part of our lives. Lucky for me, we reconsidered :)
For me, I think it was the first time that I found that spanking turned me on which was in the second grade (although I couldn't define "turned on" then. I just had a burning feeling when my pretty second grade teacher picked up a classmate, put him over one knee while leaning against a wall and gave him a birthday spanking, From that point on, spanking was always at the center of my nocturnal fantasies, my explorations in various media and finally in play beginning in the seventh grade. Never stopped.
First time I came from a spanking. HOOKED!!!!
The enjoyment of spanking has always been a part of who I am. It has turned me on for as long as I can remember, so there wasn't any event that suddenly opened my eyes. It's nice to know that I'm not alone in my preference.
I knew from about 10 that it fascinated me, but after it was a disaster in my first marriage, didn't expect it to be part of my life again. Then, when I met Davey, and after some sexy exploration on the internet, and discussion on the subject with him, and some experimenting, I knew it was here to stay! xxxxxx
Bonnie, while as a school-boy in England, a female teacher that I had a crush on, came late to school. Since, excessive lateness was punishable by spankings. I dreamed, that this female hearthrob of mine, deserved to be spanked. In my opinion, she deserved 'six of the best', the very best strokes of the cane, on her bare bottom, delivered by me.
In my teenage years when I realised that I simply had to get my hands on a Janus, Februs or Roue magazine & devour it {You know in the way teenage boys do! ;) .... also when it dawned on me that I only really fancied girls if their bottoms met my exacting standards !! ........ If only I'd had chance to spank them all !! MarQe x
For me, it was when I first fell in love with a lovely lady who was also a Spanko. I knew right away a vanilla relationship was never going to work for me, and spanking was always going to be a mainstay of my life and any future relationships.
The lady, alas, is no longer with us, but the realization remains....
The point when I realized that it was something that was going to be with me forever happened in a Psychologist's consulting room. After extensive consultations we had traced the point when I stopped being able to cope with the normal downsides of life back to the time, just over three years previously, when I had given up the spanko lifestyle. I can't remember the exact words that she used but it was something like this, in a strong Africana (South African) accent.
"For God's sake man. All you need to do, to cope with life, is to go out and get your bottom smacked now and then. What the bloody hell did you give it up for?"
She had a very surprising "Pull yourself together" approach to human nature, that was not what I had expected, before actually having counseling and was right about the spanking, even though I think that she was vanilla (as far as I could tell). It was when she said that, that I realized that TTWD was going to be with me always and would never go away.
Prefectdt
I was given a bare bottom spanking at about age seven. I knew almost immediately that I wanted another and have been craving them ever since. I'm 62, now, and am fortunate to have an accomodating wife.
For me, I had an occasional babysitter when I was pre-adolescent who was beautiful, dark, sexy, and I fantasized about her nightly. I most enjoyed dreaming of spanking, even whipping her. In high school, I dated a dark haired, sultry beauty who liked to tease. I put up with it for a while, but soon got fed up with her games, and pulled her over my lap. Imagine my surprise when she smiled and bared her own bottom invitingly!
Keiter
My experience was very different. I always felt like a freak for fantasizing about being spanked or punished. In elementary school I saw a female peer spanked in front of the class and was both horrified and mesmerized. It wasn't until I was almost through college that I reluctantly shared with a boyfriend my fantasies, almost in tears, terrified that he'd be repulsed by me. He spanked me very hard and I fell deeply in love.
Jean Marie
The interest had always been there, but it wasn't until searching the internet a few years ago that I found a group of like minded people and realized there was a lifestyle for all this. After sharing all of it with my husband, we tried it out and have been doing it ever since.
I believe I have had an interest since I was five. I would avoid it as much as possible, though. By the time I was in middle school, I had played out some fantasies with a couple of friends, but nothing really intense. I did have a therapist spank me which should not have happened. I was in my early 20s at the time.
Right now, at age 61, I am still unsure about TTWD and if it will be a part of my life. I know it won't go away and that bothers me, as I am sure you all understand. I don't have a partner and I am going to seek out a professional for the first spanking by someone who knows what they are doing. It will be interesting to see what happens and how I feel about it.
As long as I can remember spanking to me is sexuality. I have often over the years been forced to hide that part of me to find some acceptance and one of the benefits of growing older is that I don't really care what others may think of that.
Sex since I had any idea what that was at all has been a priority for me. As important as breathing. Currently I am in a vanilla marriage, 14 years worth and I still find it better than being alone.
Since I am an eternal optimist I still will not yield.
I started blogging because I was getting desperate and found this amazing online community. I have to say that even lurking around the edges of your worlds is better for me than trying to hide myself away. I had to exaggerate the possibility that I might make some money this way but realistically I have never written or done anything like this before.
I am still an optimist and want to spank or be spanked by my wife more than anything.
Thank you Bonnie you have helped me in many ways.
Emanuele aka Cranky Spanker
Like some of the other correspondents I first realised that I was interested in spanking when I saw one of my classmates slippered in gym class. I was fascinated by her her red gym shorts and the squirming of her bottom. Nothing much happened for a few years and then I discovered that there were magazines devoted to the punishment of women and I started buying as many as I could afford. Also at this time I realised that I was also interested in being spanked by women. That was many years ago and since then I have been lucky enough to spank a few ladies and to meet my mistress who certainly knows how to treat a naughty boy.
I'd always enjoyed a swat or two during sex, it heightened the experience and thereby the orgasm. But this summer as Hubby and I have begun to take our BDSM thing a bit more seriously I find that spanking is my favorite part. I enjoy the bondage and the following orders and the other forms of submission, but when that first swat lands hard I'm in the zone. I also love that it lingers afterwards. Even without marks and bruises, that tingly heat lasts for hours. Mmmmmm. That's how I discovered I'm a Spanko!
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