Do you agree that any woman for whom the bottom is an erogenous zone can be aroused by spanking?
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Not every woman no
I would think they would have to have some inclination to pain ....erogenous zones have nothing to do with pain... for example my breasts are erogenous zones but don't you dare hurt them!!!
I do not consider my ass an erogenous zone - but ohhhhhh yeah baby !! I do love spankings!
Oddly I am not sexually aroused by spanking. I am energized, relaxed... the idea and the dynamic is arousing but I need sensuality to actually get the motor running. Perhaps my bottom is not an erogenous zone.
Yes, if one's interested in play, fun, sensual and erotic spankings. No, if one's desire is discipline and punishment -- which is psychological rather than sexual though may have sexual overtones. I've introduced many to the joys of spanking who never knew that it could be arousing. But those who don't derive sexual pleasure from their bottoms -- spanking is no fun.
Definitely. The sensations of being spanked can quickly turn from painful to pleasurable, even if the transition is unexpected. I'm no expert on physiology, but that particular region is very susceptible to erotic stimulation from pain that other parts of the body (like breasts) aren't.
That's the nature part. From the nurture perspective, if a woman has been physically abused in the past, she might not welcome or appreciate spanking, even if it did have the potential to excite her.
I think for any woman who's bottom is an erogenous zone, that the possibility is there.
The success or failure of the foray into spanking would rest mostly on the spanker, wouldn't it? How well he knows his spankee, and his skill level? I know from personal experience that even things I normally like, can be mishandled.
Not being in possession of a woman's bottom, mine is 100% male and I suspect therefore a little physiologically different from my female counterparts, I cannot accurately answer this question. I am however interested in reading the answers of the other commenters.
Prefectdt
I doubt if everyone will be aroused, but that is not the point. The arousal may come later as the lady realises that of the two people who are in that bedroom, she is the one who is not in control.
Physically, I think any woman could enjoy a spanking as she nears orgasm. During those critical moments, pain is interpreted as pleasure, particularly in that region of the body.
However, I don't think that every woman who enjoys getting a butt massage would enjoy spanking. There's, as other commenters mentioned, a deeper psychology at play.
To be honest, I never thought about my bottom in the sense of being an erogenous zone, until I finally embraced the fact that with the right man, I am submissive, and that spanking forms part of the relationship.
I still do not like the actual spanking, but the feeling before and afterwards is where the arousal factor does come into play. But as Pink has stated, and all the other commentators - there are more than one factor at play.
In that I do believe that woman that do find the bottom an erogenous zone, will not necessarily be aroused by a spanking - arousal out of more than just the physical element.
i know for myself the answer would be a resounding yes.
but i also agree with others here it is very much an individual thing.
Anne
I wouldn't agree. It's possible for a woman to an issue with spanking or pain. She really likes having her bottom played with, rubbed, touched and so forth... THAT is a big turn on... but start spanking and it triggers something else. That's probably more the exception than the rule though. If a woman enjoys having her bottom stimulated, chances are spanking play will work as a turn on (even if it's very light spanking).
The biggest erogenous zone though is the brain, and if there is something there that says spanking is wrong... that's going to trump anything else.
Todd and Suzy
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I think that all women who's butts are erogenous like to be slapped there a bit, but the occasional love tap is a far cry from what we consider a spanking.
I think that to be a submissive spanko, you need to be a masochist to some extent. I suppose spankees might be the overlapping area in a Venn diagram of Sensitive Bottoms + Sexual Masochism. Like most personal traits, its a combination of factors.
I couldn't tell you how common it is, but I have known a couple of women who were not into at all into getting a "spanking," but loved the surprise and passion of having the occasional slap mixed in with other kinds of touch on the behind.
Bonnie, have you ever led a brunch discussion on how being a spanko is defined?
My guess would be no, some are just not going to be into spanking even if they are aroused by having their bottoms caressed, massaged or whatever. That's hard for me to imagine since I like it all, but I'm sure not every woman would.
(I missed out on the Nature vs. Nurture brunch, I think it's a little of both.)
Make Mine Red
I agree with Todd and Suzy, the greatest erogenous zone is the mind. If the mind finds stimulation in the act of spanking, whether that be before, during or after the event, then the owner of the sensuous derriere will be aroused. For me the anticipation is an essential part of the pleasure and that is triggered by suggestive words or even the tone of voice, long, long before my bottom is ever touched. Our minds make us the individuals that we are, so there will never be a 'one size fits all' answer to your question.
Hugs,
Velvet <3
No, I can't say I agree with that statement. it perhaps increases the odds a little, but it's hardly a sure thing. Spanking is very much about a mind set and an emotional set in addition to the physical side of it. Without the first two components, or at least some combination of the three, she might enjoy a light smack or two, but a full-fledged spanking? I think it's doubtful.
Very interesting question and responses. Thank you.
I can't speak for every woman who has an arousable bottom, and for me, the sensations of punishment and play spanking are very different. Yes, punishment is most definitely more of a psychological experience. And play spanking, though painful, is always sensual and sexual both. However, I think every woman who likes a playful slap on the arse really ought to give it a try. You just never know where it's going to lead...mmmm...rum raisin anyone?
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