Sunday, August 03, 2008

MBS Spanko Brunch #133


Welcome back, dear brunchers! Today is Sunday and it's time to consider another aspect of our favorite subject. Our topic today involves sharing your internet experiences with your partner. Thanks to Hermione for the suggestion.

To what extent is your partner aware of your activities in the "spankosphere?" In other words, does he or she know that you blog, post comments, trade instant messages, or participate in forums or chat rooms related to your spanking interest? If they know, how do they react to your involvement? If they don't know, are you concerned about the consequences of being discovered?

If you would like to join in the fun, all you need to do is enter a message below. Once everyone has had their turn, I will post an edited summary here on MBS. So, please tell us what you think!

19 comments :

Thomas_III said...

Being as "out" as I am about my spanking interests, it would be hypocritical of me to hide my activities from those that I'm close to. I've never had any trouble from this, even when those activities included cyberplay in chatrooms or looking for new playmates through personals. It's a part of who I am, and they have always understood that.

Naomi said...

My husband isn't quite a 'spanko' just yet, he's still embarking on the journey but he's getting there. As far as him knowing all of what I do, he has an idea. He knows I have a blog, I've shared the link with him.. but I don't think he reads it. He knows I participate in forums, and have friends that I talk to over I.M.
Sometimes he's a bit weary about it, and I think it's because he's not quite sure of how the whole 'spanko community' works.
We are currently seeking a disciplinarian, because he's just joined the army.. but this is a big step for him. He is sort of becoming more involved with the search, so everyday I am more and more 'out' about the things I do in the 'spankosphere'.

But before he was more involved, I did sort of keep it a secret. I guess I was just scared of his reaction. I would close the windows everytime he walked in, and still do sometimes. But, again, I think it's mostly just that I'm scared of his reaction. Because even though he's slowly transforming into a spanko himself, he still firstly thinks with his vanilla brain.

Sorry it's so long!

-Naomi

dragonmage said...

My partner (luvbunny) is very aware of my activities, as she is involved in them. ^_^ We both blog, and chat online, but we don't hide any of these activities from each other.

abby said...

Hi Bonnie and everybody!

Mr. Williams and I always share our Internet travels with one another. Honestly, there are days when I'm tired and I just don't want to know! But we are both short on time lately, and we try to "make the rounds" when we can, and fill each other in on what everybody's up to. We both have sites we tend to gravitate towards (though we both come here!), so it allows us a freedom to fill each other in on the whole of what's going on in the spankosphere.

Thanks to tabs, we also will occasionally leave windows open for the other to find, be it featuring toys or a blog we haven't encountered before. I really do have the perfect partner for Internet adventures and otherwise. :-)

xo,
Abby

Anonymous said...

My husband knows I like spanking, but doesn't know I participate here or look at anything related to spanking, be it pictures, stories, etc. There are some times when I quickly push a button and open up something else or close Internet Explorer really fast so he doesn't find out. He already knows I like spanking (and sometimes does it), but I can't put my finger on why I don't want him knowing I blog here and look at the pictures I do.

Anonymous said...

My vanilla husband knows I read blogs. I have tried to get him interested in them as well to help him understand. He knows I like spanking. I do think if I had a blog I would be hesitant to let him read. Reading others musings is different than reading mine, I would be embarrassed.

C

pmduo said...

He knows that I read a lot of blogs and sometimes comment. He isn't really interested in on-line stuff but I like to send him particularly interesting posts/articles, especially ones with new ideas! Someday maybe I'll blog about spanking but I think he probably wouldn't like that to much!

Daisy said...

Hi, Bonnie! and all! back from holidays now!
My fiance knows I read this blog; I introduced it to him, as he was unsure whether it was right to spank me, it was a worryingly abusive practise to him....so I asked him to read Bonnies tutorials, and WOWWW, he became a wonderful HoH and disciplinarian within hours!!!!! Now he can't imagine any other way! I have a tendency to be bossy, and bratty, and cheeky, and sarcastic..(need I go on?)and I explained to him, he could either be HoH or henpecked...lol
He sometimes comments on these brunches, too, and once, after he had sent me to bed, I sneaked on here after saying goodnight to him, and posted a comment. Unfortunately, he also came on after saying goodnight to ME;(its much earlier in the evening in the States)and saw I had JUST posted it, and I got in trouble, oops! I blame you, Bon, for being so addictively readable! But, yes, we are on a learning journey together...and its great fun and verrrrry sexy! hugs, xxx

RPT said...

We sit side by side on identical twin iMacs (surfing for spanko stuff) working and chatting about what we are doing so it's next to impossible to keep anything secret.

MP and RPT

Radagast said...

My wife Sandy and I met in the scene and are both active in it. We both have play partners (aside from each other) and are pretty much aware of every single thing the other does when it comes to spanking play.

PK said...

I didn't tell Nick when I first started reading. After I started my blog and I realized he was reading it I was a little upset - even though I had never tried to hide it. Now I love that he reads is as well as most of my friends.

As I go through my list each morning I will nearly always fine something I especially like and say "Don't forget to check out Bonnie or Eva" or someone else.

I really do not understand men who know that there wives have or read blogs on this topic and they do not read them themelves. Guys - you have a window into how your gal feels and thinks, what she wants and is willing to do. My feelings would be hurt now if Nick knew all that information was out hre and just didn't bother to read it.

Can you imagine telling your spouse "There is something so very important to me. Something I need and want so badly but it is very hard to tell you could you please read an article or two that explains it better than I can." Now really if you spouse said that can you imagine saying "No thanks I don't want to bother." I would really be hurt.

PK

fanny said...

Bonnie-
I think that without blogs, especially yours, I would still be unspanked! My journey into the spanko world began the same as many other accounts I have read. I googled spanking, found a lot of scary stuff, then found your site. From your links I found many other sane and fun blogs. Having articles that explained TTWD in a mature, intelligent way to share with my husband made it so much easier to come out to him.
I love sharing blog stuff I have found when Hubs gets home from work! Sometimes it is still uncomfortable for me to discuss what I want or need openly, so I show him blog posts that do it for me! Makes it easier. Actually I think that at times, I might be "topping from the bottom", but ssshhh, we won't tell him that will we?

Greenwoman said...

Hey Bonny...Nice question Hermione!

Yes my husband is aware of my blogging. In fact sometimes he helps me pick music or Jiggles.

His response to it all is arousal. It enhances our intimacy.

Hermione said...

Even though I suggested today's topic, I seriously considered skipping brunch so I wouldn't have to reveal my guilty secret to you.
My husband knows I read spanking blogs and comment on them, and that I have a special email account for blogging correspondence. He no longer asks me "who's Bonnie?" or "what's a blog?" He enjoys the blogs with pictures when I send him links to posts I think he'll like, or leave one for him to see on our computer.

My husband doesn't know about the guest posts I have done here and on other blogs. Nor does he know that Hermione's Heart is my blog, or that thousands of readers know him as Ron.

It took me a while to feel comfortable with seeing my words in print on this blog. It took more time to make the decision to have my own blog, and getting used to that was quite an adjustment. I weighed the need to tell him everything against the need to do something that is extremely fulfilling, creative and therapeutic for me. Blogging is something I want to do and I couldn't risk being told I couldn't.

Ron has read a couple of my blog posts and liked them. They weren't ones that contained intimate details. I will probably need to seriously consider what the possibilities of telling him might be, then tell him when the time is right and I am prepared to suffer the consequences. He might be extremely angry, but then again, he might not even care. Or he might laugh and think it's silly.

I have never written anything on my blog that I would be ashamed to have Ron read. Embarrassed, maybe, but not ashamed. In fact, I think he might be pleasantly surprised at how highly I regard him, once he got over the initial shock.

Hugs,
Hermione

Jessica said...

Before I "came out" and told him my interests,my husband did not know I was lurking out here. When I told him, he started reading right away. Now he goes through and looks for my comments. Sometimes he even goes on my profile on the PC and looks at my history to see what I am intersted in. I see it as him doing research about what I like. That's a good thing!
-Jess

dieseldiva said...

My slowly converting vanilla husband doesn't have a clue to my internet activities. He did confess that he read a spanking blog the other day but doesn't know which one. He's becoming more open about spanking and tells me that I'm not weird and according to the internet obviously not alone. I'm hoping for LOTS more action in 3 weeks when OUR LAST CHILD MOVES OUT!! (hey I'm not mean, he's 24, it's time!!) I'll be sharing more of my "secrets" at that time.

Terpsichore said...

Hi! My husband knows that I read out here and comment and that I have even shared a story or two, but he has not read from what I am aware, though I have printed a few things he has glanced at. He is happy that I have found friends out here and I share stories with him. Someday perhaps he will read...

Bonnie said...

Randy is generally aware of my internet activities. I typically provide more detail than he needs to hear. He claims that he only occasionally reads this blog, but I know better. All I need to do a make a passing reference about not being spanked for a while and I find myself abruptly upended within a matter of hours.

As for his web surfing, Randy’s tastes are different from mine. While words are my preference, he loves pictures. Realistic spanking photos are first in his heart, but in a pinch, almost any pretty woman will suffice. He often shows me his latest finds and seems puzzled when I fail to match his level of enthusiasm. Oh well. I don’t care whose digital images he collects, so long as he reaches for me when he seeks genuine human flesh.

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