This is Sunday, so it must be time again for our weekly brunch. A big thank you goes to Sarah who brought this delicious rum cake.
Our question this week is a simple one, but one where the answers may help to illuminate our spanko relationships.
Who buys or builds your spanking implements?
If you would like to get in on the fun, I invite you to leave a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will post an edited summary.
26 comments :
Good brunch topic. I guess I would have to say that we both add to our supply. Joe has made some paddles and bought some paddles. I have purchased implements too. We were together in the store when we bought the dreaded bath brush. So we both play a part in building our toy chest.
He makes most of our implements.
It's partly what attracted me to him in the first place it was like 'wow look at all the possibilities here...and they came out of his imagination and his shed...wow' lol.
It means too that everything is designed to be completely right for the purpose and fit correctly, and has a bit love put into it as well and we don't have to worry if the quality is going to be worth the price!
Ok so he doesnt make everything, sometimes he buys things, sometimes i buy them, sometimes we shop together, either way its fun adding to the collection and playing with new things! xx
Mostly I buy them, or tell him about them and then I buy them, or we shop together but still it is mostly left up to me.
I am beginning to think I should be the one to use them too. *wink*
Hugs
Mina
Hi
My wife is not the spanko in our relationship so it is down to me to purchase the implements if I wish her to use them on me. The only things that she will take on her bottom (and with moderation) are my hand and a hairbrush.
She however is more than happy to use whatever I buy on my my bottom.
Michael
A. bought the first two or three when our relationship first started, but since then I've been the one to do implement shopping and purchasing. Sorta fitting into our traditional distribution of labor (i.e. I like shopping; he does it when we're about to starve).
I do most of the online purchasing at my house. We buy some toys on line, but those are mostly sex toys, not spanking toys.
Our spanking toys are either household items purchased for a spanko purpose or my husband makes them.
The paddles he's made lately have been made of mahogany and rock maple, and are really beautiful to my eye. I really enjoy them. The more he makes, the better he gets at making them.
We have something like two dozen of different shapes and sizes.
We are going to do some purchasing this next year for some more leather paddles and I'd like to own one of Patty's paddles and I'm really interested in some canes for otk. Those will all be online purchases of course.
We have both bought different items to use. The most fun is when we are out together and find something that looks promising. Wether it's a hairbrush, or some implement at a kitchen store, or something hanging in an aisle in the grocery store it's fun to see that look of recognition in the other's eyes.
I've also made a few paddles for our use. My favorite is a small hairbrushed sized one that I rounded the back to feel more like a spoon. That one is lots of fun, and I've been meaning to submit it for the implements articles you've been posting.
aka_ireland (Mike)
Since I'm the only true spanko here, I'm also the only one who has ever bought or made an implement. Since I was to shy to buy (or cheap) I desided to make my own. So far I have made two paddles from hardwod, sanded an old worn Jokari paddle I found. I also made a folded 16 inch strap made from a nice wide old leather belt that I came acros in a recykle store. The only bought item is a boar bristle hardwood hairbrush that I bought in a brush store in Viena.(that's right only brushers and combes). Unfortunately my husband doesn't use them as often as I'd like, but just looking at them stir my fantasies and that's not all bad.
I buy the actual toys intended only for spanking. Usual as a gift for an upcoming occasion (like an anniversary) or he would never consent to the cost. He however will go through the kitchen stores and select items we don't necessarily need for the kitchen! He also enjoys finding something in the garage or elsewhere that he thinks will work for taking care of my backside! When he does the above it makes me happy because it shows that he too does enjoy this thing we do.
Apart from one short, slim and amazingly painful, white plastic cane, that was given to me as a present, I have purchased or made everything in the toy box.
I never buy toys on the internet, apart from the fact that I like to feel the weight and texture of an implement before it is acquired, searching out the quality BDSM shops in the back streets of the larger towns is a big part of the fun and has become a bit of a hobby.
Prefectdt
For us it's always been a joint venture. I make the floggers, but he and I love shopping for paddles, slappers, crops, tawses and other stingy/thuddy fun toys!
Hey Bonnie!
Though I'm the spankee, I usually do the purchasing of the implements and surprise my hubby with them!
*hugs*
Paige
We both buy toys. I guess it is an "as the mood strikes" kind of thing. I don't recall, other than on line, getting a chance to shop together.
That would be me. I've ordered a few items from riding equipment and kitchen supply websites. Most of our wooden toys came from local thrift shops. I love to browse the shelves and find a salad spoon or back scratcher in need of a good home.
When I travel to a larger city, I try to visit at least one adult toy store to look for new implements although I seldom find any on display. Our wood collection is more than ample but I'm on the lookout for more leather implements.
Hugs,
Hermione
P.S. The cake was delicious!
He purchases most of what we have/use. He is a stickler for "quality" implements (professionally crafted), and honestly, since they are going to be landing on my ass, I prefer good quality as well.
Our new cane is from Adam and Gillian's. The floggers all came from DeTails (back in the early days). Most of the paddles are either from Hanson Paddles or from The Toybag. His singletail (my one purchase) was chosen especially for Him from Snakepit Leathers.
We have some furniture items: a spanking bench and a wooden stock that were purchased online. Likewise, the massage table was an online purchase. Our flogging frame is my design, and is homemade.
swan
As Nick warmed up to the idea of spanking he made some wonderful toys for us. A crop, a flogger and a paddle to name a few. Most of the store bought items I have bought. Mostly because I am the one thinking about it as I go through stores and I am the one in the family that buys on line.
But I love, love, love when he brings home something he has found. It make me so happy to know he is thinking about me in this way. It really means a lot!
We keep a limited collection, the greater certainty of knowing what each means and where it fits in the reprimand hierarchy makes it more effective. Those that were not part of the household already, K has bought, although once on holiday I was sent out to buy a new belt; quite unfair given I knew what it was going to be used for when I got back.
We recently had walnut flooring installed downstairs, 4 inch boards and K insisted on keeping some offcuts. She mentioned DIY project for me when I asked about them.....
I love making new toys!
Wood and Leather especially.
She loves leather...
Thick, stiff, wide and strong for the most wallop and thud. We enjoy a variety of straps, leather paddles, and slappers.
Though I would never claim that the making is more fun than the using, there's something deeply romantic and personal in becoming fully involved in the creation of perfectly made hand crafted toys!
I even learned to braid leather whips and quirts to add to our diverse arsenal!
In our house, we both share the joys of obtaining new implements. When it comes to making them, T is the one that takes care of that usually and when it comes to buying them, it's usually me though we discuss it and choose what we want together most times. Sometimes I surprise him though and that can be a lot of fun too. Good question!
~D~
Hi Bonnie,
So far both Dan and I have both purchased toys. We haven't made any, I can't imagine that I would ever have the skill to do that, but Dan could.
I am still too embarrassed to go into a store, so Dan does those purchases. I am the online girl!
-Jess
Well my immediate response was "He's the man, he chooses what he uses on me". Mostly he uses his hand, or belt, and he's bought a cane that he threatens me with regularly, I get wet at the very thought but we've yet to play that game properly.
And, even despite my stance that he controls this, I tend to purchase suggestive things like new belts or new hairbrushes and then feign surprise when he quickly thinks of a new use for them. Improvisation is fun!
When we switch, he's still in control and asks for what he needs. The things used are the same.
~elle~
Let's see now....... some of our toys have been Christmas gifts from me to Sir.. or Sir to me..
Some have been 'perverted' from dollar stores and kitchen stores......
Some have been purchased (like this weekend) together at a specialized shop........ we have a favourite one that keeps their spanking toys upstairs out of sight of the regular customers.. and they allow you to try out a specific toy (over clothes of course!!)
And i have made a couple of rather nice floggers..... And we do receive gifts of floggers/whips etc from other friends that make quality toys.....
morningstar (owned by Warren)
Shopping for implements is definitely a shared task between myself and Mr. Williams. As I am fond of writing about, one of our favorite weekend and vacation past-times is seeking out shops of antiques and collectibles. We've found barber strops of varying weights and texture, various items that can be used as paddles (clothes brush, butter paddle, a gorgeous lacquered wooden spoon), even walking sticks that double as especially firm canes. For those not comfortable with going to adult shops, this is a very sexy and often rewarding alternative.
We also enjoy shopping together online. Even those items that are presents are chosen together. We can't even decide who the objects are for, they are that shared! I consider them for him, to be used on me. He says they are for me, to be used upon me by him.
I love having a story behind each implement. Although we do not actually handcraft our own toys, I think as much love goes into finding them as would go into making them.
Good Question!
We both typically purchases the implements. He researches and we then look together on the internet and decide together that it would be one we want to purchase. So he does the most work, but we purchase it together :-)
Carye
Hubby and I don't have much of a collection yet since we only started talking about spanking around Christmas and actual spanking fun only started happening a few weeks ago. God gets the credit for Hubby's masterful hands. The next toy was a leather paddle I made from some pieces of leather left over from another project and a plastic kids' paddle. Hubby and I both thought to add his belt to play. Hubby has mentioned he plans to make a few leather toys. I have plans to make a few floggers to try out. Hubby has picked up the odd wooden spoon or dinner plate and swatted me in the kitchen, but nothing of that sort has really made it's way into a spanking yet. I wasn't sure if Hubby was really enjoying the spanking or just doing it for me until he started doing things like that. It's nice to see, and feel, him getting into it too. We've even just started giving each other knowing looks as we're shopping and we pass by seemingly innocuous kitchen utensils and the like.
I guess the answer is really that we both are enjoying suggesting new toys, making them and making plans to shop together.
Both Randy and I purchase spanking implements. He tends to be fond of solid wooden toys that yield a substantial thwack. Not surprisingly, I favor a bit more variety. In final analysis, though, he selects what gets used.
He has made some paddles and we have lots of pervertables (all over the house in fact!). We are saturated with toys, but that doesn’t stop us from picking up something new and different when we see it.
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