Sunday, September 30, 2007

MBS Spanko Brunch #89


Counting out swats as they are delivered is a time-honored spanking ritual. It brings an air of formality to the proceedings. If the recipient is the one counting, it makes her an active participant in her own spanking. Our brunch this week asks your thoughts on counting.

Have you and/or your partner counted strokes during a spanking? If so, did it enhance the experience? To what extent is counting a regular part of your repertoire? If you haven't counted before, would you consider doing so? Why or why not?

If you would like to contribute to our brunch discussion, I invite you to leave a comment below, send me an e-mail, or post a response on your own blog. Regardless of the medium, I would love to hear what you think.

21 comments :

SPANKEDHORTIC said...

Yes I have counted the stokes but I do not like doing this, my mind has other things to concentrate on. If the spanker counts the strokes I find this adds to the experience.

As a footnote, if any spanker referes to me as "her" "she" or "girl" I usualy get very confused LOL.

Prefectdt

Naughtybuttcute said...

I have never had to count my own strokes, I'm not sure if I could. They'd come out 1 part moan, 1 part cuss word, 1 part numeral. For one particularly bad punishment in which I received 80 whacks with a wooden spoon, My Husband counted out loud.

It was very different knowing when the spanking would end. I think it made is less terrifying. An despite the high number of whacks slightly easier to take.

I don't think I would use counting if I were the Dom. I think unpredictability is one of the things that gives them their power.

-Naughtybuttcute
www.sublimesubmission.blogspot.com

D said...

When we first started spanking we never counted the swats, now it is an important part of the ritual. It also gives us a target to see how many I have received. Sometimes I count and sometimes S counts. It adds to the fun for us.

D

galros said...

I hated having to count - especially since it normally meant extra when I lost track or missed one....... it jsut seemed like above and beyond the call of duty for me!!!

In saying that - we never counted in play - maybe that was part of it. It was exceptionally difficult to concentrate on counting as well as abso=rtbing the pain and maintaining position!!

galros

Pagan said...

We never count strokes - he just spanks me until we're done.

Like corner time, this is something I had never heard of or considered before becoming aware of the 'community'.

It would feel contrived to me, and would serve as a distraction, not an enhancement. For that reason, I have no interest in going there. :)

luna said...

I have posted my reply to your Brunch Topic on my blog. You can read it here: http://www.the-iron-gate.com/blog/2007/09/29/counting-strokes/

Thanks!

Dove said...

I do not have to count and I'm not sure if ML would think of it, not yet anyway. If he added it later as part of a roleplay then I would go along with it as I can imagine it would work for that situation. In general though due to erotic nature of our spanking adventures I don't know how clearly he would get the count anyway.
Hugs
Dove

Erik said...

I've not asked my other half to count yet. She's not sufficiently into the role-play for that. I like the idea of it though..

Caylee said...

Normally he'll just spank me until he feels I've gotten a good bottom-warming. I agree with what's been said by a couple people - not having a clear end point certainly adds to the whole experience.

That said, James always has me count if we're doing a scene like schoolgirl/headmaster or for a punishment spanking for a very serious infraction. These spankings normally use the cane or tawse and follow a very formal ritual. Since those implements, specifically the cane, are so severe that I can't take a whole bunch, I count to add to the weight of the spanking.

New Beginnings said...

I have been told to count a very few times. I don't like to count out loud because I too find that distracting. But I often count in my head. I think I would like him to count once and a while.

Lucy said...

I've never had to count strokes, but I've counted them in my head, especially when he tells me how many strokes in advance. To be honest, I'm not sure if I could do it...

On a different topic, I just want to say thanks to Bonnie and everyone else for making me feel welcome!

Paige Tyler said...

The spankings I get are completely sensual and not disciplinary at all, unless my hubby and I are roleplaying, but yes, we've counted spanks. I think it's really fun!

*hugs*
Paige

Jujubees said...

I hate to count the strokes! I think that about covers it... However I've heard that sometimes we love that which we say we hate. So maybe somewhere deep down I secretly like it. NO, now that I think about it, I really don't think so.

Paul said...

Bonnie, yes we started off by counting punishment spankings, but Mel found it very hard to count accurately and she hated it anyway.
As punishment spanking became rarer, she was told how many strokes of the cane or tawse she had earned and I counted.
In the last twenty-five or so years the only times she counted was during birthday and anniversary spankings but during those there was so much giggling and laughter that I doubt that the count was accurate.
As the vast majority of our spankings were very erotic, she wouldn't have been able to count.
Warm hugs,
Paul.

hermione said...

Our play is neither formal nor ritualized, never for punishment, and we don't role-play, so up till now neither of us has ever counted. I am quite content to lose myself in the erotic sensations, and if I had to count out loud I would turn into an observer. I'm curious to know how many I get, and sometimes plan to count them silently, but somehow I always get distracted!

Counting might be helpful, though, as a way to ask my husband to spank me longer and/or harder. He is OK with my asking, and I think that saying "Six more, hard as you can" would give me what I need without breaking the spell. Counting those might be fun for both of us.

If I can find the courage to ask for a birthday spanking, there would be extensive counting involved!

Mary said...

We have often used counting. Definately count with a one- thank you sir, two - thank you sir - with each stroke of the cane! It does seem to add to the ominous feel of the situation. It also seems to add insult to injury - quite literally!
We also count strokes with other implements. Sometimes he tells me to count - outloud or in my head- it is hard to do so accurately when it stings so bad. If I am off - he has done things like start over. Other times he tells me how many I will get and then does all the counting on his own. At times I try to count along - other times I just trust him to count accurately. There are times when counting adds to the spirit of the "punsihment" other times it is distracting. I can sometimes focus on the counting and "get through" the spanking easier knowing when it will end. In those times - he would actually be wiser to not tell me so that I focus only on the moment. (since that would be harder - I can't say I actually have told him this.)

Anonymous said...

I firmly believe the naughty girl must always thank me for every stroke.

But I am not a proponent of counting -- or making her keep track. As others have said, the naughty girl's mind should be on what a bad girl she has been and why she is being punished -- not mathematics.

-- Bratscorcher

Young Lady said...

Hello Bonnie,
I just posted on this topic with an entry entitled: Count Your Blessings.

Happy Spanking,
L

Caryagal said...

Yes, we do incorporate counting into our spankings. Especially diet ones, a swat for each ounce gained. We also do without counting. I enjoy both ways.

Hugs,

Carye

Bonnie said...

We count sometimes. It’s generally as a part of a roleplay or ritual. To me, counting can add to the feel of a scene and intensify the emotions generated.

No matter who keeps the count, the actual number of strokes delivered is almost always higher than the announced goal. If he counts, Randy “accidentally” adds some extras. When I count, I tend to lost focus (and count) as soon as an implement strikes my bottom!

Raven said...

I'll count strokes sometimes, but most of the time, I'm doing it silently while I whisper things in the slave's ear.

After each stroke I deliver, my slave must thank me with each stroke. I deliver the strokes in an unpredictable manner. Sometimes, I'll hold off for a while, sometimes, I'll deliver them in rapid fashion. I also like to vary the strength and use different tools. My hand, a wooden spoon, etc.

I find that if the slave counts, no matter how much she enjoys it or doesn't, she's expecting it to end. Psychologically, if she thanks me instead and I vary the speed of delivery, she loses track of how many punishments are coming. Now she has no idea how many more there are and this excites her even more.

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