Sunday, September 24, 2006

MBS Spanko Brunch #36

This is a special occasion here at MBS. Today marks the one year anniversary of the blog. For me, it seems like just yesterday when I published that first tentative post. Yet, it also feels as though I've always been blogging. It's become a part of my life.

Since this is Sunday, there is a brunch to enjoy. I chose a subject that I think you will agree is appropriate for the occasion.

What does spanko blogging mean for you? How much time and effort do you expend creating content? How often do you read spanko blogs? What benefits do you derive from blogging and/or reading blogs? If you don't have a blog, would you consider starting one?

I invite you to submit a contribution to our brunch discussion. Please leave a comment below, send me an e-mail, or post a response on your own blog. Once everyone has provided their responses, I will publish a summary of the discussion.


A.S.S. said...

Not sure how much time we actually spend. Might be scary to add it up! We have a list of blogs... 15 or so... that we check out most every day. Then several others that we look in on a few times a week, as well as checking out new ones we stumble across. Also spend time on Goggle going from one link to the next. Then, there is the time we spend on our own blog. We try to get 6 or 7 new entries a week.

It takes time... but... we usually do this while watching TV. One of us will sit here looking and sharing... while the other watches TV and listens and shares... and then we switch (ha, the only switching around here). So, we cut into our TV time. Hardly a loss.

As for what why we do it... it's interesting, we learn so many new's fun, and exciting... and, this is something we don't share with (many) of our family and friends. So, while we think about it all the time... actually getting to discuss it (outside of with each other) is done in the blogisphere.

btw, congratulation on one year! Awesome, you've been so helpful to us too... thanks so much for everything!

-Todd & Suzy

Snow White said...

Ooooh! I actually checked in early enough to comment AND actually can!

At this point in time, spanking is totally fantasy for me. I don't have a SO in my life, so all I can do is think about it! And I spend a lot of time doing just that! Blogs help me do that! They offer stories, insight, and many more great links. I mostly lurk around them, but I do occasionally post a comment. However, I spend a lot of time visiting!

I do have a blog, and every once in a while I mention spanking. But since I'm not involved in a relationship, and I'm not a writer of fiction, there's not a lot of spanking happening in my blog. But if it ever does happen, I'll be sure to let y'all know! *crossing fingers*

Happy Anniversary, Bonnie! And thanks for keeping up a fantastic blog!


brian said...

Morning Bonnie,

As you know I don't have a spanking blog although Diane and I are in a D/s relationship. I have written spanking poems and a story and mention spanking often. Many of my female friends that read my blogs are spankos. I tell them that they need spankings all the time, and they keep coming back for more. *grins* They like the fact they I treat them with respect and actually listen to their rants without trying to *fix* things. Then they go over my knee. ;)

I usually only read spanko blogs on the weekend. During the week at work I am posting to three blogs daily, commenting on two of those, and there are probably close to 50 blogs that I check on every day, maybe 15 that I comment every post.

Reading My Bottom Smarts and other spanko blogs gave us the courage to try spanking as a way of having a closer marriage. It has been the best thing we have ever done. Thank you Bonnie, Elis and Eva.*smack* On a personal note, I started blogging six months ago, and it has saved my life.

jeanmarie said...

I love reading spanking blogs, and love reading My Bottom Smarts most of all. I used to feel so all alone, sure that I was weird and warped for wanting my fanny spanked often and hard (or often and soft, or just often). Now I know I'm part of a community who share a sexy, spicey kink. Reading this and other blogs turn me on tremendously. I read some daily, some I just check out occasionally. Whenever, I like to play with myself as I read & respond. Sometimes my lover catches me at this, sometimes I go tell him that I've been "unfaithful" by getting-off without him. This always earns me what I crave, an honest to goodness real spanking.
You're a precious part of my life.
Jean Marie

eva said...

Bonnie~ First off, I wish you a very very happy anniversary here at MBS and selfishly wish you many more.

I love blogging but not just about spanking... just about whatever floats my boat at the moment which could be about darn near anything.

When I stumbled onto this community and started my own blog in July, it didn't exactly change my life as we'd been into spanking a few years but it sure has enhanced it. Having made so many friends that share this commonality proves to be encouraging, enlightening, fun, sexy, and sassy. I'm so glad to be here but even more glad that there are so many other wonderful bloggers to play with.

Thanks for all you've done to make this a lifestyle that I now know is within the defines of normal... I may not always know what "normal" is but like many others, I want to be exactly that. Some people might enjoy that "freak in a sideshow" feeling. I'm not one of them. This community has removed that feeling from me.

I read a lot of blogs and comment as much as I can. It's like the modern day version of the 50's neighbors talking over the white picket fence in the back yard. Well... sort of.

How much time do I spend? A lot but I don't watch TV or have any other hobby. This is what I enjoy outside of Adam and my job. I do watch that it doesn't interfere with those things. Beyond that, give me my dang blogs and no one gets hurt!!!


Kayley said...

Happy anniversary, Bonnie! And keep it going! :)

Well, I don't spend too much time with my blog, but when I do, I go on reading blogs and writing for my own for days. That is, when I have time, and now I do.

And about the benefits? I see the blog as a big extension of SSS or a forum. It's better than reading and not putting your two cents in. Besides, people tend to put more soul, I think, in their site, then in someone else's group.

It's also journal, and journals can be deeper than some random post that has to entertain someone. On your own blog, you get to always entertain youself.

PS I hope I don't post twice, but the posting feature has problems for me now and then.

Master Fitznicely said...

Congrats on the Anniversary, Bonnie!

I've had a vanilla blog for...ooh, years, so while the act of blogging isn't new to me, finding a narrative voice for my spanko blog has given me headaches. I hesitate to think how much time I spend, not just creating content, but checking stats, comments, replies to comments I've left on other blogs, following new links, reading others' blogs etc. Got to be a significant part of the time I spend online.

For me, having a blog specifically for the Master/slave aspect of our relationship was a natural extension of the blogging I do anyway. I didn't want to alter the flavour of my established blog, so I simply created Master Fitz. For me - for us, it's a celebration and a sharing (however anonymous) of the most important commitment we could show for each other.

It's also a learning resource and a community of people at all levels of experience and expertise. On our travels through the blogosphere we've found couples that have been practising DD for years, couples that are just taking the first steps and every flavour inbetween. It's a fascinating resource - not to mention a wonderful insight into the thoughts and experiences of like-minded people.

When things are going right, we have people to celebrate with and share the good times with. When things go wrong, there always someone out there who's been there before.

At the end of the day, though, I think it comes down to this:

We're just having too much fun to keep it to ourselves!

jujubees1 said...

Happy Anniversary Bonnie! I enjoy your blog. I have a few blogs that I read regularly, plus a blog of my own that I try to keep up on, but is getting harder to do so! I guess blogging gets in your blood after awhile, both the reading and the writing.

Paul said...

Happy anniversary Bonnie, may there be many more.
I read and comment on a number of blogs. I am considering starting a blog of my own but fear it would consume far too much time.
I read and comment on a good number of blogs, those that I feel are genuine and they must be well written.
When Mel was alive we were sufficient, with our work, unto ourselves.
When she died I became increasingly isolated and lonely, I had no idea how widespread the spanko community was.
Finding the blogospere was both a godsend and an eye opener for me.
I no longer feel so isolated, I can share memories, and I can feel at least relatively normal. *G*
Blogs like CWS, CeeCi's Garden and MBS to mention only three opened a whole new world for me.
I am able to share a lifelong interest in the lifestyle and even help the occasional newbie.
Good topic Bonnie, I always enjoy your Brunch, thanks a brunch er I mean a bunch. *G*

Anonymous said...

I don't have a blog, but I really enjoy reading them, especially yours, Bonnie, and read them regularly!!!


Tiggr said...

Oh, Bonnie, big hugs and congrats to you!! Have you any idea how essential you've been in helping start so much? Not just here in nbloggerland but among friends, relationships, self-realization... the insight you've offered and perspectives you've shared, the lessons learned and questions answered... awe-inspiring doesn't begin to describe it.

I spend too much time blogging but am learning to balance it with my daily activities and duties. It is now beginning to accent my daily life rather then replace it or deprecciate it.

I read a lot, comment whnever and whereever I truly feel that I have something noteworthy to add, and put time and effort into making my blog (and each post) an accurate a vision of me, an extension of myself, even if just at that moment in time, as possible. I don't hide behind my blog or create a personna that I don't feel... that may be confusing to some and overwhelming to others but it is who I am and I need to act from my heart.

Huge hugs to you today... I hope Randy gives you the ass-warming to match all the ass-warmings you've prompted!!

Big hugs,

CeeCi said...

I've been anticipating this day for several weeks now and here it is...your Anniversary and my opportunity to tell you Well Done, Bonnie! You've been an inspiration and a source of information for many of us. Thank you for your consistency, your knowledge, your humor, your honor and your graciousness, you're a shining star in this community!

I'm less than two months away from my first anniversary. Blogging has taught me so many things, not only about myself, but about the beauty of others. I've learned to code (boy have I ever) and have come to love the way I can express myself because of it.

I spend much more time blogging than I really have to spend, but as the television has been unplugged in my home for as long as I've been blogging I do not have that distraction.

Blogging has improved my writing skills, it has been a way to present my photography to the world, it has brought people into my life that I may never meet, but that I cherish all the same. It has been one of the most positive things I've done for myself.

I read daily from a list that fluctuates between 25-30 blogs. I don't comment as much as I once did, mostly because of time constraints and Blogger's recent issues. I do my best to post something everyday as well. My entries are recounts of my life and my challenges. I'm grateful for the outlet that blogging has been for me. It's hard to imagine my day without it.

**Big Hugs**
♥ CeeCi

word verification="anymen";D I think the one I have is just fine!

Mary said...

Congrats Bonnie,
I have only a couple of blogs that I read regularly - yours being one. Most the time I spend only 10-20 minutes on it a day - I just do not have the time for more. When a bit horny board or lonesome I may link to other bloggers from your site or my other favorite site. Reading blogs "normalize" the spanking life - seeing so many very nice and interesting people enjoying spanking is fun. I would never be able to keep up a true blog of my own.

New Beginnings said...

Dearest Bonnie,
There is not enough room in cyber space to explain what finding your blog, and through you all the other, means to me. Because of the courage I have found here I started my own site. All of this has caused me to fall completely head over heels in love with my husband! I feel joy, and excitement every day.

Congratulations on your first year and THANK YOU!


Spanking is a wonderful common thread that runs all thuought this and I love it but, oh, blogging has added so much more than just spankings. I am learning about myself, how to open up and show my feelings. I am becoming a new person and I really like her.

Blogging takes up a great deal of time. Left alone I would spend over 6 hours a day here. Its like a brand new toy and I am sure in time I will cut back and start cleaning and cooking again (maybe). At this time Nick complains little of my time here since we have both benefited so much from it.

Lastly I have to say that the friendship I have found here overwhelms me. I don't read tons of blogs probably no more than 10 to 15 but at this time in my life I would say that most of my closest friends are here.

Congratulations on your first year and THANK YOU!


New Beginnings said...

I screwed up the comment, but I guess you get the general idea!


bella said...

For me, blogging has become a creative outlet for something I didn't think I could really do.

There are about 10 to 12 blogs that I read daily and about that many more that I read a couple of times a week.

Time and effort seem to be leveling off after an initial push to try to put new content up on a regular basis. I have found it works better for me when I am not feeling pressured to write. Then there are the times when I can't stop writing and the posts come rapidly. So I post when I have something to post. :)

The benefits have been numerous. I have truly enjoyed making friends and interacting in the blogosphere.

Congratulations, Bonnie, on your anniversary!

Grace said...

Congrats on your anniversary!!! This is a special day indeed!

My blog is just a space for me to think. Somedays I try and make it funny, others it's just about life. I started it as a journal for me, never thinking people would actually read it.

As for other blogs. I've learned alot from them. I've gotten some great ideas and have met some wonderful friends.

Your blog is terrific! I've enjoyed reading your blog!


Lisa said...

Wow Bonnie has it really only been a year. It is amazing how fast it goes and yes just like you it seems like I have both just started yesterday but at the same time been doing all my life.

I started a blog after reading a couple of blogs about spanking because I wanted to share my expereince. I have a handful of blogs I keep track of but not always check in everyday because I don't have time. Whatever I post to my blog I general take awhile to do because I want to make sure it says what I feel. So an average post takes a minuim of 1 hour.
The Good that has come from this is I have an outlet to share my feelings with not only my spouse but others who may be going thru a simple situation as me.

Looking for to another year of reading your blog and next sundays brunch.

Theresa said...

Congratulations Bonnie. I spend too much time blogging, but I enjoy it so. I love posting my thoughts and writing stories, and getting comments.

I enjoy reading other blogger's post, stories, and laughing out loud frequently.

I have finally learned to balance my blogging with my real life, by learning to do the real life things very very fast so I can get back to blogging!

I have read your blogging smarts and learned alot for these posts. I have also had wonderful support and advice, and blogging help from others all along the way.

I read and comment on close to 10 blogs a day, and add more gradually. I have met some wonderful kind hearted and helpful people.

It has been and enriching experience all around!

veronica said...

happy anniversary bonnie!!! i don't blog myself, but i do read several and yours is a favorite. seeing the huge community of spankos out there has helped me to realize that i'm completely normal and not the freak i thought i once was. i like to get my bottom spanked nice and hard and there's nothing wrong with that!! blogs like yours and others have also helped me introduce my formerly vanilla partner to my world. he adapted very quickly and enjoys giving me spankings as much as i love receiving them. thank you so much for putting your wonderful blog out there and helping the many of us that were once unsure of ourselves and our kink. we love you!!! :-)

Anne Elizabeth said...

Happy Anniversary, Bonnie !!!

The blogging thing is pretty new to me, but I think for me the most fun is that it is both giving and receiving !

Anne Elizabeth

Anonymous said...

What a great brunch topic!

First of all, congratulations on your anniversary! I continue to be amazed at your ability to post such great, on-topic content so regularly. Now that I've started my own blog, I really understand how difficult and time-consuming that can be.

I started my blog as an outlet, to get my thoughts and feelings about spanking (and other things) out in the open. What I didn't expect was finding a community of wonderful women, mostly my age, who were actually living my fantasy. I've learned so much from all of you.

It wasn't that long ago that I had my very first delurk here on MBS. Now I'm reading, commenting and/or writing on a daily basis. Spanking is habit-forming!

Thank you, Bonnie. Your blog has brought us all together.

caryagal said...

Hi Bonnie,

I spend about 1/2 hour or and hour each night reading different spanko blogs. I love them. They make me feel not so "weird". I have thought about starting one, and maybe some day I will, but not yet. I have too many pulls on my time right now with 4 children 7 and under including 2 year old twins, I just can't do it. :-) So for now I'll enjoy your blogs and try to comment often!


Frank Spanko said...

My dear Bonnie -

My answers are as follows:

1. To me, blogging is my life. Since I am an imaginary person, that is the literal truth as I would not exist if not for the fertile imagination of my author.

2. I believe that I speak for my author as well as myself when I say that we review a number of blogs related to our favorite pasttime almost daily.

3. Again, both my author and myself engage in the art of blogging as a way to indulge ourselves and get a little bit of titillation. To those less subtle than I, I said titillation, not having a daily wank in front of the computer.

Furthermore, I believe my creator uses this particular form of expression as a way to share some particular fantasies of his with others of the same ilk.

Suze said...

Bonnie, congratulations on your first year of blogging!

We hope you will be around for many more to come.

Alex & Suze X

Lynette Seelmeyer said...

hi! It looks like you aren't blogging anymore, and that's a shame... I just found this and I love it. My lover and I are in a spanking relationship and have been for a year and I absolutely love it. Thank you for the ideas.

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