Sunday, April 02, 2006

Yet Another Brunch

This is Randy. A hostess I'm not. However, Bon asked me if I would post this week's brunch question for her.

Question: Do you or your partner cry when spanked? If so, how frequently? Are the tears the result of pain, feelings of guilt, emotional release, or some other reason?


Anonymous said...

The answer to that question is, quite simply, no. However, let me add that we don't practice discipline spanking, but only erotic spanking. That's not to say that a person wouldn't cry during an erotic spanking, I'm sure, but I don't.


Paul said...

For Mel a spanking wasn't a spanking unless she could soak my shirt or have her tears running down my chest.
A GG, an adjustment spanking or indeed a punishment spanking, the tears came fast and furious.
She said no tears no release, she'd often be crying and laughing at the same time.She was a wonderful woman and always a delightful puzzle.

IntricatePieces said...

Oh my gosh Bonnie.... I was just writing my very own post on this very topic (GMTA hee hee) and stalling cause it was a much more complext then I originally thought. So here's the short version lol

First off I think it depends on the type of spanking. Personally I am a crier by nature. So tears typically flow freely from me the moment a "punishment spanking is announced" Why? mostly because I ashamed and disappointded in myself and the actions that led to the need for that type of correction.

If it's a "I'm stressed" and Master thinks a good session otk will help spanking, tears usually come due to the emotional release it allows me. (and believe it or not there is scientific evidence that releasing these type of tears, brings about a calming effect... (lol I won't go into that here and take up your space)

As for the importance of allowing tears to flow, for me it is very important because it's a sign of acceptance and surrender. There are times I will be stubborn (gasp I know, hard to believe) and refuse to give in to them but that's a sign I am not accepting. Thankully I have a man who doesn't allow me to get away with that.

So the way I look at it tears aren't really a bad thing. In a way they're a sign of growth.

jeanmarie said...

I was fomulating my answer mentally as I read the previous posts. I could not articulate it better than the beauty of Intricatepieces words.
Simply, for me, if it's a punishment session, I already feel guilt and shame (though I may not admit that) and am emotionally naked as a rule, so almost always have a good cleansing cry while my naughty butt is disciplined and my wrongs righted in the trial by fire.
Jean Marie

SpankedMinx said...


I'm not a cryer. never have been. That's not to say I wouldn't like to experience it sometime. I do put it my stories. I get both types erotic & punishment. I don't analyse it too much. If it happens it happens, if not I'm might fine damn happy as I am. Except I just read The End on a Creative Spanked thats sad.



Hope the baby & all are doin ok x x x x

CeeCi said...

Our spankings are purely erotic, and because they're all about play I sometimes find myself crying because I'm laughing so hard!! MoJo has an amazing sense of humor, when he channels "Maurice" I lose it!

kk said...

Most of my spankings are of pure joy for me. But sometimes they get very intense and this is when the tears start to come. Sometimes while I am being spanked I cry knowing that I have disappointed my Master in some way and that is not good.

Marie said...

I rarely cry. Sometimes I wish I would more often. It is an emotional release when I do. It seems I should cry, as I like pretty intense spankings, but going over that edge is more a factor of frame of mind than pain. If the spanks are hard and fast it is more likely because I can't catch my breath. Also somehow knowing how many I will get will help me hold out and focus on the end and not cry. My boyfriend is rarely really mad at me, he mostly is trying to help me with some bad habits, so I don't often feel "guilty" in terms of disappointing him. I imagine if I did, that would make me cry.

Bonnie said...

Yes, it's really me this time. I have just a few minutes, so I'll make this quick.

First, I want to offer my heartfelt gratitude to everyone who stopped by to congratulate us. This experience has been even more mind-blowing than I imagined. Your support is definitely appreciated. I'll try to post a real update when I get the opportunity.

Now to the question at hand. I almost never cry during spankings. I have no idea why not. It just doesn't happen.

Now let me watch the kid's movie where the family dog dies and I'm a blubbering mess. But spankings? No tears. Go figure.

The very rare occasions when I do cry are always at the end of a long and intense session. In these cases, I think it's mostly emotional release.

Thanks, everyone, for attending the brunch. I'll be there next week for sure!


PS - I didn't expect Randy to post my e-mail message, but it's OK. I certainly can't accuse him of going off-topic, can I?

Marcus said...

My partner has never cried, though I have had the most interesting reactions other than that.

SmartNnaughty said...

For disciplinary spankings, I do cry. I am not a sobbing mess but the tears well up and they are more emotional than physical. I am one tough cookie most of the time. There is something about the tears that make the spanking all the better. It is then that I feel closest to MG. That is why I miss the weekly maintenance spankings we were going to do.

rose said...

bonnie....i've been terribly behind in my blog reading. so first, CONGRATS!!! what a great thing, a grandchild. i hope you're close enough to enjoy being a (gulp) grandmother.

now, for the brunch.....i always cry when spanked. mostly from emotional release and prior to floating off into sub-space. i love the feeling of those whacks and smacks that connect my lover and me....and the knowledge that he takes care of me when i'm gone, kisses away the tears when we're finished. ah, i have one waiting for me later today! *big smile*


Anonymous said...

I have only cried once during a very stern discipline spanking with a belt - Most of my spankings do not result in tears, although I do feel the emotional release and the "floating".

padme said...

Great question bonnie. I rarely cry during spankings. I cry so easily during movies or tv shows but I just can't seem to let it out during a spanking. It takes a lot to get me to the point of tears. Usually it's the very firm discipline spankings that can get me to cry and it's usally because of guilt I am feeling.

Janeen said...

First, congratulations to both of you! I'm so happy for all of you!

Second, it's really nice to meet you Randy, we've heard a lot about you! LOL

and finally....

For me, tears depend on so many different factors. Discipline versus play, my mood, how much stress I've been under prior to the spanking, etc. It used to be so difficult for me to cry during a spanking, but the more hectic my life becomes the easier the tears seem to come!

I've cried tears from the release of stress, tears from guilt, tears from just being overwhelmed by the moment, but oddly enough I can't really remember crying tears from the pain.

Great question!

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