After all, fantasy without reality seems a whole lot better than reality without fantasy. For me, both are essential. Fantasy and reality play very different roles. Here's what I mean.
| Fantasy | Reality |
| Turns me on | Finishes me off |
| In my mind all the time | Happens at best twice per week |
| May or may not be sexual | Always sexual |
| Disciplinary themes | Many themes |
| Merciless spanker | Playacting deserves an Oscar |
| I'm naughty | I've done nothing wrong |
| I deserve this | I enjoy this |
| Severe spankings | Only what is needed |
| I need a master | I can take care of myself |
| I need to submit | I want to submit |
| I like marks | I like marks no one can see |
| Pain is secondary | Spankings really hurt! |
| Aware, awake, alert throughout | Sometimes drift into "subspace" |
| Follows my story line | I never know what's next |
| Stern and serious | Fun and laughter |
| Makes for a good story | Makes for a great story |
| Over when it's over | After-effects last a while |
| I love my spankings | Same here |
Interestingly, Randy has his own spanking fantasies. They seem to be remarkably similar to my reality.
In summary, the most important sexual organ is the one we all share - the mind. Imagination enriches our relationships and stretches our boundaries. Without fantasy, we're just going through the motions.
3 comments :
Storm and Shyanne,
I agree. But what if someone's fantasy is to submit to a partner whose own fantasies are different? Now there's a brain-twister.
Randy's tastes are slightly different than mine. Fortunately, we find plenty of common ground.
…and then there was the submissive who’s master was a masochist. In order to be submissive to him she had to beat his butt three times a week.
I love spankings in fantasy and reality. Glad I ran across your blog.
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