As a reminder, every swat of every spanking my husband gives me is 100% consensual.
- Roll up the Shirt Sleeve - For me, there's something incredibly sexy about a stern gentleman rolling up the sleeve of his crisp white dress shirt in preparation for spanking me. This simple act demonstrates a seriousness and a commitment to the traditional corporal punishment that is just about to happen.
- Pulling a Belt through Belt Loops - Belts are a favorite implement for many spankees. Even before the swinging starts, the sight and sound of a leather belt being pulled through the belt loops of a man's pants can induce chills of anticipation.
- Remain in Position - As Erica notes, being ordered to remain in position voluntarily despite the growing flames in back is an alternative to bondage. This arrangement is easier for the spanker, but definitely more difficult for the spankee.
- Bonus Swats - Many tops derive perverse enjoyment from quizzing their unfortunate partners at moments when concentration is most difficult. Incorrect, incomplete, or missing answers result in extra swats and a longer, harder spanking. Randy is fond of applying bonus swats to my upper thighs, which in my view is totally unfair.
- The Woodshed - This ritual is so powerful that it's become part of the common lexicon. The phrase, "a trip to the woodshed," is synonymous with corrective punishment. I've been spanked in a garage, a barn, the back of a truck, and in a deserted bar, but never a real woodshed. It's on my bucket list.
- Evening Out - We've had to discontinue our evenings on the town due to COVID, but this ritual is a favorite. It was great to go to dinner and a concert or play with a freshly warmed bottom and a fun secret. No one except us knew what was happening beneath my dress.
- Riding the Pine - Spankings make it painful to sit afterward. That's why we spankees favor soft cushions for our tender seat. Spankers, however, are not always so generous. As if getting a hard spanking isn't punishment enough, Randy steers me toward hard wooden chairs or stools. Then he has the audacity to ask me in front of others why I'm squirming. And then he just smiles as I blush and struggle to concoct a barely credible fib.
- Buying Implements - We don't often purchase new spanking implements because we already own a large collection. When we do shop, it's usually through a reputable online seller. But those tantalizing pervertables are a different story. Once in a while when the urge strikes, we visit a kitchen, hardware, or farm supply store. Randy dresses me in a short skirt, leggings, or stretch jeans. He makes me select and purchase a nominally vanilla item that could just as easily have been designed to beat someone's butt. All the while, my dear husband stands behind me and observes my every move. I don't know whether the clerk recognizes my embarrassment because I can't bring myself to look them in the eyes.
- The Timer - Five minutes feels like an eternity when some is paddling your bottom. We've used timers and hourglasses for years. A timed spanking, in Randy's mind, is a challenge. He strikes hard and fast in the same two spots until the alarm sounds. Speaking for those of us who stare at the carpet, this ritual hurts way more than spankers think.
- Gratitude - "Thank you, sir. May I have another?" Those classic words capture the magic of the gratitude ritual. Being required to express thanks with each mounting stroke reinforces the spankee's submissive mindspace.
- Surface Preparation - A spanking delivered on a wet bottom hurts more. Water intensifies the pain. So do baby oil and moisturizing lotions. Randy tells me that using lotion before a spanking will help to protect my sensitive skin from breakage. I think he's figured out that it heightens the ouch.
- Signing the Paddle - I remember reading about schools where students had to sign a paddle and record the date each time they were punished. I am opposed to paddling children, but the general concept, for consenting adults, is intriguing. Marks on my bottom will fade, but my permanent ink signature on the broad end of a spanking paddle memorializes my corporal punishment experience forever.
- Afterwear - Just as there are preferred clothes for a spanking, there can be others for the time when the spanking is complete. I have a short satin nightgown that isn't quite long enough in back to cover my ample lower slopes. Randy loves it!
- Journaling - Before digital photos, audio, and video, we had the written word. Before blogs, I recorded our spanking episodes in the form of handwritten or typewritten notes. Randy enjoyed reading my accounts and encouraged me to describe how I felt about what happened to me. I still journal, now using word processing software. Many of these accounts have become posts on this blog. These words allow us to remember.
- Lotion - One of my favorite aftercare rituals is having soothing lotion massaged into my sore punished flesh. It feels wonderful. I often position myself across Randy's lap on the couch or bed, not for another spanking, but for this tender treatment. Sometimes the massage extends beyond the punished region and other rituals ensue.
- Status Check - My husband is fond of periodically reassessing the state of my bottom in the minutes and hours that follow a thorough spanking session. He pulls me aside and hikes my skirt. He runs his fingers over the surface of my skin to detect residual warmth or any raised welts. He admires the color as red fades to pink. He squeezes my cheeks and asks whether my bottom still hurts. When I answer in the affirmative, he pats my rear and tells me that I am a good girl.
- The Implement Show - Many spankos like to display their collection of spanking implements, on a table, couch, or bed. Or covering the entire living room floor! This arrangement makes for great photos, but it also serves as a notice to the spankee about the posterior pain they can anticipate. For some reason, spankers feel they have to "test" every displayed implement. A spanking with such a wide variety of implement types yields a long lasting burn and ache.
- Driving the Message Home - This ritual involves the spanker emphasizing their message by punctuating each word with a hard swat to the spankee's exposed bottom. From the spankee's perspective, this technique does indeed promote recollection.
- Walk of Shame - Imagine being conspicuously escorted from a party, a meeting, or a class to receive an unexpected disciplinary paddling. Then imagine having to return later and wonder how many others recognize the cause of the pained expression on your blushing face. That's the essence of the walk of shame.
- The Warning - When a spanker says, "We'll deal with this when we get home," it's the sort of warning where it's already too late to avoid the inevitable punative consequences of a faux pas committed in public. Whether around the corner or around the world, for the remainder of the trip, the spankee will think of little else but the unfortunate fate of her bottom.
- Rubbing - Rubbing a sore bottom was used in older films, television shows, cartoons, and comics to indicate that an unseen spanking had occurred. It provides a visual expression of the pain the spankee is experiencing. Rubbing can accompany the walk of shame.
