Bonnie's Mailbag: Summer's End Edition

You share thoughts and questions. I respond.

Question: May I republish something you wrote?

Bonnie: Yes, as long you cite this blog as the source.

Question: You mentioned that it can be embarrassing to get spanked. Is that some of the attraction for you?

Bonnie: Yes, spanking holds many attractions for me and that feeling is among them. Embarrassment is an important element of punishment. Randy enjoys seeing my red face almost as much as my red bottom. His patter during my punishment spankings promotes that reaction. Having every detail recorded on video also contributes to the experience.

Comment: I really like that you are posting so much now.

Bonnie: This is my personal challenge to post everyday during the month of August. I've just about made it. After that, I will probably slip back to my less urgent semi-retired schedule. I published almost every day during the early years of this blog. Sometimes, I would even post more than once in a day (bad idea because your content gets buried before readers find it). I wanted to learn whether I was still capable of doing that even without two brunch posts per week. I guess I am, and I am pleased to be able to share more consensual adult spanking content.

Question: Has anyone ever called you "Barrel Bottom?"

Bonnie: Nope. My shape is anything but cylindrical.

Question: What was it like to be a girl developing a fabulous derriere? Were you conscious of the additional rear back there? Did it feel noticeably different as you walked?

Bonnie: At that age, a girl is just figuring out who she is. We are barraged with all kinds of different messages, some positive, but a lot that are not. It's all very confusing. Too often, men seek to sexualize girls before they fully comprehend what that means. It's not fair. Speaking as a woman, a mother, and a grandmother, I know how important it is to allow girls and young women to discover themselves and the world at their own pace. As adults, we owe that to the next generation. Strong, smart, capable, caring women are essential for the survival of our society. Let's protect their hearts, minds, bodies, and spirits along their challenging journey.

What was it like for me? Unnerving. With arrival of puberty, I was forewarned about periods (unlike some of my friends!). But the expansion of my hips and bottom was a surprise and it seemed like it happened suddenly. Looking back, I'm sure it was gradual over a number of months, but there was one particular day when I looked in the mirror and things were different. I remember going to the department store with my mother and buying clothes from the young adult women's section (back then, it was called Misses). The clothes there were designed for people with hips and I had joined the club.

Was I conscious of additional rear? Yes, absolutely. Back there was now a lot further back. The guys in junior high noticed too. They didn't say much to me, at least not at first. But I could overhear their comments. They had jokey nicknames, but they were also very observant and interested. The bolder among them would "accidentally" brush against the back of my skirt at the drinking fountain. I thought they were idiots.

Did it feel different when I walked? Not that I recall.

Comment: I'll admit that I was one of the idiots that you described. In junior high I was too shy/inexperienced to make strong advances to the girls. But I loved the nice derrieres. My technique was to put my hand in my front pocket and brush against the nice butt cheeks. I was just getting a "feel" with the back of my hand, but the butts were oh so nice.

Bonnie: Those "idiots" gave me a lot of trouble at a time when I was still trying to establish my own persona and boundaries. The "nice butt cheeks" were attached to a living human. What might be a random brush for a boy can feel like an invasion of personal sovereignty to the girl. I remember waiting in the cafeteria line when the back of a boy's hand explored my crack through my skirt. I felt horrified and embarrassed. I told no one. A girl tends to blame herself and feel guilty, even when it's over something she didn't initiate or want. Early experiences can shape her future relationships and affect her ability to build trust.

Please teach your sons what it means to treat girls and women with respect. By doing so, you can help to make our world a better place for everyone.

Request: Would you sell me one of your thongs you wore when Randy paddled you?

Bonnie: No, but I can tell you where to buy some just like mine. Then you can enjoy your own paddlings.

Comment: You are pretty naughty! I like that about you.

Bonnie: Even when I don't feel pretty, naughty is an easy and fun alternative.

Comment: I discovered a disturbing image on a site you link.

Bonnie: I am happy to check out any site about which readers express concern.

Question: When Randy is going to spank you on your bare bottom, does he lower your panties or do you?

Bonnie: Either, both, or neither. I wear a thong so no removal is required to reach spankable skin. Sometimes he lifts my hem and other times I do.

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That's all until next time. If you want to send me a message, click the Ask Bonnie symbol near the bottom of the right column.