More Potpourri

Hello again, dear friends.

Randy and I are still cooped up inside watching spring become summer. The world is becoming crazier by the day and I find this all worrisome. But for the moment at least, we’re safe and healthy. Regular stress reduction sessions help a lot.

I don’t have anything major to announce, but I do have a few odds and ends to share.

The class I was teaching is now over. It started out in-person, but quickly morphed into virtual instruction. No one planned for that possibility. The transition was stressful and made the learning process more difficult for everyone. There is no question that it was the right move, but I think it diminished the quality of education that our students received. I won’t be teaching again until this ordeal is over (whatever that means).

The theater groups with which I volunteer are shut down with little hope of near term resumption. That makes me sad.

Randy and I are both working from home. He loves it and would happily spend the rest of his career here if permitted. I’m more social and miss daily human contact. But I can do my job from our dining room table, so I’m fine too.

I still don’t want to see anyone’s dick-pics. Every time I visit Fetlife, there are more in my mailbox. Why? I still play only with my husband, just like it says in my profile, but guys just don’t read or maybe they don’t care. The fact that they live in our town doesn’t change that.

If you haven’t visited our blogroll lately, there are many new links to explore. These sites cover a broad range of spanking related topics and media. I would like to hope that there’s something for every spanko. If you have suggested additions or feedback about the links, I welcome your thoughts.

Many of the sites I’ve added this year are hosted on Twitter. There are some great conversations happening there and some spanko friends who are now only on Twitter. I long resisted starting my own Twitter because I lacked adequate time to devote to this blog, let alone anything else. But without teaching, volunteer work, evenings out, gym, and daily commute, perhaps I do have time. I’m not sure whether anyone wants to hear what this grandmother has to say, but maybe I will dip a toe one day soon.

A couple of readers asked why I pulled a post a couple of weeks ago. I will say only that it was not well received.

I sometimes wonder what it would be like to be out. What if spankos knew our names and faces? What if vanillas knew about our kinky sexual preferences? My standard response has been that we cannot come out because it would hurt innocent people and destroy relationships with people who matter to us. But how true is that? That’s a question that Randy and I discussed over takeout Chinese dinner last evening.

The real concern is not the spankos who read this blog. You already know a lot about us. Our worry is those relatives, friends, and co-workers.

We have two living parents, but it’s unlikely they would ever learn anything regardless of what we do. Our daughter already knows more than she wants to know, so we don’t worry about her. Our sweet granddaughter is a vulnerable teen who is not ready for this sort of information, but it’s doubtful she would find it.

Then there are our personal friends. It’s easy to say that if friends don’t accept us, then they aren’t really friends, but it’s more complicated than that. Both of us have a few close high school pals whose thinking hasn’t evolved much during the past 45 years. We disagree with them, frankly on most issues, but our long shared history is a source of amusement and connection in a world where those are scarce commodities. These people would not comprehend our “perversion,” but they would be hard pressed to call attention to it without outing themselves.

Work associates are different matter. These relationships can occasionally become close, but are more frequently situational and transactional. The transition to telework has demonstrated how fleeting these gossamer links truly are. Both Randy and I are both sufficiently established in our positions that an unpleasant rumor, even one that’s true, could be probably survived. Those pesky human resources people remain a concern, but we don’t do anything illegal nor hurt anyone who doesn’t want to be hurt. And never during the workday (at least not until work from home).

So, to return to the original question, what would it mean to be out? We could post pictures of our faces. That’s something that I promised Randy that I would never do more than twenty years ago after a stalker came to our front door and talked with our teenage daughter (every mother has a nightmare that starts that way). Randy relented recently for a very old picture that looks nothing like I do today.

I think Randy would like to post some of the thousands of photos he has snapped of my spanked bottom. I would rather he didn’t. It’s one thing for people to know I get spankings and quite another for them to see my most unguarded moments in vivid color. Please no, not that, and the videos are worse.

So are we talking about attending spanking parties? Randy is an introvert and has no desire to go. Besides, we prefer to play as a couple and have no pressing need to expand our circle. But a munch might be fun.

By the end of the noodles, we decided that we are as out as we need to be. While the repercussions would probably be managed, there’s little advantage to us or anyone else to expose more.

A reader asked whether I am still wearing thong panties every day. The answer is yes. As I said in a previous post, the secret is finding the right style and size.

Our friend Mitch wrote to say that his venerable blog, All Things Spanking, is back. Check it out.

I read a vanilla discussion where women were discussing whether bras are still necessary in our work from home world. My take is that women should wear (or not wear) what is comfortable for them. I still wear one during the day from force of habit, but mine are not those medieval torture devices that some women endure just to keep their boobs where they are supposed to be. It’s good to have choices!

I added a new link that is not a blog but more like a forum. Randy introduced me to the Reddit r/spanking subreddit a couple of years ago and has convinced me to give them a link. The photographic content is a bit different than the familiar model pictures on bdsmlr (though we still love our model friends!).

I guess that’s about enough for now. What’s new with you?