Saturday, January 19, 2013

MBS Spanko Brunch #366

Hi, everyone, and welcome back to our weekly brunch. Our topic this week was suggested by our friend, Jenn.

Have you been present when presumably vanilla friends, relatives, or coworkers discussed adult spanking or related topics? If so, what was your reaction? Did you worry about accidentally giving away your secret interest? Did you listen intently or quickly change the subject?

To participate in our conversation, just enter your response below in the form of a comment. At the end of the weekend, I will post an edited summary.

22 comments :

morningstar said...

My co-workers have from time to time discussed "kinky" activities. Most of the time I just remain silent listening - taking mental notes.

But when 50 Shades came out - they were all reading it - and asked my opinion of the book. I hesitated for a split second - and answered truthfully (cause I am a TERRIBLE liar) "I thought it was a rather badly written romance novel".



Brooke said...

I've had that happen a few times and usually turn bright red and try to keep quiet. It's happened more recently, now that 50 Shades is such a hot topic!

Hermione said...

Usually I listen intently but keep my mouth firmly closed. I'm too afraid of giving myself away if I participate in the discussion. Usually the subject is discussed in a playful, suggestive way, and I will join in the laughter.

thecanery said...

Yes, that 50 Shades book keeps cropping up. I was at a committee meeting when it was raised, off-topic. I was quite embarrassed as there were only two of us fellas there, and I'm not sure the other guy really knew what the book was about.

Anonymous said...

In my job we use laminated check-lists. I was with a female co-worked one time when she took one that measured about 3x12 and said to me "this look like a paddle". I was caught off guard, but after a moment responded that it was probably to flimsy to hurt much. She never said any more, and to this day I wonder????

Anonymous said...

Sorry, I forgot to sign my comment re: the checklists......George

abby said...

My kids were discussing 50 shades when I walked into the room. They know I read a lot, so they laughingly asked if I had read it. I said yes..but it did not seem all that realistic to me...and walked out.
hugs abby

SirQsmlb said...

I often listen quietly. I will, periodically, include myself in the discussion, but never give anything away...other than that I'm adventurous...but those who know me, know that to be the case in most things in my life.
~fiona

Felicia Nemo said...

Oh yes, 50 shades of Grey has certainly led to many interesting conversations in the lunch room. I usually listen and try and keep the grin off my face as many spout forth the virtues of such a book. I did not like it, particularly the metal health issues, but that is about as much as I have said on the topic in public. I am always more interested in those who don't participate in those discussions and their reactions, wondering if they are, indeed, one of us but not wanting to give themselves away.

Stay safe,
Felicia

thelongbean said...

I was with friends in a bar when the subject came up. I kept quiet and listened with a wry smile. From the conversation it was clear that they did not know much about it, but there was one very attractive woman who was more forward about wanting to be spanked and trying other implements.

Later, another friend (who knew I was into BDSM) discretely tried to persuade me to fufil her fantasy. However she was with a vanilla partner and I knew that it would not be appropriate so I never got to spank her:(

Roz said...

The subject comes up fairly regularly with my work colleagues, and 50 Shades of course hasn't helped. Lots of discussion about that. You gotta wonder if they are closet spankos ... or maybe not? ... hmm. I don't really want to think about it!

It's all said in a lighthearted teasing manner and sometimes I join in in a bit, but don't usually say that much.

joeyred51 said...

I listen to the conversation. My friends and co-workers think I am much too vanilla to know anything about kinky "stuff" anyway.

ronnie said...

It's happened a few times. I listen but stay quiet.

A couple of girls in our office block were recently talking about FSOG saying how good it was and asked me my opinion - told the truth, I hadn't read it. Surprised look on all their faces. I think they couldn't believe there was a women who hadn't read it.

Love,
Ronnie
xx

sixofthebest said...

In my lifetime, I've heard so called 'vanilla's' starting their conversations with these immortal word's "I've had a spanking good time this weekend". I just gave them a smirky smile. And said to them casually. "Your weekend, must have sure been a 'hit'". Surprise Surprise, at a senior center, that I belong to. I caught a few people reading "Fifty Shades of Grey". That is stacked on one of the library shelves.

Marie Haynes said...

If the conversation is judgmental (That's just wrong!) then I pipe in with comments such as - as long as everyone is happy, what difference does it make what adults do privately? They usually have no response to that.

Anonymous said...

I has an associate say as she left once, "That deserves a spanking!" and she walked out the door. I was surprised and didn't know what to say. I wish I had the courage to say to her, "Would you like to help my wife with that?"!! I have often fantasized about one of my wife's friends helping with a spanking. She is reluctant and hesitant about hurting me so a partner might help her to get into it. Doubt if that will ever happen!

Daisychain said...

Oh, yes...the fifty shades book! I was at work and heard the other girls (all half my age) surreptitiously talking about it, and when I asked what they were talking about, they laughed suggestively and said, "Never mind, Daisy, you wouldn't understand...."
I had to giggle to myself.

Lea said...

I have heard conversations involving spanking come up in the past. I never add anything to it as I worry I may give myself away by having TOO much knowledge on the subject.

Renee Rose said...

This is the worst for me! I am simultaneously turned on and feeling shameful about being turned on (if the story is not a sexual spanking).

Kaelah said...

I guess I am quite open when it comes to talking about spanking / BDSM in a vanilla environment. Or at least I used to be at the beginning of my journey. For instance, I once explained the meaning of "bondage" to co-workers (who didn't know about my kink and whom I didn't tell). I am a bit less open about the topic today, especially at work, because my openness nowadays also affects Ludwig and because I have the kinky community where I can discuss kinky topics all day long. Still I think I wouldn't keep my mouth shut if the topic came up in a vanilla environment today. Especially if I were confronted with false assumptions about spanking and kink.

I assume the worst situation for me would be if someone brought up "Fifty Shades" in a conversation and if it became clear that in their opinion that is what kink is all about. Because then I would feel very tempted to tell them about every single aspect in the book that in my opinion gives a wrong impression about spanking and kink and which could even potentially be dangerous if anyone used the book as a "how to" manual. And I would most probably go on with a long lecture about people who switch, safewords, freedom of choice, affectionate sadism, sexual orientations and their origins and the like, which might rather scare the poor vanillas away (and wouldn't be good for my health, either ;-) ).

Anonymous said...

a GOOD WHILE BACK WE (6 GUYS) WERE AT LUNCH BREAK, WHEN THE OLDEST GUY BROUGHT UP SPANKING AS A SEX TURN ON, As the BAUX BRAUN TV show out of Cincy had a Dom as a guest that afternoon. After an long pause. I spoke up saying that I did once and the resulting sore butt wasn't worth it.
(I'm such a lair) but nobody had anything to add so the subject was dropped.
I know for a fact that one of guys was a spanko because we all showered together at the end of our shift and more than once I could see faint belt marks on his wet ass that I'm sure he thought had healed up completely.
S

Free Spanking Photos said...

Once, during a meeting with friends, Charlotte hinted something about spanking. The wife of one of my friends, looked horrified and said: That's sadomasochism!. Then everyone started to think on the subject. Some of our friends were defending the tastes of those who practice spanking, other fully demonstrated against or even agnostics. I listened carefully to all points of view and finally could not help myself. And we tell you that my wife and I practice the consensual spanking for over two decades! -
The same day our "vanilla" friends hear to Charlotte, a little history of our "Spanko" experience. Since that day, at least one of the four couples look at us differently. The others understood it perfectly, even in some other meeting, we have joked about it.

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