This week's question is a new one. It was suggested by none other than my dear husband Randy.
Why do spankees rub their bottoms immediately after they've been spanked?
As always, you are invited to answer our question and express your opinions on the subject at hand. Please enter your thoughts in a comment below. At the conclusion of the weekend, I will post an edited summary.
35 comments :
simple :) Cos it feels better when you rub. like physically better.
Like Fondles said, it feels like your rubbing away the sting. It works too.
To assess the damage! ;)
Because it stings/hurts/throbs all at the same time....rubbing makes it feel better. Or would, if I were allowed ;)
We figure it's a way to get the sting out! It works for a bit! :)
The inverse, not being allowed to rub, is an interesting addition to the scene. But rubbing definitely helps the pain.
It produces an emotional reaction that adds to the entire experience. After a spanking I am at my most submissive, and as I touch my hot, red cheeks, I think about what has just taken place. Rubbing helps to process my thoughts and feelings, and I often say to myself, "I've just been spanked". I also have to take a peek in a mirror and see what the damage looks like.
It helps.
It intensifies.
It soothes.
It amazes me.
To reassure myself that even when my bottom feels like it is not on fire; it is not.
Correction: To reassure myself that even when my bottom feels like it is on fire; it is not.
For me, I like to feel the heat and know just how "hot" it really is. It's like "feeling the love."
It feels better, and if there are welts, it is nice to feel them. Also always like to find a mirror.
hugs abby
It soothes. It excites. It affirms.
The heat is something that is best felt with your hands as well as any welts.
I prefer to rub the TiH/spankee's backside afterward. Sometimes that includes a soothing lotion during Aftercare.
After a disciplinary style spanking, it's a good time to reaffirm why the spanking was implemented and ideas of how to avoid the TiH progressing from Spanking to Disciplinary Spanking to Punishment Spanking.
After a more "playful" style spanking...
it's time to play! :)
To make it feel better and to assess the damage. If there are welts, I get a little thrill running my fingers over them.
For me it helps rub IT in,yes a kind of affirmation. I don't know it just feels good.
To make sure it is still in one piece....lol To soothe it and comfort ourselves, I think. Emotionally, I am usually a little undone and vulnerable and it feels natural to reach out to the place where we can physically touch the hurt.
hugs
lillie
It's a reflex action, I do it instinctively. It soothes the sting and helps calm me. Also helps me process what has just happened.
Hugs
Roz
Because it hurts. Silly question.
I want to tell him it hurts without using words because if I use words he says unhelpful things like, "Good" or "Well, what did you expect?"
Also because I want to cool my bum with my hands.
Finally because it is the spanked girl's version of rubbing her chin thoughtfully.
It just feels so good. Getting a good rubbing from the spanker feels good too :)
Prefectdt
It does soothe the pain some, but I think it also allows time for me to process. It confirms that yes a spanking actually just happened. I prefer cuddling with Bucko and letting him rub it though. :)
This is an interesting question. I think part of it is a reflex. If you burn your finger, you stick it in your mouth to cool it so rubbing your bottom after a spanking does the same thing.
However, I think there is a mental aspect as well, as has been mentioned above. To expand on the concept of confirming that the spanking has actually taken place, it also acknowledges to both the spanker and spankee that a good job (good as in thorough!) has been done. It can be used as a bit of a suggestive behaviour of things to come after a more playful spanking ;)
I do it instinctively. Rubbing helps the sting and I like to feel the heat.
Love,
Ronnie
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If it is just a hand spanking D has given me, I love the hot sexy smart, and rubbing my buns, which feel inflated hot and stinging, makes me feel even sexier; this is what he has done to my plump rear end ; it's thrilling. A dose of the wooden paddle is another matter; initially the same sexy smart for me to rub, but once that has died down, I realise just how much it is hurting, and as for sitting on it, no way ! S
I don't know if it objectively actually alleviates the pain that much, but emotionally and reflexively it makes the person feel "as if" it helps, and sometimes that's enough.
Not being able to do anything at all after a spanking intensifies the pain emotionally/psychologically because there is nothing to do.
Placebo effect, I think.
Because it's there....?
(1) The nervous system sends other signals - rubbing - and while that is going on, our brain can't pay attention to the sting. This can last only a little while. (This is the same phenomenon as when the doctor asks you a question as she is doing something unpleasant. You don't notice the unpleasantness as much because your brain is busy figuring out what to say and saying it.)
(2) To assess damage. "Ok, at least I am not bleeding. Hurts like hell, though!"
(3) To feel the heat; hands can assess this well.
(4) Like Hermione said, for greater emotional impact. Yes, "I've just been spanked."
P.S. I love the picture of the cappuccino! Yummm....
I think it's for comfort. Not brvsuse rubbing makes it feel better, it's more internal comfort. To feel the heat.. Maybe?
:)
^ because. Somehow my phone thinks that's how you spell brvsuse <---- see! Stupid autocorrect fail lol
It's a first instinct when someone is in pain to fix it. If you burn your hand, the first instinct is to run it under water (not just sit there and look at it), etc. The same works for spanking- it's your body's first instinct to do something to make the pain/sting feel better.
I also agree that things like to "assess the damage" and signals being sent to the brain are other common reasons why someone might rub after a spanking.
-Chelsea
I agree it is instinctive, but it also helps relieve the pain.
George
Hi Bonnie,
Rick doesn't allow me to rub my bottom after I've been spanked, unless he specifically gives me permission. It always feels so good when he finally does let me rub it, though.
Love,
Rachael
7 years..WOW, that's awesome.
Funny question because Cael used to ask me why I did it and I'd tell him I was trying to make it feel better. He'd ask if it did and generally I'd realize...nope, not really! I don't know why, I guess it was just SOMETHING to try to alleviate the burning.
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