Saturday, November 10, 2012

MBS Spanko Brunch #356

I guess we all survived LOL Day 7. There's still a good bit of activity and I think that's wonderful. Thanks to all of the bloggers, readers, and (former) lurkers who joined in. I'll have the final tally and some concluding remarks early next week. Until then, there's another tradition we must uphold.

Our question this week was posed to me by a longtime MBS reader.

What can we bloggers do to keep alive the friendly, supportive, welcoming spirit of LOL Day during the rest of the year?

To participate in our brunch, just enter your response to our question in the form of a comment below. Once everyone has had a turn, i will post an edited summary.


SpankCake said...

I think it's an interesting question... One thing that makes the internet so accessible is that it is anonymous: anyone is free to browse what is available to them on the internet. How does a blogger encourage people to comment? To make their blog more interactive? I would love to know as so much of the joy of blogging comes from connecting with said contributors.

All bloggers love comments. We write hoping to be read. If a blogger actively dislikes comments, they can disable them. I would hope that every lurker out there felt welcomed, always knowing any comment they make is appreciated. That being said, when I throw out a question specifically to the readers and don't get many answers, I feel somewhat rejected. And as a lurker on several blogs I know I feel like I don't have anything new or interesting to add to that particular blog. In fact, I'm half tempted to 86 this comment! LOL.

TL;DR: LOL-love our lurkers...everyday. Make them feel welcomed to interact with us. Give them the same attention as we would our regulars and maybe they will grant us the kindness of joining us.

Kitty - The Submissive Wife said...

I agree that the anonymous part of the internet is a good part. And so I think the fact that we continue to be a community of relatively low drama in an internet world normally filled with angst, that people will join in as they feel able. And otherwise, I don't mind if people just peak in once in a while.

Roz said...

Interesting question. I think sometimes this can seem like a exclusive community to those 'outside'. I'm sure I have read anonymous comments on blogs that they felt shy about commenting as they felt they didn't 'belong'.

Perhaps we need to continue to invite comments in our posts from lurkers and old friends alike. Particularly if we are posing a question in the post.


I often see bloggers and website performers doing sponsored events and suchlike, which helps the image of the community as a whole as well as supporting good causes. Making an effort to help and support those that do these things, year round, is an effective way keeping the good will fly wheel spinning.

LOL day is great way to get everyone focused on the blog community and spread some good faith around. Thank you for all the effort that you put into this event Bonnie.


morningstar said...

I am not sure I have an answer to that question. I have been thinking about LOL day a lot. Define lurker - they are by definition folks who don't want to be noticed. And I can't help but wonder if we make them nervous asking for them to comment one day a year. Perhaps they are happiest about being in the shadows - an unknown - only a number in the stats???

In my humble opinion - as long as I keep writing I am giving the lurkers what they come for - day after day - a story to read - my struggles - my joys - my failings.

I think celebrating LOL day once a year is a wonderful idea - a day to thank the "lurkers" of the world for being there for us - for raising our stats and keeping us going.... cause truthfully folks - would you write if no one read???

I don't think the comments are the most important thing...... just knowing someone out there is reading warms my heart and keeps my fingers tap tapping on the keys.

Hermione said...

What can we do to keep the friendly, supportive, welcoming spirit alive all year long? We can each make a determined effort to leave comments on blogs that we don't usually comment on. It's easy to leave a comment on a friend's blog; not so easy when you don't feel you "know" the blogger well.

Although I don't consider myself an outsider in this community, I am indeed a lurker on a large number of blogs. I click, read, then close the page and move on. If I took the time to say a simple "hello" or better yet, leave an intelligent word or two about what I have just read, I would be doing my small part to extend the hand of friendship to another valued member of our vibrant community.

There you have it: my New Year's resolution two months early.

sixofthebest said...

One of my suggestions would be for 'spanko' bloggers, to answer as many 'lurker's' comments as possible.

Our Bottoms Burn said...

First, I don't know, so just skip to the next comment.

Ignoring the socially inadept wankers, I think most lurkers are just folks who seldom take the initiative to do much of anything. Nothing wrong with that. When we were young marrieds, we had a parties once or twice a month. Some of these parties would last into the next day, so people were having a good time. There was a regular group. Only one or two would host a party. I think most lurkers are like that, nice folks, but they feel no need to express themselves.

Fondles said...

i sometimes feel ignored when i don't get a reply after i leave a comment. which is why i reply all of mine.

so that might help, for a start. i also agree with hermione that if we tried to comment a little more there'll be more "love" going around... i try to say hi to the newer bloggers, but feel overwhelmed when i'm new to a blog and people there already seem to know each other.

but then I understand that's just me, and nothing to do with them.

I should start commenting here more for a start.

Anonymous said...

As a sometimes poster, I appreciate two things when trying to post:
1) Be able to post as Anonymous... not have to use a Google or other account to log in with prior to posting.
2) Make it easy as possible to READ and POST using smart phones or tablets, not just PCs.
People are more mobile and usibg these other devices outside the home...maybe in a carpool line or in a waiting room... using their spare few minutes to rread abd post.

Anything bloggers can do to simplify interaction will help to encourage interaction.


Anonymous said...


I prefer to refer to people who do not comment as readers. I have learned from blogger friends Lea, Ronnie, and Hermione that replying to comments encourages more comments. Also, polite and respectful answers to comments will encourage readers to identify themselves for the first time as a reader.


Anonymous said...

I just posted the above comment using a smart phone... it has two fat finger mistakes in it... maybe an editing tool active for a few minutes after posting would be helpful as well... to fix fat finger mistakes.

wordsmith said...

Answering every comment is a must for me, I always try and do it. Also I am often put off commenting by the difficulty imposed by the anti-spam systems, sometimes I have to try 3-4 times before I can get Blogger to accept my Wordpress id.

One question I have: can someone with a blog ever be a "lurker"? Somehow I always think of a lurker as someone who doesn't want to interact. We need another category :-) - maybe "reader" as Joey suggested.

Lea said...

I feel I have a nice group of regular readers and many of those comment. I hope that I encourage the interaction by being open and always responding to the comments. I appreciate everyone who takes the time to do so because I know there are so many blogs out there and it's nice they stopped at mine.

I know many people say they don't feel like they have something to add which is why they stay quiet. But as a blogger, even a "Thanks for sharing" or "This was really interesting" is nice to see. I try to do at least that on the blogs I enjoy reading if I don't have anything elaborate to add.

There are some blogs I've seen that never reply to their commenters and don't seem to get a lot of comments. I think we can put 2 and 2 together there.

Susie said...

Every once in a while maybe it is a good idea to openly ask readers if they have any questions. I know that when we've done that in the past the quieter folks have jumped in I think felt less shy than usual. I'll have to try it again soon.

Respecting Mistress said...

It's a difficult question. I get a few comments to my blog posts but then I'm guilty of not opening up my blog to invite more readers to interact. I love it when I get peopel posting comments - it's great to be able to interact with others of a similar interest. So I do try to reply to all comments. And I like to comment on other blog's because a) I enjoy the interaction and b)because people take time to write about thier experiences and the whole point of blogging is to encourage comment, isn't it?

Minelle Labraun said...

As a former lurker....I agree with everyone that answering someones comment is the key. It takes so much courage to leave one, to put yourself out of your comfort zone and respond on someones blog. If they never acknowledge your words it makes you feel as if you offended or your words are silly to them.

SirQsmlb said...

I know many have already said what i was thinking but I will reiterate. I think that responding to comments is a wonderful way to let your readers know that you appreciate their comments. I think allowing anonymity is also important - as long as it isn't being abused.

Thanks again for your organizing of was my first and it was fun!

Kaki said...

I don't have a blog, I would like to add to what others said about replying to commenters. I don't mind if I comment and don't get a reply back if the blogger doesn't respond to anyone. Some bloggers respond to one or two and ignore the rest, I think that is rude, especially when that person has asked a question.

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