Sunday, November 30, 2008

MBS Spanko Brunch #150


Welcome, my friends, to our 150th spanko brunch! The longevity of this feature is a tribute to your continuing interest in our favorite subject. Thanks to everyone who has contributed.

Our topic for this week was suggested by a reader.

Have you and your partner ever tested limits in terms of spanking? If so, what approach did you use it and what were the results? Would you test limits again? If you have not tested limits, would you ever consider doing so? Why or why not?

If you would like to add your thoughts, all you need to do is leave a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to share their opinions, I will post an edited summary of the proceedings.

14 comments :

Anonymous said...

My current lover spanks me so sublimely that I once turned to him and asked him to push my limits any way he desired. That night I got a hairbrush paddling that left me bruised and panting but oh so turned-on. A week later he worked my backside with the belt as I scizzored my thighs together. I never would've believed that I could orgasm without direct manual stimulation, but I do now. Then Kyle came home with a cane. He told me that I'd feel it the next time I was a bad girl. I was able to behave for almost two weeks before curiositygot the better of me. That first time he gave me six stripes and I cried and begged him to stop, but I never said the safe-word, and I would've been severely disappointed if he had relented. That was over a year ago. About once every two months I'll do something worthy of a caning. We never play with this implement like we do with all the others; it's reserved for strict punishment. I've gotten a whipping with as many as fifteen stripes so far. I'm always stood in the corner immediately afterward, then tucked into bed without sex. The experience leaves me exhausted. But nothing turns me on as much; the next day and for as long as the marks remain on my butt I'm an insatiatable tigress. Canings test my limits, but in a way that just increases my appetite for discipline.
Jean Marie

Daisy said...

Hi, Bonnie et al....
Yes, I tested limits... It was our first meet after chatting for almost a year, and falling in love...we had talked of spanking, and HOH and discipline....He was worried about it being abuse, hurting me when he loved me, all those obvious anxieties...neither of us had had a relationship like this before, your blog was the one I found which helped me understand myself, and I braved it and told him; he took a while, but eventually after reading your blog, warmed to the idea! I had warned him online I was a very strongwilled character, and I truly believed I could outwit him without even trying...or wear him down, evade punishment etc... so I was not worried when we first met up, sure I would win any battle of wits... (though, deep inside, I desperately wanted him to win..)
We had been together a couple of days, getting to know each other for real, and he had tentatively (and so sweetly) swatted my ass a couple times, in fun... then I decided it was time to test his resolve... we had read your blog like the spankers bible, lol, and had a safe word etc... though I knew I would never need it(!?)
I teased and goaded and cheeked and bratted and pushed my luck too far....
He decided enough was enough, and spanked me, our first real, punishment spanking....the artillery came out! belt, wooden spoon, paddle.... I was determined to stay the course, and did...so he finished up with a hand spanking that was harder than I could have imagined, along with the lecture; my ass wanted to pack and leave town!
He was wonderful...and psychic, because just as I was about to say the safeword, he stopped and held me tight...I don't doubt now that he is more than a match for me.... I love that man so much...

Hermione said...

Over the course of expanding our spanking experiences, I have seen Ron's limits increase in terms of how long and how hard he will spank me. But he has never gone farther than he is comfortable with.

We haven't consciously set out to test my limits, and it is something I would like to experience. There was one occasion when I definitely got a lot more than I had ever had before. When it was over I was totally exhausted and sex was the farthest thing from my mind, but for the next two days thinking about the encounter kept me constantly aroused. It's an experience I hope we can repeat.

Thomas_III said...

I have often, both by my own decision, and by the request of my partner, to push or test limits. One time, Joyce asked for a full five minutes of nonstop hard hand spanking, just to see if she could withstand it. Lately, Cookie has suggested seeing how much she can take of each kind of implement, and will be featured on my blog as "Cookie's Challenge."

Paul said...

Bonnie, I don't recall that Mel and I spoke about limits.
I was expert in Mel's body language and could read her well enough to know when she was close to her limit.
This is the sort of subject I wish she were here to answer.
Warm hugs,
Paul.

A.S.S. said...

As a spanker, no... I've not had anyone test my limits. Not sure it would be possible, since I'm the one driving the action during a spanking. I have tested limits though. The most common example is a 'hard spanking'... something beyond what has been experienced. Also have tested a limit with an implement... like a first ever spanking with a wood paddle, or a spanking with a leather belt (which was a limit because of a bad experience with a pervious partner).

Those limit testing experiences have all been positive too, extremely positive. The spankee first of all was the one to bring the idea up. "I know I said that being spanked with a wood paddle was a limit... but I think I'd like to try it now." There then is an open discussion about it, and we make sure we're on the same page. We ~both~ understand that this is a limit testing experience.

For me, the exchange of trust is a huge rush. And for the spankee... it's experiencing something that she's long thought about. So the spanking is a powerful experience. Doesn't mean that it always is something that she'll want repeated. Might turn out that the limit needs to return. Even when that happens though (which is rare)... it's still a positive experience.

:)
Todd (and Suzy)

Mary said...

Always - testing limits is fun and delightful. Good or bad as the verdict of what just happened is -- the fact is you learn more about yourself and your partneer and that is great.

Impish1 said...

Never have tested limits because I'm still trying to ramp up into testing my desires. Hubby is a vanilla trying to please me. He's much less worried, but there are many things he's too uncomfortable to try yet, and now that he understands I want harder we have a new problem. He can't seem to get that it's only fun after a slow warmup; eager to please me, he keeps getting very hard, very fast. Come to think of it - that seems to be testing my limits! LOL

pmduo said...

We've tested limits pretty consistently as we worked up through using different implements. For example, using his belt was very difficult for him but he's mostly comfortable with it now.

I think these were mostly his limits as it was something I've wanted from the beginning.

As far as spankings I don't think we've come close to reaching my limits. He still worries about pain and marks and has only once pushed me to the point where I wanted him to stop.

We only spank for fun but I have a fascination w/discipline spanking. We've touched on the topic but he is opposed to it. I suspect my limits may be somewhere in there but I may never know.

Lee said...

We're still working on that. I would love for my limits to be challenged, but I'm hitting the snag of everytime it gets hard enough for me to say "ow" (you know, when it starts to get good), he stops because he doesn't want to push too much.

Its a bit interesting to navigate that because he is a complete vanilla, and only just understands the idea of pain=pleasure.

littleone said...

testing the limits is kinda my middle name......... i love to see how much i can take... how many different implements can be used.. how long i can last...

what fun!!!

oh and i guess i should mention sometimes i test Sir... to see if He can last as long as i can (poor Sir) .. but as He often says.. He does all the hard work and i am left just "hanging around"

morningstar (owned by Warren)

SPANKEDHORTIC said...

Yes I have had my limits tested and yes I will have them tested again. I have also often tested the limits of some tops, OK bratting at my age is a bit unseemly but it's so much fun :-)

Prefectdt

Anonymous said...

Tested the limits of one partner as part of a game....she agreed that I should set a timer between five and eight minutes, during which I would use a variety of implements but with very solid force. If she didn't use her safe word, she would get a reward, but if she did, I would get one.

She made it to within about 15 seconds of winning, but gave out...I used my hand, a wooden spoon, a rubber spatula, a ping pong paddle (padded) and a light flogger- tied her over a chair and had a very enjoyable time...as was the reward.....

Jim

Thoughtful Spanker said...

I've found that limits a never set in stone, whats too many swats one day isn't nearly enough next week. Too severe today, becomes when does the spanking start tomorrow. The nasty, nasty bath brush changes to a sublime purveyor of pleasure. Limits, at least in my experience are best set by communication, before, during and after the spanking, not just the spoken, watch for cues and clues.

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