tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post911156923050632224..comments2024-03-23T11:22:28.132-07:00Comments on My Bottom Smarts: Potpourri IIBonniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09061952016296339760noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-72882998285690641362009-08-23T19:08:55.674-07:002009-08-23T19:08:55.674-07:00I really enjoyed this conversational post, too. I...I really enjoyed this conversational post, too. It's delightfully done and full of interesting tidbits.<br /><br />I now exchange YIM messages with a few friends, I can only bring myself to type "Ur" or "L8er" on my antiquated cell phone, on which I'm hopelessly slow. Even then, it's mostly tongue-in-cheek to friends who know how silly I think it is. I am also terrible with emoticons. Oh well, I'm glad that the spanking blogosphere has brought me into the 21st century in this way. I often find myself having to hide the source of my newfound expertise in Twitter or YIM.Indyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11949593044223905786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-24836695207357561792009-08-21T21:24:44.807-07:002009-08-21T21:24:44.807-07:00Bonnie, your vacation sounded wonderful. It's ...Bonnie, your vacation sounded wonderful. It's so nice to be able to get away like that, and you remind me how due we are!<br /><br />Very interesting observation about those who fantasize about spanking, and how few don't continue once they've tried it. Maybe in part that is because spanking can be carried out so many different ways and with varied intensity, but I suspect you are onto something about the connection of consistent frequent fantasy and the fulfillment of actually doing. We don't want to do everything we fantasize about, but most things, yeah, deep down we do really want to.Sarahttp://findingsara.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-35825210923670053932009-08-21T07:26:42.335-07:002009-08-21T07:26:42.335-07:00Rob - Thanks. I've received several e-mails f...<b>Rob</b> - Thanks. I've received several e-mails from readers who agree. For those of us who dream about receiving a good spanking, the pain is but a temporary obstacle.<br /><br /><b>Tiggs</b> - Thank you. I really appreciate your support.<br /><br />In all the years, Randy and I have never switched. I can't even get my head wrapped around that concept. I know he's not interested in learning about life on the wide end of the paddle. It's just not us.<br /><br />As I think about this, the issue is not so much the physical act of spanking as it is the D/s aspects. When Randy instructs me to "assume the position" and I comply, that feels right. The reverse would seem like putting on one's clothing backwards.<br /><br />With that said, I wouldn't for a moment argue with your success. I guess we must conclude that each couple has their own unique dynamic. As I like to say, if it works, it's right.<br /><br /><b>Hermione</b> - I'm not sure whether my blogging style is evolving or if I'm just getting too lazy to write a complete post on each topic. Either way, in the blogging world, change is good.<br /><br />I don't see myself becoming a spanking model either. That ship has definitely sailed. But it's fun sometimes to watch and imagine how it must feel for the spankee.<br /><br />Are you considering a blogaversary challenge like Pixie did? As I recall, she got a much stronger response than she anticipated. But it was all good fun.<br /><br /><b>FD</b> - Yes, I completely agree. Thanks.<br /><br /><b>Throck</b> - Welcome! The difference, I suspect, between you (as well as most MBS readers) and your wife is that we have thought about spankings from every angle for years and she has not. This is just not a topic that ever enters the mind of most vanillas.<br /><br />As people naturally do when faced with a question they had never considered, vanillas tend to be hesitant, at least at first. I believe it takes a lot of patience and love to convince a vanilla partner that spanking is not (a) crazy, (b) dangerous, or (c) disruptive to your relationship.<br /><br />Some spankos succeed at converting a vanilla. Others do not. I wish you the very best in your effort.<br /><br />Your blog is linked! :D<br /><br /><b>EmmaJane</b> - Yes, the wood leaves a whole different flavor of ouch. Thanks for dropping by!Bonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09061952016296339760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-44574320230978583982009-08-20T13:45:12.339-07:002009-08-20T13:45:12.339-07:00Hmmm, I have just been introduced to proper wooden...Hmmm, I have just been introduced to proper wooden paddles, can sympathise with the inflamed bottom :)EmmaJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02724090720166508110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-56967099578270190522009-08-20T08:27:54.727-07:002009-08-20T08:27:54.727-07:00Hello Bonnie,
I have to agree with your statemen...Hello Bonnie,<br /> I have to agree with your statement that exploring one's spanking interest in real life is likely to intensify one's desire. That is certainly the case with me. I'm not sure it is the case with my wife, who has spanked me a handful of times but still is not quite "into it," so to speak. My desire to experience spankings at the hand of my wife has become so intense that I have decided to de-lurk in hope of getting advice on moving the relationship forward; a big step for me.<br /><br /> To that end I have put up a blog at SpankableHusband.blogspot.com. I am not asking that you link to it, it is mostly omphalos staring, but I wouldn't mind your comments and criticism.<br /><br /> I have enjoyed your blog for several years now.<br /><br />Regards,<br />ThrockThrockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17879426915839816945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-68914120554849770602009-08-19T05:37:04.015-07:002009-08-19T05:37:04.015-07:00Bonnie: It's a shame that some bloggers steal ...Bonnie: It's a shame that some bloggers steal stuff without credit. I hope that if anybody has done that and is reading your post, they'll go back and give proper credit.<br /><br />And as far as people who say they're interested in spanking liking it once they try it, my feeling is that spankos are hard wired to like it. If they weren't interested, they wouldn't have those feelings in the first place. Don't know if I'm right, but that's my two cents worth.<br /><br />FDFlorida Domhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08785387941624829985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-73662626916789431422009-08-19T05:32:01.566-07:002009-08-19T05:32:01.566-07:00Hi Bonnie,
I love your new style of posting! It&#...Hi Bonnie,<br /><br />I love your new style of posting! It's fun to read. I enjoyed hearing about your getaway, and must confess I am envious of the creative uses of a hotel room that Randy came up with. <br /><br />While I would never actually want to see myself in the position of being in a spanking video, I do try to put myself in the place of the spankee when I watch, and if I can't, I stop watching. The video that comes to mind is Pixie's 2nd blogiversary spanking; that's how I want to celebrate mine.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />HermioneHermionehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15395671806340391253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-6228811801393378212009-08-19T05:30:25.812-07:002009-08-19T05:30:25.812-07:00Such a GREAT point you raise about hardly anyone, ...Such a GREAT point you raise about hardly anyone, ever, not actually liking the spanking once they've dared to try it. I'd add something, too, though... try it at least once from both sides of the paddle, cause even if you are a dominant alpha male or a true Domme, or a natural submissive, EVERYONE has pieces and parts of both sides built into them. Trying it both ways just once can also give you a much better sense of the other person's feelings, emotions, vulnerabilities, etc. Besides, you might find you really didn't hate it as you thought you would... or maybe that your partner actually liked it, too. Just keep an open mind cause you never know until you dare to try it.<br /><br />As for the texting stuff, I SO relate... I hate all things Tweet and text and IM, and don't do any of it. It's absolutely mindless and so intensely time-consuming... nothing about it appeals to me at all. But I know it works for lots and lots of other folks!<br /><br />As to crediting pics or articles or poetry or art... well, you KNOW that I feel strongly about this. And yes, you are certainly right, most folks will happily allow their work to be borrowed, with at least a credit line and link back to their original posting of the work. Anything less is unacceptable.<br /><br />Hugs for this post, Bonnie, and for all your hard work and efforts to bring everyone in our spanko corner of cyberia together collectively!<br /><br />I'm VERY happy for you and Randy that you had such a spanking great vacation!Tiggshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13547847355311812871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-13187092608070697582009-08-19T02:25:02.309-07:002009-08-19T02:25:02.309-07:00Hi Bonnie,
Love your blog, and though I don't...Hi Bonnie,<br /><br />Love your blog, and though I don't tend to comment much, thoroughly enjoy reading it on a regular basis. <br /><br />Something in this post registered with me. You mentioned that even though it hurts, you seldom find folks saying it's not for them once they've tried spanking. I found that in my case. Once my spouse realized I was serious about this and she began to wield the paddle with more authority, I was surprised at how much it hurt, but equally determined to continue. So, while the pain does register (a lot) and there are those moments when I am OTK that I ponder "what was I thinking" we continue with the spankings. I think convincing my wife that this was more than about pain was the hardest thing for her to understand and the biggest obstacle in the beginning.<br /><br />Keep up the good work.<br /><br />RobRobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14574829335913942395noreply@blogger.com