tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post5405079893664515794..comments2024-03-23T11:22:28.132-07:00Comments on My Bottom Smarts: Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Jan 24Bonniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09061952016296339760noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-63223955856893285132010-01-25T16:28:13.204-08:002010-01-25T16:28:13.204-08:00Oh, how I wish I had been aware of this question w...Oh, how I wish I had been aware of this question when you first proposed it! I see - always saw - my blog as a place to explore my submission and exercise my writing, and had always felt it to be a very personal refuge. Dealing with BDSM as it does, as exercised by two very intense people, it is likely more extreme than many of the blogs listed here, though more poetic than nasty. Or at least I like to think that is so.<br /><br />But because of some horrified reactions to a particular fantasy and follow-up comments, I have been forced to censor what I write to protect my privacy and that of the man involved. I resent this, as my readers are visitors at my kinky literary salon, but it was a question of safety. I'm hoping that as time goes on I can take a few more risks in how much of my weird perspective I share. I think that is what people came for, at least to some extent, and it's a pity that I can't be true to my own vision and continue to use my own space to sort out my thoughts about the unexpected path I am following.<br /><br />As for censoring comments, I have done this only rarely. The first time, I deleted a comment when I feared its effect on the man I loved. Unfortunately, it was too late to avert severe damage. I always eventually closed comments on my post exulting over the election of Barack Obama. My blog isn't a political one, but people knew I had worked on the campaign. It was a party I wanted to dance it, and it was rude for people to throw stink bombs.<br /><br />I guess I should make an effort to check here regularly for brunch questions!oatmeal girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12842608615972752000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-6718719852123432342010-01-25T09:23:56.827-08:002010-01-25T09:23:56.827-08:00Hi, recently i have added your blog in mine. If yo...Hi, recently i have added your blog in mine. If you like you can added my blog to! :)<br /><br />Greetings.Spanking Lifehttp://spankinglife.com.arnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-2212358396252531702010-01-25T00:19:38.782-08:002010-01-25T00:19:38.782-08:00Bonnie, thank you for having such a wonderful blog...Bonnie, thank you for having such a wonderful blog. It's really nice to see such a diverse group talk about this stuff in an open and constructive way.<br /><br />I write D/s fanfiction. Primarily, my self censorship involves the maxim that 'actions have consequences'. I try to play that out in-story--for instance,characters frequently reference using BC if they're going to have sex.<br /><br /> I also try to show the CP between the characters as accurately as possible; they talk about things beforehand and the Dom is careful not to abuse his power--and when he does, there are consequences.<br /><br /> I won't show anything I haven't tried personally or that I perceive might be dangerous if done incorrectly--I descovered my fetish as a teenager, via fanfic, and I want the younger people reading to understand that there's way more to this than the CP itself.<br /><br /> Finally, I want my non-fetish readers to understand that D/s/BDSM/DD relationships involve real people--yeah, he spanks her, but they also cuddle, laugh, talk about problems like adults and just enjoy one another, so I try to balance the fetish elements with other things.<br /><br /> Thanks again,<br /><br />Madea's RageMadea's Ragenoreply@blogger.com