tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post3825734643959321653..comments2024-03-23T11:22:28.132-07:00Comments on My Bottom Smarts: Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Sept 13Bonniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09061952016296339760noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-52999652612897186502009-09-13T23:40:22.743-07:002009-09-13T23:40:22.743-07:00Everyone is agreed on the communication part; ther...Everyone is agreed on the communication part; there is some grey area around when the trust arrives on the scene!<br />I would think it unlikely for open, honest communication channels without trust; (you would not confide your innermost desires to someone you did not trust, someone who might recoil in horror, mock you or gossip about you!) but, gradually, as you open up to someone and they do not let you down, the trust becomes established, so you open up more of yourself. This has to be a gradual process or you are leaving yourself wide open and vulnerable to hurt. Something we often recklessly do the first time but from that painful lesson on, are much more careful! Our souls are fragile, its easy to break a heart, and sticky tape never mends it completely.<br />I agree with Tiggs, in that, from the beginning of the SPANKING relationship, the trust must be there, solid and unshakeable, but from the beginning of the actual relationship, it must be built up and stand the test of time....before the spanking subject comes up... gosh, how many of us have waited 2-30 years to broach the subject of spanking to our partners, whom we love dearly, and trust "completely", for fear of their reaction???!!!!!<br />You cannot fully trust someone without allowing TIME to play its part in proving that the trust is justified...once that test has been passed, channels open and you can be open and honest about secret thoughts and desires, knowing that your partner will not think you are weird/depraved/seriously in need of counselling!<br />What a wonderful subject, Bonnie!!!!xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxDaisychainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10327195200946342709noreply@blogger.com