tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post1287083477563038277..comments2024-03-23T11:22:28.132-07:00Comments on My Bottom Smarts: Q and A: Spanking ResearchBonniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09061952016296339760noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-66241367317289430392008-08-20T03:37:00.000-07:002008-08-20T03:37:00.000-07:00once a consentual soanking agreement is in effect ...once a consentual soanking agreement is in effect there are certain proceedures whch <BR/>must be developed in a punishment whipping. it should be sure that the bottom is turned red and the spanker is not fooled by the spankee carring on by crying and begging to stop. the one getting punished must end up with a bottom that will be sore enough so the recipient wont forget & defintely aware the misdoing will never happen again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-80346897471068110082008-08-17T17:44:00.000-07:002008-08-17T17:44:00.000-07:00Hi there. I just wanted to say that I am enjoying ...Hi there. I just wanted to say that I am enjoying your blog very much and have added you to my side bar as this weeks recommended read. I hope that you will stop by sometime. <BR/><BR/>Keep up the good work!<BR/><BR/>taiahAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-30350919036157980032008-08-16T19:32:00.000-07:002008-08-16T19:32:00.000-07:00Everyone - Thank you for your generous words. I r...<B>Everyone</B> - Thank you for your generous words. I really didn't intend to speak for our whole community. After all, we have many different tastes and values. I offer my experience and thoughts as merely one of numerous valid perspectives.<BR/><BR/>An interesting side note is that our student friend is performing research for a women's studies course. I warned her that spanking (and all BDSM) is looked upon with suspicion, if not utter disgust, by many academicians in this field. I told her that almost any other topic would probably be easier. To her credit, she believes that this information needs to be shared with the world.<BR/><BR/>The final question is one I added because I thought the subject couldn't be truly understood without exploring the boundaries. I really like Daisy's answer.<BR/><BR/>This was a fun exercise, and hopefully a beneficial one as well.Bonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09061952016296339760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-19801983246365703042008-08-16T16:56:00.000-07:002008-08-16T16:56:00.000-07:00I agree with everything you say. I have read seve...I agree with everything you say. I have read several blogs that border on abuse and the women thinks it's perfectly acceptable. If you can't say no or have an opinion then it is abuse whether it's mental or physical..."The concept of punishment is foreign to us. He is no more qualified to stand in judgment of my behavior than I am for his."...I find this to be so true..mthchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10337700677733209175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-22605492159427435702008-08-16T00:40:00.000-07:002008-08-16T00:40:00.000-07:00I appreciate and whole heartedly agree with your r...I appreciate and whole heartedly agree with your responses regarding DD and feminism. Its increasingly difficult for me to come to grips with that part of my sexuality while constantly interacting with men who regard women as weaker, in all senses of the word. Some days I get concerned that I'm doing my gender an injustice by having the feelings towards spanking that I do. Luckily, I read your blog which sets me right back on track again (and does the same thing for all of your readers). Well written responses to the study. I do wish *I* could do THAT research study (I'm guessing my school cannot yet handle it....).<BR/><BR/>LeeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-15846771857376694022008-08-16T00:16:00.000-07:002008-08-16T00:16:00.000-07:00Terrific answers - the questioner picked a good pe...Terrific answers - the questioner picked a good person to interview.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-90084968701143228082008-08-15T23:24:00.000-07:002008-08-15T23:24:00.000-07:00I especially like your answer to question #10. Som...I especially like your answer to question #10. Some of the women in DD aren't truly empowered.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-3080560803541213412008-08-15T09:47:00.000-07:002008-08-15T09:47:00.000-07:00Great job, Bonnie! Thank you; in representing you...Great job, Bonnie! Thank you; in representing yourself so eloquently, you ended up representing me very well indeed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-22761839510246964512008-08-15T09:45:00.000-07:002008-08-15T09:45:00.000-07:00Bonnie-Radagast is absolutely right. The spanking ...Bonnie-<BR/><BR/>Radagast is absolutely right. The spanking community couldn't have a better spokeswoman. Well done.fannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12153742181301479867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-89301288248229123652008-08-15T08:35:00.000-07:002008-08-15T08:35:00.000-07:00Bonnie,Beautifully said! You speak so well for so ...Bonnie,<BR/><BR/>Beautifully said! You speak so well for so many of us. You are able to put into words the feelings of our hearts and help us to understand ourselves better. Thank you for your eloquence!<BR/><BR/>Sallysally4lvphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07953425796196299058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-378411105718838142008-08-15T02:57:00.000-07:002008-08-15T02:57:00.000-07:00BonnieYour answers gave me neck ache because I was...Bonnie<BR/><BR/>Your answers gave me neck ache because I was nodding so much reading them!<BR/><BR/>They are well considered and clear and the whole tone of being frank and matter of fact but with insight and warmth is really impressive. In a few interviews I have heard recently addressing this topic people have sounded a little defensive, or like spanking evangelists.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for speaking so eloquently.<BR/><BR/>I can't wait until I am as able as you to articulate where I am with all of this and where I am going:)<BR/><BR/>Best wishes<BR/><BR/>Olivia<BR/>xOliviaMannershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17185920649570209079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-49265480079734483052008-08-15T02:00:00.000-07:002008-08-15T02:00:00.000-07:00Like the commenters (and friends!) above, I agree ...Like the commenters (and friends!) above, I agree that your answers were excellent: smart, rational, clear, fair.<BR/><BR/>Very well done, and thank you!Constancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15973742182151593381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-456591701982176392008-08-14T14:42:00.000-07:002008-08-14T14:42:00.000-07:00You always say things so clearly, concisely, yet e...You always say things so clearly, concisely, yet eloquently!<BR/>THANK YOU!<BR/>Jean MarieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-35069486873061824602008-08-14T13:50:00.000-07:002008-08-14T13:50:00.000-07:00Outstanding responses. Extremely well done.Outstanding responses. Extremely well done.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-28152423009518064352008-08-14T12:24:00.000-07:002008-08-14T12:24:00.000-07:00Great responses to the questions asked. Thank you ...Great responses to the questions asked. Thank you for representing our community so well.Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13249413260289822708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-66226870975900782202008-08-14T10:21:00.000-07:002008-08-14T10:21:00.000-07:00Bonnie, I absolutely agree with you on all, but wa...Bonnie, I absolutely agree with you on all, but was particularly interested in #9....as practising christians, what we choose to do re: DD/recreational spanking is personal choice as with any other lifestyle choice.<BR/>The Bible preaches love and mutual respect; DD is entirely in keeping with this, but without DD love and respect are still possible!<BR/>Also, re: #10, in domestic violence, fear and anger is the theme, with the beaten partner not in control. <BR/>With DD, the spanked partner is in ultimate control, because the instant the safeword is invoked, the spanking stops; spankings are carried out in love and respect, with the dominant partner being calm and in control of his /her emotions, and the purpose is to either have mutual fun, or to correct attitude etc....LOVE is the key!SO I guess, the difference could be said to be that in Domestic Violence, control is TAKEN, in DD, control is GIVEN.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-49847886240916762622008-08-14T05:45:00.000-07:002008-08-14T05:45:00.000-07:00Wonderful answers, Bonnie! I hope your correspond...Wonderful answers, Bonnie! <BR/><BR/>I hope your correspondent or someone like her goes on to study spanking and related practices among the general population. I've been amazed at how little reliable information there is out about our broader community. I suppose it's hard to find a representative sample for such a study. After all, many university researchers get their test subjects from Psych 101 classes, and I suspect a lot of us don't embrace our interest until much later.Indyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11949593044223905786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-37712637773239187402008-08-14T04:21:00.000-07:002008-08-14T04:21:00.000-07:00Fascinating, Bonnie.I'm certain your answers were ...Fascinating, Bonnie.<BR/><BR/>I'm certain your answers were extremely helpful to the questioner, and will also be so to many readers. <BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>HermioneHermionehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15395671806340391253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-1632010539761760932008-08-14T03:43:00.000-07:002008-08-14T03:43:00.000-07:00Bonnie, brilliant answers, from a recreational spa...Bonnie, brilliant answers, from a recreational spankee's viewpoint.<BR/>In general excellent answers.<BR/>Warm hugs,<BR/>Paul.Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03790580459962602757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-87853132976205548122008-08-13T20:37:00.000-07:002008-08-13T20:37:00.000-07:00I thought that the answers you gave were most exce...I thought that the answers you gave were most excellent, concise and to the point. I could never have been able to put it into those words and am glad you were the spokesperson for the community to this woman.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-57510061417261195982008-08-13T20:04:00.000-07:002008-08-13T20:04:00.000-07:00Bonnie, I loved your answers. They were not only w...Bonnie, I loved your answers. They were not only well said, but also gave me a much better view of who you are. Apparently your smarts is not just confined to your bottom!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com