Monday, May 09, 2011

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for May 8

I hope everyone had a lovely Mothers' Day and did something thoughtful for the mothers in your life (if you didn't, it's not too late for partial credit). Our question this week dealt with specific moments when you realized that spanking would be a permanent part of your life. Here are your responses.

Xantu: It was during a blow-up, an argument early in our dynamic. I got angry and declared that I was not ever going to let him spank me again and that all this silliness was finished once and for all. My Master, being a man that never turned away from a challenge, proceeded to demonstrated how very wrong I was.

Because what I crave most from spanking is feeling his strength and determination more than the actual pain or physical sensation, that was when it clicked. I knew I could never live without his domination.

OnHerKnee: Sorta...

After my very vanilla twenty year marriage, I decided that I would never again settle for a 'vanilla' relationship. Specifically, I would not hide my kinky side or secret thoughts. They had been suppressed by comments like, “that’s disgusting” or, “How could anyone ever do those things?”

My first post separation date netted my first ever BJ, and while it was happening she reached up and pinched and twisted my nipples. Suddenly, I became very aware of the connection between pain and pleasure and all of those thoughts that had never before had answers or fulfillment.

Kady: I definitely had one. We began our spanking mostly in a slightly erotic way, to make JJ more comfortable with the idea. Then, during my first punishment spanking, which wasn't all that bad, the closeness I felt to him was unbelievable. I wanted it to always be a part of our relationship.

There came a time when I wondered whether I had pushed JJ into something he didn't really want, and that it was only for me. I bravely gave him the freedom to back out of our spanking relationship. He was appalled and very dominantly told me it was here to stay! I never felt so loved and in my heart, I knew we were in this for the remainder of our lives. I am still amazed at what a spanking of any kind does for my heart, and I'm glad it's something we both want, and that it's HERE TO STAY!

Uncle Nick: Nope, I never had an epiphany, as spanking has always been a normal part of male-female relations to me. The first time I put a girl over my knee was when the pair of us were fifteen and I haven't stopped since.

JW: For me, it came through reading erotica. I was drawn over and over to stories that involved spanking, particularly the ones defined as domestic discipline. When research revealed to me that this was a real lifestyle that others engaged in and just not fantasy, I knew that I wanted it with my husband. I wanted it desperately. I was terrified that he would reject it because he was such a quiet and gentle person. But he didn't. I knew for certain that I never wanted to turn back when he took a belt to my behind when I was out of control. It returned serenity to my soul. I'm pretty sure he wouldn't want to go back either.

Doris: Thanks for asking my question! I'm another person who always thought and dreamed about being spanked. My Rubicon moment really didn't have much to do with spanking, except in my head. When I was in middle school there was a boy named Jack who was always in trouble. He was paddled at school often and didn't care who knew about it. I was a good girl so I never even saw a paddle, but I wondered what it would be like.

One day, Jack was standing right behind me in the lunch line. As we moved our trays forward, he took an extra step and in the process, bumped the back of my skirt with his hand. I was a young teenager and a bit naïve, but I never believed for a moment that was a mistake. He felt my butt.

The realization that this guy who was so familiar with corporal punishment was taking an interest in my butt shot through me like a bolt of lightning. I blushed, but I didn't tell him to stop. In the years that followed, my fantasies were filled with visions of being spanked by Jack or maybe alongside him. We didn't discuss what happened and he never did it again, but that day my spanking interest became permanently linked into all my sexual desires.

Welcome, Doris!

Six of the Best: As a school-boy in England, I had an urge to spank one of my female teachers. I wanted to bend her over her desk, raise her dress, take down her knickers, and cane her bare bottom. I would give her six of the best strokes on her naked rear end.

Hermione: I've had two. The first was when my husband introduced spanking into our lovemaking. I wrote a post about that wonderful night. The second occurred after a lengthy hiatus. We reconnected and I realized that spanking was something that I loved and craved. That story was told here on MBS.

Alice: Spanking as a fantasy has been there for a very long time, but spanking for real has only just come into my life. So what I am experiencing now is not so much an epiphany as a "coming home," and it is a warm and wonderful feeling.

Lea: I don't think there was one particular moment or experience that made the light bulb go o.n It's something I've always had on my mind to varying degrees. There are memories that stand out to me, like in elementary school when we read The Whipping Boy. I have quite a dog eared copy of that book even now. Also, there was a time when I was at a friend's house and her father spanked her while I was waiting outside and hearing the whole thing. That's a vivid memory.

As an adult, spanking has only been in practice in my life for about two years. Things are constantly evolving. It's been a fun ride so far.

Make Mine Red: Well, I'm not sure. Spanking has always turned me on, even when I was way too young to know what "turned on" was. It started when I was about 4 yrs old and my Mother made good on the promise to give me a spanking I'd never forget. She spanked my wet, bare butt really hard with the belt. I remember crying, screaming, and trying to squirm away. But there was nowhere to go. She just kept spanking me and at some point turned the belt around and used the buckle end. Then I remember the red welts shaped like the belt, each hole & even the buckle as well as the heat of it.

I dreaded and hated being spanked as a child, but thinking about it has always had the same effect on me ~arousal. So for most of my life I fantasized about it, but kept it to myself. It was about two years ago when our sex life had become less than exciting that I just blurted it out one night. I thought I would like it if he spanked me. Maybe that was my epiphany? I don't know, but I'm sure glad I finally shared that fantasy!

David: For me, it was the first time I felt the clothes brush bristle side on my bottom. It made me sit up and pay attention.

Michael: Spanking has always been imprinted on my DNA, so while there was no Rubicon moment per se. However, there was a moment of confirmation the first time I spanked a girl when in my early teens. It was an affirmation that this was me and it was OK to be this way and it was the way I was always going to be. I did not synthesize it in those words, but it was something I felt in my gut. It was a true validation.

Season: I was born with the spanko gene and had a lot of the usual experiences others have written about on their blogs. As a child, I recall getting that funny feeling whenever there was a spanking on a cartoon or TV show, hoping my fascination didn't show on my face, looking up the word "spanking" in the dictionary, and re-reading mentions of spanking in books, like Little House in The Big Woods, Caddie Woodlawn, etc. As I grew and matured, I gradually became aware of the connection between spanking and feeling aroused. I think if there was a Rubicon moment for me, it might have been when I was 15 or 16. I was babysitting and after the kids were in bed, I looked through the bookshelves and found "Everything You Always Wanted To Know About Sex But Were Afraid To Ask." Somewhere in there, it talked about spanking being part of foreplay for some people -- a light bulb went on. Aha! I am not the only one! And it DOES have a connection to sex. At the same time, I was learning what sex actually was, too (through reading about it, not having it -- that would wait for a couple of more years). Alas, getting a spanking would wait a couple of decades. But I'm making up for lost time now!

Curtis: I've known since second grade when a beautiful teacher picked up a classmate, put him over one knee and gave him a birthday spanking, which I felt in certain places. I did everything Season did in spades (it was an era when spanking was very prevalent and very much approved, so there was material everywhere -- in the family, other families, in school, in comics, in movies, in books, in dictionaries, etc.). I started playing in the seventh grade and knew I wasn't alone in the eighth. The only question was, of course, was how to play out my desires. I believed that what I was into was untoward. I wondered how to maintain my little secret. But I used every opportunity to engage.

My one sadness was the nearly fifteen year hiatus because of an ex-wife who played spanking games in courtship, the five years we lived together and for two years when we were married. Then she announced she didn't like it, but by that time, we had a child. When he was nearly college age, I connected again, divorced, and for the past six years, I have been engaged in spanking. I know now that a vanilla relationship is not for me.

Respecting Mistress: I've always been fascinated by corporal punishment, but my first 'moment' came when reading a story called 'The Flogging of Helene' in a Fiesta magazine that a friend brought to the house when I was off school with a leg injury. Although it was fiction, and it was M/f (and I was most definitely into F/m), I realised for the first time that other people had a similar fascination. I was fifteen at the time...

My second moment came when Mistress attempted to cane me the first time and fell on the floor in a fit of giggles. That one moment convinced me what I already known for some time - we had the makings of one hell of a relationship!

Prefectdt: No, there was never a Rubicon moment (at least I never remember crossing a small stream with thousands of Roman soldiers, in order to conquer Rome). Spanking has always been there as long back as my memory goes.

Emily Winters: A Rubicon moment is actually perfectly fitting for me, especially when you consider that I may as well be married to Caesar! The first time Nigel ever spanked me, he said, “Like it or not, get used to it.” Yep. I willingly stepped right into the stream and have been fording it ever since. Thank goodness! What worlds we've conquered! Vini, vidi, vici!

R: My Rubicon moment was the last hiding I ever got at school back in the 80's. I got twelve with the strap from my assistant headmistress and it was then that I knew. I've blogged about it at length. Ever since, well, I just knew.

Bonnie: Like so many others in our community, I was always interested in spankings, be they mine or others. In my early years, I wondered whether this obsession was sick or weird and mostly kept these thoughts to myself. I later experimented with boyfriends, but found little satisfaction. They didn't understand. When Randy and I finally got around to spanking, we clicked immediately. I wanted him in my life and spankings were (and are) an integral part of our relationship. If I have one eureka moment, finding my spanko soulmate was it.

Thanks, everyone, for sharing your experiences at the Rubicon!

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