Monday, February 14, 2011

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Feb 13

Our question this week concerned five things that make a spanking better. Here are your suggestions.

Dioneo:

1. A partner
2. Dialog
3. A reason (even if pretend)
4. Enthusiasm!
5. Thank you's

Luna:

1. Music
2. Comfortable position
3. Rhythm
4. Ramping up
5. Sex afterward

Abby:

1. Leather toys
2. Hand warm up
3. OTK
4. Rubbing
5. Length: the longer the better!

Just a Girl:

1. Anticipation and/or dread, depending on the circumstances
2. Lasting effects and lingering feelings
3. OTK and being held either forcefully or lovingly while it's happening
4. Communication before, during, and after
5. That it's with the one that I love

Hermione:

1. Leisurely, not rushed
2. Leather implements
3. Laughter
4. Lasting soreness
5. Loving partner

Six of the Best:

1. Partner
2.Type of scene
3. The type of clothing the lady wears before she must bare her bottom
4. Spanking implement (cane)
5. Sexual activity after

Prefectdt:

1. Building or reinforcement of the trust bond between spanker and spankee
2. A nice clean bit of floor to look at whilst you are over that knee, desk, or whatever
3. Endorphins and someone who knows how to get you into subspace
4. A good pause between serious implement strokes so that you can process and savour the changing nature of the pain
5. The knowledge that you will be doing this again :)

Raven Red:

1. The anticipation
2. Complete trust
3. A spanking that breaks down in me what needs to be broken down
4. A warm, red and tender bottom
5. Comfort and softness afterward

Anon:

1. Anticipation
2. Serious scolding
3. Bare bottom
4. Leather strap
5. Cornertime

Velvet:

1. The smell of Him so close to me
2. The sound of His breathing as he leans over me
3. The taste of the gag which will muffle my sounds
4. The touch of His hand softly stroking before He begins
5. Anticipation builds... and the blindfold hides my sight

Xantu:

1. Strong hands holding you down
2. Having no control of intensity or duration
3. Knowing that he is enjoying this
4. Feeling loved
5. The loose, warm, relaxed, tingly sensations that linger

RosieBee:

1. The dreamy, content, happy, state of mind afterward
2. The warm up
3. Successfully submitting physically and mentally – In other words, taking my spanking without fighting, complaining or topping from the bottom
4. The after soreness
5. Happy husband, happy wife, and happy household

A-Non:

1. Rubbing, before, during, and after. A little back rubbing with the left hand is nice, too
2. A nice, long warm up
3. Gradual removal of skirt and panties, with sets of spanks on each
4. Sexual play. Sorry, that's just how I like it
5. Surprise. Every spanking should have some small element of surprise. Perhaps the fact that you're getting one is a surprise, or a brief flurry with a certain implement is, or the position is

Curtis:

1. Physical contact via OTK with hand and bottom on couch or bed
2. Long languorous spanking
3. Rubbing
4. Arousal
5. Personal, physical, and/or intellectual chemistry

KellyRed:

1. Duration
2. Leather impliments
3. Being tied or held
4. The element of surprise
5. Sex – before, during, and/or after

Our Bottoms Burn:

1. Anticipation
2. Sexy clothes and undies
3. No need to rush
4. Playful banter and laughter
5. Something unexpected

Just five?

Respecting Mistress:

1. The anticipation
2. The lecture to remind me of my failings
3. The sting of the thin Dragon cane
4. A good collection of stripes
5. Long, loving hugs and kisses afterward

Daisy:

1. The anticipation/anxiety – Having to wait for it to begin and wanting it to start, yet dreading it!
2. Once in position, the lecture in that firm, brooks no nonsense, sexy voice
3. A long, slow warm up
4. Once it starts in earnest, a break between each stroke to process the pain and wait for the next, hopefully with a stern voice scolding
5. Aftercare such as rubbing, lotion, icepack, cuddles, reassurance, and maybe more ;)

Pink:

1. A tight connection between partners
2. A lecture, with lots of eye contact
3. A warm-up, including an unveiling in parts: over pants, then over panties, then bare
4. A progression of implements and positions
5. Snuggling afterward

Ronnie:

1. Taking time
2. The Anticipation
3. Lecturing
4. Aftercare
5. Lasting sting and redness

Abby Williams:

1. Open communication, ranging from deciding whether we're going to share the selection of implements or if I'm at his whim/mercy to being told "This is going to hurt." I like knowing the parameters so I can find the necessary headspace. In addendum, I love being included and knowing that the experience is for both of us.
2. A long, slow warm-up with lots of rubbing and massaging. Cold spankings, whether in a cold room or on a cold bottom, are just awful.
3. Being told that I'm taking my spanking well. I love when Mr. W leans down close to my ear and tells me, especially after a few hard strokes, "You're doing so well, young lady." Sometimes he'll do this even when I haven't been doing the best job of taking it, but he knows I'm trying. It reminds me that we are partners, that we love each other, that he knows I want to keep playing but I need encouragement to do so.
4. Laughter, often from something unexpected, makes a spanking memorable.
5. I'll jump on the sex bandwagon and agree that sex afterward is almost always a must. Sex and spanking go hand in hand in our household. There have been a few times where the experience itself has been enough, but the levels of intensity required for a spanking alone to satiate both of us is a lot to muster on a random Tuesday. At this point in my life, I'd rather have an intensely fun spanking than an intensely painful one.

Michelle Carlyle:

1. Being chased down
2. Being wrestled to the bed
3. Having my pants torn off me
4. A really good whacking with one hand underneath on my clit
5. Outrageous sex

Thanks, Bonnie! Now I'm really horny! Where is my HUBBY?

D:

1. A plump firm bottom that bounces nicely under my spanking palm or paddle
2. S, not in the nude, but wearing 'ordinary' clothes such as a skirt around her waist, panties around her knees, and her lower parts adorned in stockings and suspenders
3. S gently but securely tied so that she can not move her bottom away from my stinging hand
4. Her blazing red cheeks, hot and quivering after her spanking
5. The final sex, whilst she is still firmly bound in the bent-over pose, bringing her to a fine climax, as my loins grind against her hot sore cheeks, and I pound away inside her

Emanuele Lombardi:

I really love spanking, but it's difficult to name just five things to improve the experience. These busy days can detract from enjoying it for both parties.

How about these?

1. A quiet setting without distraction
2. Enough time, no deadline, and not being rushed
3. Being in sync, both aroused and ready
4. Without a doubt, not sick or tired
5. The ambiance of a fire or candlelight

These things improve the experience, but sometimes you have to accept things as they are.

OnHerKnee:

1. The anticipation from the promise that tells you "You're getting a spanking" and knowing nothing that you say or do will change that, but could possibly only make it longer or more severe
2. The summons... “(my name), come here now”
3. The order to "Drop 'em"
4. The warm-up rub and even the warm up slaps that put you at ease knowing you are under the control of the one who loves you and will make sure you feel considerable pain, but never let you be hurt
5. The cornucopia of sensations afterward such as aftercare, making love with a sore ass, and the heat, sting and soreness, especially when it lasts for days and reminds you with every prang of pain that there is someone who loves you enough to spank you

Uncle Nick:

1. A decent reason - you may not believe me, but I don't just spank for fun!
2. A nervous girl who will do anything to avoid what is now about to happen
3. A comfortable chair for me to sit on because I like to be relaxed when I am correcting a wayward wench
4. Lots of kicking, wriggling and squealing, especially as the panties are lowered
5. A subdued, obedient young madam when it is all over

MarQe:

Happy Valentine's Day

Thomas: Hmm.... What makes a spanking better?

1. A lovely bottom to spank. For my personal tastes, I like a bottom with a little plumpness and pertness. I'd say that a touch more than "pleasingly plump" but a touch less than "Rubenesque" would be ideal.
2. The right outfit for the scenario. I'm partial to short skirts that have some openness to them. Pleated or loose-fitting skirts are best. I don't care much for tight skirts or long dresses. About mid-thigh is perfect.
3. Skin that marks easily. Maybe it's just me, but I like to see the results. If it's for discipline or punishment, I want to know that I've done my job. If it's for play, then I'll probably amuse myself by dragging my fingernails across her bottom and watching the little white lines follow my fingers around.
4. A good reason is always a plus. However, I tend to accept "just because" as a good reason if other reasons aren't forthcoming. Flipping a girl across my knee after she's been a brat is certainly a favorite. I like the suddenness of it.
5. The perfect place to give the spanking. Some of my personal favorites have been the parking lot at Taco Bell, the parking lot at Denny's, the parking lot at Walmart (sensing a pattern here?), and the men's room at Ryan's Steakhouse (you should have seen the look on her face as I yanked her in, and the look on the waitress's face when I walked her back out). Usually, the "best place" is wherever she brats me and ends up earning it (See item #4).

Bonnie: Just to be sporting, I intentionally didn't choose any that I mentioned five years ago.

1. A drawn-out warm-up
2. A purpose for the spanking, even if frivolous
3. Humor makes everything better
4. Just enough ouch when I need it to really hurt
5. The feeling of contented fulfillment that follows

Thanks, everyone, and Happy Valentines Day!

1 comment :

sixofthebest said...

Hi Bonnie, Here's hoping you had a spanking good time, this past Valentine's Day. As you can see by the massive response. Your bygone question of about five years ago, was a good one. And hopefully there will be more of the same.

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