In with the New: Abundant Blossom Edition

Here are fourteen excellent new blogs for your reading pleasure.

Beauty's Surrender

Come Play with Me

Confusing Territory

Delicious Submission

Feminist SubMission

Insatiaboo

Peppered Backside

Rogue's Awakening

The Sassy Submissive

Spanking Debs

Spanking Taylor

Steel Rose

The Sting and the Slap

XOXO, Beth

To these new members of our community, I bid you welcome. If you would like some blogging tips and suggestions, try these. In any case, we're really glad you're here!

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Mar 27

Our topic of the week was spanking machines. Here are your thoughts.

Xantu: Being spanked by a machine? I have absolutely no interest in that. For me, the key part of any "scene" or "play" is the dynamic between the two people (or more if you play that way). It's the flow of energy between Master and me. I just can't imagine having any kind of submissive feeling for a machine, or any kind of feeling for that matter.

Perhaps it would be different if my Master were there, talking to me, touching me, or even just watching where I could see him and sense his energy. But then it would not be the machine, it would be him.

In one of my novels, I had my characters buy and experiment with a fucking machine. Then the submissives decided the machine had the soul of a rapist. It took and never gave. One of them said to their Master that if he had not been there, she would have fought with it and tried to kill it.

Hermione: Sure, I'd love to try one (or two, or several). I think it would be a hoot and I'm pretty sure Ron would enjoy watching, especially if he was the one at the controls.

From a practical point of view, it would be very useful for someone who didn't have a spanking partner.

PK: I used to think about a spanking machine long before I had a spanking partner. I'd like to be able to adjust the intensity to match my mood. As for a real spanking machine, I think the biggest problem would be that it's going to hit the exact same spot every time. THAT is something that would not be fun!

Daisy: Oh, gosh, yes. That's a good point, PK! I was about to comment that it would be handy for our situation. Davey could order me to set it at a particular intensity/quantity, and watch on cam as it spanked me. It's not ideal, but a solution until we were together. But I say no way. At least with self spanking, loathsome as it is, I can direct each swat to the least painful spot! And, where on EARTH would I store it so the kids would never see it?

Raven Red: I have seen a couple of clips where some sort of spanking machine or another is being used. But I can honestly say that it is not for me.

Uncle Nick: Back in August of last year, I posted a clip from a video called the Spanking Machine along with the story of how the police ended up raiding the set where the video was being shot!

Lea: Sure, I'd try just about anything once. However, I can't imagine that anything would be better than the skin to skin contact of a spanking between two people.

Annapurna: My preference is spanking between two people, preferably over the lap. I don't have any interest in machines. I love to feel a hand spanking my bottom, and I love to spank using my bare hand. It's so intimate. A machine is the complete opposite of intimacy.

Six of the Best: Absolutely NO. 100% NO. Can a machine give me the pleasure of spanking a naughty woman's bare bottom like using my hand, paddle, hairbrush, birch rod, or cane? Absolutely Not.

Emily Winters: A spanking machine would give me about as much pleasure as my favorite vibrator. It would be all fast action and no heat. I need a hand, paddle, or other implement rapidly used, and a mind behind those things to decide just where and when they should be applied. Even with Nigel's frequent trips away, my vibrator is no match for the man himself, and neither would any machine be able to spank in tune with my emotions, my body language, and my squeals. Now if you will excuse me, this topic has got me rather worked up. I need to go find some batteries...

Rusty: The whole machine thingee makes me cringe - not for pain, but from nausea. LOL. When I was in grade school (back when we used slate and/or stone), there were rampant rumors about a spanking machine hidden in the Janitor's Closet (of all places!). Of course, I believed it. If you could have seen him, you would understand my terror. Nobody knew what it looked like, we just "knew" that it existed, to be brought out at a mandatory assembly one Thursday afternoon. We ALL were sick with fever that morning and didn't go to school! I like/prefer the more personal one-of-a-kind treatment. ;)

Michelle Carlyle: I'm with Emily, almost verbatim. I like the struggle, the feel of a man's thick thighs under my hips, his warm and strong hand, the human contact. However, I would not object in any way to witnessing the usage of um... any of the machines! I'm very curious. Although I have had some fantasies of being spanked on a whipping horse, I don't think I'd like the execution as much as the fantasy. I need the personal contact.

Prefectdt: I tried and failed to build one. My attempt is well documented on my blog. I will try again, but getting the materials that are needed is sometimes difficult.

Michael: A spanking machine may be more a flight of fancy, though as Hermione said, it would be very useful for a spankee who doesn't have a partner. For a one-time experience, it would be interesting to strap my Season into one and see the results. But I much prefer the hands-on experience and tactile feel of our skin touching each other. Her bare thighs over my bare thighs... and other parts. Nothing compares to my hand connecting and caressing Season's bare bottom flesh.

Anon: It could be fun one time or used at a party.

Scunge: I've seen one at a large party and it was a hoot, but it's not for a serious session. The ability to control where the swats land and the element of surprise are totally gone. The spankees did jump and said it stung, but they were also laughing. ;)

Luna: A good pro-Domme friend of mine owns one. It was a gift from one of her clients when she found out she had several damaged disks in her back. She uses it on high pain days when she has a client. It has a remote control that she can use and a camera pointing on it so that she can control it from her bed upstairs. It's quite interesting the way it has worked out for her use. Her slave stays with the client to monitor them and change out spanking implements at her request, but she still controls the frequency and intensity.

I'm not interested in one personally. I love to feel the closeness of the person administering the spanking/paddling.

Ronnie: It could be fun to try it once, I need the personal touch of my husband. I agree with others who said it would be useful for anyone who doesn't have a partner.

Houston Switch: I have seen videos and read about these spanking machines. As has been discussed, the only issue is the lack of movement of the implement and contact area, so the bruising and marking come quickly.

Even so, I would love to be a bottom and to administer a spanking with one at least once...

Dr. Ken: I have no interest in such a machine. I enjoy applying the palm of my hand to a female bottom far too much to turn it over to some nuts-and-bolts surrogate.

Bonnie: I was interested to read Rusty's response, because I remember schoolyard rumors about a secret paddling machine. One kid had a cousin who lived in a neighboring town where they actually used it (or so she said). It was supposedly similar to the chair type described in the article. They also reportedly had something called an electric paddle where one touch would render the spankee's bottom sore for hours.

I never wanted to be in trouble at school, but I was very curious about all of this high tech punishment equipment. In bed at night, I wondered if it would be possible to somehow sneak into the school in question and see (or even maybe try) the spanking machine. Every time we drove through that town, I could think of little else.

Moving back to the present, yes, I'd try it. But I would probably want to see it demonstrated on someone else first and proven to be non-lethal. It could never replace my husband, but as Emily suggests, it might serve the same role as a good vibrator.

Thank you, everyone, for joining our brunch discussion!

MBS Spanko Brunch #271

Let's talk about spanking! Our topic this week was inspired by a recent post by our friend Natty.

Spanking machines of various designs have long been a source for many spanko fantasies. What do you think about real or imaginary spanking machines? Have you any desire to experience, witness, or own such a device? How might it be used and upon whom?

Joining our discussion is easy and fun. All you need to do is enter your thoughts in the form of a comment below. At the end of the weekend, I will collect, edit, and post the responses.

Radio Startle

Randy and I were driving in the car the other day. He was listening to sports radio. At the break, a Chrysler ad said, "People in the corner office shouldn't corner the market on wood and leather."

Egalitarian spankos in the corporate world. How about that?

Bonnie Asks ...and You Respond

Thanks to everyone who contributed thoughtful, clever, unexpected, and humorous answers to my questions. Here are some of my favorites.

Question #1: Why do many men assume that all women with large, round bottoms must be into spanking and/or anal sex?

Answer #1 (Daisy): It has nothing to do with SIZE. If a woman has a bottom, men want to conquer it.

Too much conquering makes me sore!

Question #2: Does our spanking community contain a disproportionate number of very talented writers? If so, why?

Answer #2 (Raven Red): Being part of a community where your desires and fantasies are understood and appreciated makes writing easier.

Yes, it sure does...

Question #3: What is so humiliating about men wearing women's clothing?

Answer #3 (Emily): As long as they're happy, who cares?

That's an excellent point.

Question #4: Why do trolls attack some blogs/forums and not others?

Answer #4 (Dieseldiva): Trolls are just like the naughty child who repeatedly gets into trouble because any attention is better than no attention.

That's why the best way to get rid of a troll is to ignore them.

Question #5: I know there is a large segment of the spanko population that appreciates mature female spankees. However, this interest is rarely reflected in commercial spanking videos. Why?

Answer #5 (Emily): Because not everyone has been fortunate enough to see Erica Scott in her element.

If any video producers happen to be wandering through, please know there are lots of us who love to see energetic, intelligent quadragenarian and quintagenarian spankees (especially Erica!).

Question #6: Why do men (yes, more than one) want to buy my panties? Do they intend to wear them, frame them, or use them to strangle some sort of domestic poultry?

Answer #6 (Wordsmith): We all have our little hobbies, Bonnie. Any pink ones left?

I am wearing a pink cotton pair as I write this. But I still don't get it!

Question #7: Why would a top/dom think he can give orders to a bottom/sub who he doesn't even know?

Answer #7 (Erica): The short answer? Arrogance and inflated egos.

There seems to be a lot of that going around.

Question #8: Why are most spanko blogs authored by female bottoms? I've attempted to answer this question before, but it was pure speculation.

Answer #8 (Lea): I think women can be better at expressing their feelings and putting things into writing in order to make a blog enjoyed by many.

My speculation was along those lines.

Thanks, everyone, for making this concept worthwhile and fun!

Bonnie Asks

I have a long running series of posts called Ask Bonnie where I respond to questions submitted by readers. Sometimes, the results are informative. Other times, the questions and answers can get downright silly.

Today, I propose to reverse this process. I'd like to ask several questions of MBS readers. These are questions to which I truly don't know the answer, or maybe I do, but think it can't be as simple as that. So, I ask you, dear reader, to help solve these puzzles.

Question #1: Why do many men assume that all women with large, round bottoms must be into spanking and/or anal sex?

Question #2: Does our spanking community contain a disproportionate number of very talented writers? If so, why?

Question #3: What is so humiliating about men wearing women's clothing?

Question #4: Why do trolls attack some blogs/forums and not others?

Question #5: I know there is a large segment of the spanko population that appreciates mature female spankees. However, this interest is rarely reflected in commercial spanking videos. Why?

Question #6: Why do men (yes, more than one) want to buy my panties? Do they intend to wear them, frame them, or use them to strangle some sort of domestic poultry?

Question #7: Why would a top/dom think he can give orders to a bottom/sub who he doesn't even know?

Question #8: Why are most spanko blogs authored by female bottoms? I've attempted to answer this question before, but it was pure speculation.

What do you think? You don't have to answer all of these questions, but any insight you provide will be appreciated. In the process, perhaps we'll all learn something.

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Mar 20

Our topic this week was classic films we would like to rewrite and/or re-enact to include spanking. Here are your responses.

Serving B: I cannot think of a specific movie, but there was something about Barbara Stanwyck that I always found appealing. She was such a strong leading lady, in both film and television, that I think I would very much have enjoyed spending some time across her lap.

OnHerKnee: As a spanker I think McLintock. There's lots of spanking in that classic flick. I can't think of any as a spankee.

Michelle Carlyle: There was a Saint episode that totally caught my eye as a kid. Roger Moore he spanked a very spoiled twenty-something. As an adult, I'd probably go for the Thin Man movie where Nick spanked Nora. I can't remember which one it was.

Six of the Best: Thank you, Bonnie, for honoring me, as the question of the week. My personal favorite movie would be Roots of Heaven. In it, an elderly gentleman spanks Madame Orsini, the big game huntress who wishes to kill elephants needlessly. The gentleman most embarrassingly raises Madame Orsini's dress, and upon her bare bottom delivers solidly 12 good spanks in front of all her friends. For me, this spanking scene, was a big turn on.

Prefectdt: There was no spanking in the 1945 version of The Wicked Lady, but I would have liked to have been spanked by Margaret Lockwood. She was just so harsh in that film. I would have been in an extra scene, where she offers the stable hand (that being me) the choice of a good thrashing or having her tell lies about me to the master, which would have have resulted in me losing my job and home.

Emily Winters: I favor Gone With the Wind, a Hollywood production with British leading lady Vivian Leigh. Rhett's line, "You should be kissed and often, and by someone who knows how," should have read, "You should be spanked and often and by someone who knows how!"

It's one of my favorites. I know it is trite, but yes, Scarlett O' Hara, spanked by Rhett Butler. If anyone deserved it, it was she. And it brings to mind our own little bedroom play. Nigel as a Yankee soldier and me as a recalcitrant southern spy... Mmmm... Thanks... I think I have somewhere to be... Oh, yes, my costume closet!

Newport's Sub: My choice would be to be spanked by Emma Peel from The Avengers. The way she overpowers men is a turn-on and all that leather... Wow.

Hermione: Elizabeth Taylor in National Velvet should have been spanked for being silly enough to risk her life riding in the Grand National Steeplechase. Mickey Rooney also deserved a paddling for encouraging and enabling her.

Raven Red: It would be more a television series, Bonanza, with Adam Cartwright (Pernell Roberts) being the spanker.

I LOVE the spanking scene in the episode "Woman of Fire." Uncle Nick actually posted this on his blog just for me.

Uncle Nick: I'd choose Clarke Gable, without a doubt. In my dreams, I am that man!

Dr. Ken: I'm tempted to say, "None of them." Hollywood movie spankings are just too damn short for my liking!

Oddly enough, I would NOT pick McLintock. I'd rather use my hand on Maureen O'Hara's lovely bottom than a coal shovel.

If I had to pick one, I think I'd be Elvis Presley in "Blue Hawaii". That young lady deserved a good spanking, and since the scene faded out while the spanking was still going on, I can mentally pretend that it lasted as long as I want. :-)

Simon: There are some great answers and I too would have enjoyed being spanked by Diana Rigg as Emma Peel, being over her leather clad lap would have been delightful. I can just imagine her ordering me over in that beautiful voice of hers.

Anon: I prefer Trouble in Carson's Gap. It's a recent spoof western. A protesting Erica Scott is hauled over Steve Fuller's lap, and her long skirts tossed over her back for several hearty spanks to be applied to her old fashioned bloomers. Then despite further protests, down come the bloomers to her ankles, and as she squirms, wriggles and yells, a really prolonged sound spanking is applied to her shapely bare bottom, which goes on for some eight minutes, leaving it glowing red. I'd like to be Steve!

Ronnie: There's no spanking, but Casablanca is my choice. It's one of the best films of its era. I imagine being Ingrid Bergman and being spanked by Humphrey Bogart. :)

Cara Bristol: These are very interesting movie selections. Most are classics rather than current movies and the actors/actresses are from a bygone era as well.

Bonnie: I would wish to be a Bond girl, like Jill St. John in Diamonds are Forever. That film needed a good spanking and Sean Connery was just the man to deliver it! Yum...

Our Bottoms Burn: Bacall says she would want to be Scarlett and be spanked by Rhett. Knowing Bacall's limits and how much Scarlett needed to be spanked, she just might have gone out on the limb a little too far.

Come to think of it, I would really like to tie in to Scarlett myself. I see a play scene coming up. Oh Bacall...

Thanks, everybody, and see you next week!

MBS Spanko Brunch #270

Welcome back, my friends. It's the weekend and time to talk about spanking and related topics. Our question for the week was suggested by our friend, Six of the Best.

If you could choose a role in one of Hollywood's classic movies, and spank or be spanked in that movie, which one would you select?

To join our conversation, please enter your response in the form of a comment below. Once everyone has had their turn, I will post an edited summary.

Ask Bonnie

You asked. I answered.

Question: How do you find all of those new blogs?

Response: I discover them in numerous ways including search engines, Blogger and Wordpress keywords, friends' links, people who friend or link me, and just dumb luck. Sometimes, bloggers make it easy for me by introducing themselves.

Question: Have you been spanked while actually wearing pantyhose?

Response: Actually, I have.

Question: I wonder if you can help me to understand the mind of the female spanko. What do you think about when your OTK and being hit by a paddle?

Response: I'm not qualified to speak for every female spanko, but I can share my experiences. When I am being paddled, my first thought is usually closely related to the pain in my backside. As the spanking progresses, I often get into a groove where I can ride the pain and not be overwhelmed by it. Eventually, sometimes, I can almost separate myself from it. Endorphins kick in and I can enjoy the experience. Spanking is inherently sexual for me. Even if I am not turned on during a spanking, I generally feel that way shortly afterward.

Question: I live in your town and I would love to get together for spanking and maybe more.

Response: While I appreciate your friendly overture, I am married, monogamous, and play exclusively with my husband. Sorry.

Question: do u chat????????

Response: No, I find it easier to converse in English.

Question: Ive noticed that blogs on your blog roll come and go. What's the deal with that?

Response: I will add any spanking-oriented blog to my blogroll provided that it's not purely commercial, spammy, extreme, graphic, or exploitative (in my opinion). Blogs that are not updated for two months generally lose their link. I try to restore links for bloggers who return, though I sometimes don't notice right away.

Question: Will you update my link?

Response: Certainly, with pleasure!

Comment: A very nice butt indeed

Response: Thank you

Question: i love to spank, but also......... to eat that phat ass. do you like your ass eaten? oh i'm so rude sorry, i'm _____, and must have you. i cant believe your in your 50's wow

Response: I'll bet you say that to all the girls...

Question: Are you by any chance from Buffalo?

Response: No, but we used to know a couple who raised bison.

Question: do you ever have a problem with creeps who find your blog?

Response: Not really. I've had remarkably little trolling. For whatever reason, they seem to be more fond of the DD blogs. I get the random rude comment or e-mail, but those become grist for Ask Bonnie.

Question: Do you think it hurts more to get spanked while bending over?

Response: Yes, in general, I think it does. When the skin is stretched tight, the padding beneath becomes less effective as protection.

Question: If I send you an [unsolicited] free copy of my new book, will you review it for your blog?

Response: Probably not. If the book is not primarily about consensual adult spanking, there's no chance it will be reviewed for MBS. If you do convince me to read it, I'm not going to take the time to review a book unless I can endorse it. I occasionally plug a book for a good friend, but that doesn't happen very often.

Comment: I'll bet your sexy panties smell like spring rain......

Response: You must live in a very strange climate

Question: Are there any artistic nude or semi-nude shots of you in your gallery?

Response: I don't go into the gallery unless I'm fully clothed.

Question: How can I learn which search words are used to find my blog?

Response: Install a counter on your blog. It's not very difficult and you will learn a lot about your audience and their preferences.

That's all folks!

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Mar 13

Our question of the week dealt with the spanko number and whether it might have some applicability in the real world. Here are your thoughts.

Xantu: If, and it is a big IF, Master allowed me to play with others, then yes, I think it would be nice and even probably important to know exactly what they get out of spanking and other aspects of play. But I think I would want to know more than their number.

Uncle Nick: Nope. When I trim up a chit, the severity is based on her delinquency. Sure, I enjoy spanking a girl, but it is a punishment and I don't do it without good reason. If madam wants to avoid my right hand, she can either take her hook or learn to do as she is told.

Justagirl: I don't play. In the event that I didn't have the boy (horrible thought) and had to date again, it would absolutely help to know his number. Since I don't play and want real disciplinary and sexual spankings, I would be disappointed in someone who took it all too lightly. Pun possibly intended...

Raven Red: Still on the numbers? Just keep the lower ones for me, please!

Hermione: I'm not comfortable with thinking of someone in terms of a number. It seems too much like the pop psychology personality tests inflicted on groups of office workers. Once you're labeled as "green," "purple" or whatever, it influences how people see you and interact with you.

I am interested in all three types of spanking. However, until now, I have only experienced sexy and fun ones. In the unlikely event that I would ever be in a position to interview a potential spanking partner, I'd like to discuss the matter him and find out his preferences. There are too many gray areas to rely solely upon a single digit.

Michelle Carlyle: The spanko number works for me. I fantasize about real spanking – that's what really gets me off. But if a guy abruptly spanked me in real life, I'd rip his larynx out. However, it would turn me on if the guy was a real spanko and wanted to discipline me, but we agreed to limit our spankings to playtime. Just for that bit of realism. So yes, I'd like a number, just for communication purposes. Maybe it could be a starting point for "The Conversation." But I don't think the number should limit you. It shouldn't be used in black and white terms. Otherwise, you run into the labeling problem that Hermione brought up.

Abby: Yes, to a point. I see the numbers as being fluid. You may start off thinking three and end up thinking one through seven!

Emily Winters: Instead of numbers, how about rating one's level of spanking interest? There could also be a scale for rating the spanking itself. A one would be on the light end, while I really think we could easily go up to 100 with my way of thinking! Of course, my bottom may not agree...

Our Bottoms Burn: OK, we will be the odd ones and say, yes, a number would be most helpful. If their number included discipline, we would take a walk.

Pink: I'm not as interested in what someone's number is, but in how he would actually interact with me. D's number, before me, would have been almost strictly in the discipline area, having been a disciplinarian for years. That would have scared me off. His number with me though would land more in the sexy area. People's experiences and tastes change depending on who they're with. So their numbers are bound to fluctuate too.

Velvet: Beginning a new relationship is fraught with difficulties at the best of times. In principle, I like the idea of narrowing the field and speeding up the introductions by finding someone with a compatible number. In reality, I know there are no short cuts. For me, a relationship is about deep trust and that comes from a slow journey of discovery and not from waving my number five card in the air.

Prefectdt: I think a number might be useful, but we have to remember that they are just another sort of label. I am not against all labels. They are a useful guide, but they are just that, a helpful guide and cannot represent who a person is as a whole.

CurtisG: I don't know about numbers. I do know that I want sufficient knowledge of my partner to be assured that our interests and levels of play are similar.

Lea: I think it could help, but with any spanking partner, there's a much broader discussion to be had before playing.

Annapurna: I fully understand that at the beginning of any relationship, especially where more than spanking is anticipated, the most important aspect is mutual attraction and trust, followed by time. It may take quite a while for two people to develop mutual trust, admiration, and closeness. So it might very well be a good idea to begin any spanking play on the lighter, more fun side than to plunge immediately into more intense play.

Daisy: I think as an initial idea to see "what page" each person is on, it is a helpful guide and would be a good point to initiate discussion.

As we all know, the main thing in TTWD is GOOD COMMUNICATION!
When first meeting, it can be quite intimidating, so to have this little diagram would open up the dialogue in a fun way. There's no substitute for good old discussion though!

I would like to add that play is not something I am into. I had to be very sure that Davey was my partner for life before there was any chance of discussing personal feelings such as TTWD or sex. Neither of us would want to bring a third party into the picture.

Hobbes: It would be helpful since compatibility on this aspect of my private life is very important. The person would need to be some kind of a four since having fun is essential for me and I do find it highly erotic. To not have either would diminish my interest and enthusiasm to the point of not doing it.

It doesn't matter for me because I have been delightfully monogamous for forty years. I seek no one nor would anyone have me even if I were single. [Very interesting Venn diagram!]

Heather: I think it would help for newbies to spanking looking for new partners, etc. Spanking does mean different things to different people.

Bonnie: I guess I should have worded the question more carefully. I didn't intend to propose using the spanking number in lieu of normal conversation or raising it above a dozen other essential considerations. What I meant to ask was whether it had any value in simplifying discussions about spanking.

Thank you to everyone who shared their spanko number and/or their thoughts about its real world applicability.

MBS Spanko Brunch #269

Hello again, my friends, and welcome. Earlier this week, I proposed the concept of a spanko number that characterizes in very general terms one's spanking interests. For our brunch, I'd like to take the question a step further.

When meeting someone new for possible play (or perhaps more), would it be helpful to know their spanko number?

I'd like to hear your opinion. Just document your thoughts in the form of a comment below. Once we're finished with brunch, I will post an edited summary of the proceedings.

What's Your Spanko Number?

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Mar 6

Our topic of the week was counting. Here's what you had to say...

Uncle Nick: Nope, never, and I never even thought to do that. I think it has more to do with caning than spanking and I prefer to put the recalcitrant over my knee to bring them to heel.

One thing I do is alternate the spanking with the lecture. I started doing this about seven years ago in Cuba, mainly because I was sweating. It gave me a chance to rest, but I must admit that I quite like it.

On Her Knee: Rarely. If I'm the one being spanked, it is annoying. I've been known to lose count if there are some particularly hard smacks. This becomes very frustrating with the automatic restart.

Six of the Best: For punishment spankings, I ask the naughty lady to count out the cane strokes. For romantic interludes, I count in the swats in silence, given with a paddle or hairbrush.

Hermione: Ron has counted silently on occasion, during my birthday spanking and the time we did 24/7 (twenty-four swats from each of seven implements). I have never had to count, and it isn't a part of our regular play, but that's not to say we may not try it some day.

Heather: I have had to count in the past, and sometimes J counts them out while delivering them. But it's not something that happens regularly. I don't particularly like it because I focus more on the count than the actual spanking. I find it harder to let go and really feel my emotions when I'm focused on anything besides the spanking.

Raven Red: Having to count the strokes aloud? Ye gods. Isn't corner time enough?

Fred Bloggs: I've never been a counter, as a top or bottom. I don't really see the point. It's about spanking, not maths!

Scunge: I HATE counting! Counting is usually done during discipline sessions. I think he does that so I will stay focused. But it's hard to go into subspace when you are counting.

There is one counting thing he does for fun. He says, “OK, you are getting 22.” Then he starts counting, “5, 2, 10, 9...” This totally cracks me up. Sometimes, he even says the right number at the right time, but not often. I count PROPERLY in my head. He rarely gets the right count this way, but it is fun. ;)

Xantu: I have never been directed to count. The only time I tried it, Master took it as a challenge to vary the frequency in order to deliberately mess me up. Obviously, counting was not part of his plan.

Indy: I never particularly mind counting. Sometimes I find that it makes the scene hotter. I particularly like to be made to count if I'm playing hard with a new partner or pushing my limits in some way. It gives me some control of the pace without feeling like I'm in control. It also gives my partner a good feel for how I'm doing. That makes it feel safer and makes me less likely to panic, a feeling I don't enjoy in spanking play.

Velvet: I've never been asked to count spanking or flogging, only caning. Usually, he tells me how many I am to receive and I count silently. Sometimes, he tests me by saying the wrong number. The count usually does not matter as there will be extras for making a sound, too much movement, a mis-landed stroke (hardly under my control!) or just because my bottom is too tempting or provocative.

Darling C: I've never been made to count strokes. I don't think I would enjoy it. Would I do it? If I were told to do so. But if I had a choice? NO WAY. I think it would be a distraction.

I had to do corner time once where every so often He would ask me how long I'd been in the corner or how long I had left in the corner. It was very distracting and I don't think I got the number right once. And I couldn't even remember why I was sent to the corner. I'd probably get distracted, lose count and have to start again.

Michelle Carlyle: I don't like counting. We've never done it. I like an organic, lusty, spontaneous spanking. And I never know how many strokes it will take to make me come. Sometimes it's a lot, sometimes one or two. But I think counting would distract me and make the thing more clinical or something.

Little Butterfly: He makes me count during discipline sessions. I don't much like it because I often lose track. Plus, it keeps me strictly in the here and now instead of letting me drift into sub-space... That is probably the point.

Make Mine Red: We've never tried counting. I'd be willing, but I really prefer a faster pace than that allows. One time for a birthday spanking, we both counted silently. I don't know which of us lost count, but I think I got more than my age! That was OK with me though. :)

Curtis: The only counting I've engaged in was part of birthday spankings. I have a friend with whom I meet twice a year to celebrate her birthday and mine. She likes me to hand spank her for the years she has lived and the current year, as in 2011 (doing that right takes a bit of counting). I have also given and received a factorial birthday spanking – that is one spank for one, two spanks for two, until you reach the correct age. This technique also requires a bit of overt counting.

Zelle: I hate counting! I lose my "I'm being spanked buzz." ROFL This is otherwise known as, "That headspace I'm getting into on my way to subspace-ville." LOL

On a side note, with my Top, as the spanking nears an end and since the progression has gone from hand to an array of implements, it seems that he always leaves one implement (belt, strap, or a wooden paddle I dread) until the very last. He's a teensy bit sadistic that way. LOL Anyhow, he says, "We will now be counting these ten swats, young lady." To which I say, "Hey? What's this "WE" stuff!" I am then told, "That will now be fifteen swats we'll be counting. Is there anything else you'd care to add?"

The moral of this story is that I don't mind counting at the end. THAT'S JUST HOT! (in more ways than one!) LOL

Annapurna: I'm usually the one to request the counting. It slows the pace and adds ceremony to the proceedings. But counting or not, I'm still able to reach subspace and speak at the same time. However, while counting, my voice has an other world, trance-like quality.

Lea: It's not often, but I've had to count strokes during a spanking. I have no strong feelings about doing it. If it's part of a discipline spanking, it keeps my mind engaged in what's happening and not wandering to "huh, I need to vacuum in here later." LOL

Our Bottoms Burn: We sometimes count the final paddle swats, but more often we don't. Bacall silently counts whenever I tell her how many I will be giving. I guess she wants to make sure they are all delivered. More often, however, there is no set number.

Prefectdt: I enjoy counting, especially cane strokes. It seems to add a nice slow metronomic element to the caning. I can also state that this is the most effective way to learn to count in another language.

Dana Wagner: My hubby and I don't count, because our spankings are always the fun/sexy kind. Previously, though, I have been spanked in a disciplinary setting. Then, I counted the final paddle swats after a thorough spanking. I had to ask for each one (“May I have the first one, Tim?”) and thank him after for each one. This formality served as a kind of a humiliation factor like corner time in the discipline setting.

Hobbes: I don't count aloud, but there is usually a stated number before the spanking begins and sometimes even a negotiated number. So we count, just not aloud. Sometimes, our silent counts seem not to agree. It's kind of like those little arithmetic errors in the check book. The differences seem to cancel out in the long run, so arguing the case would not be wise anyway.

DD: I'm amazed. There are so few countings!

During a punishment spanking, I am always expected to count. Not spanks or paddle strokes, but cane strokes. It focuses me, although sometimes he helps.

Anon: Now that my wife has started to spank me on a regular basis, she tends to get carried away. This is, of course, a good/bad thing as she paddles me very hard. However, by counting silently, I can deal with the fire in my buns much easier. I know that after about fifty blistering smacks, endorphins kick in and the target area gets numb. After this happens, I can "enjoy" the rest of the spanking.

Bonnie: My answer hasn't changed much over four years. We still employ counting occasionally to add to the ritualistic feeling of a spanking.

One in a while, Randy asks, “Would you like to count or shall I do it?” This is a no-win scenario, at least for me. If he counts, he routinely under-counts the swats. However, if I count, he makes certain that I mess up and earn extras. Either way, I get a whole bunch more than the advertised number.

Thanks to everyone who added their experience and insight to our brunch. I hope you'll join us again next weekend!

MBS Spanko Brunch #268

It's the weekend again and time to discuss this thing we do. I've revived a classic topic from back in 2007.

Counting out swats as they are delivered is a time-honored spanking ritual. It brings an air of formality to the proceedings. If the recipient is the one counting, it makes her an active participant in her own spanking. Our brunch this week asks your thoughts on counting.

Have you and/or your partner counted strokes during a spanking? If so, did it enhance the experience? To what extent is counting a regular part of your repertoire? If you haven't counted before, would you consider doing so? Why or why not?

If you would like to contribute to our brunch discussion, I invite you to leave a comment below. I would love to hear what you think.

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