Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for August 29

Our topic of the week was spanking bets. Here's what you had to say.

Scunge: I "write" enough checks that my butt can't cash NOW. I'm not going to add to it with betting! ;)

Barely Pink: I have actually. And it was quite a surprise.

I'd been on a vanilla dating site and found someone reasonably interesting. We were playing pool when he said, "You know what would help you focus? A spanking."

My heart stopped. And I guess my face betrayed me because then he dove in to the bet.

If I lost, I'd get spanked. If I won, he'd buy me another round.

Keep in mind that this was someone I'd only been out with twice before. We hadn't even kissed at that point.

Interesting bet. And I lost. But that's another story.

Hermione: As a matter of fact, we often bet a spanking on the outcome of some event. I have written about it on my blog.

Naomi: I can't say that we ever have. I'll have to remember this for the future!

R Humphries: MBJ and I often play betting games during our plays. We have one of those make-your-own monopoly sets and it is completely designed around the fictitious facility featured in our books. We use the Community Chest and Chance cards to establish the penalties and rewards. We also play ‘Spankgammon’ to enhance our scenes.

Considering that we are a strictly top and bottom relationship, this is all pretty brave of MBJ. It is hardly surprising that she seems to spend every spare moment playing advanced Backgammon on her iPhone! It’s a lot of fun.

Abby: My Master is a Yankees fan. I have been a Red Sox fan my whole life! So yes, we often bet on the outcome of games. No, I don't get to spank Him. Usually, if the Sox win, I get to choose position or toys or a back rub. If He wins, He is in charge. LOL That's a big change!

Make Mine Red: We haven't. Not yet anyway. But it sounds fun! We do, however, have the discipline dice from Cane-iac and they are quite enjoyable :)

swan: We have, over the years, played a number of spankng games, but only once (that I can remember) was there an actual wager. Master once wagered a spanking that the quarterback of the Indianapolis Colts football team, Peyton Manning, was surely African-American. There was no convincing Him otherwise, as the name "Peyton" seemed to Him to be clearly "Black." That wager was NEVER COLLECTED, and so remains -- to this day.

Daisy: Oh, yes. Davey devised a card game where, the turn of a card determines how many and with what implement. Only hearts were my free pass. It's fun!

Michael: We haven't used spanking to settle a bet, but I will suggest it now. We often use a random lottery ticket as a means of setting the number of strokes. For example, a ticket that appears as:

     2-8-15-25-35-42

might be interpreted by my wife as 2 minutes with the hairbrush, 8 with the cane, 15 with a paddle, etc. If I get a text to buy a lottery ticket, I don't have to guess what is in store for me that evening. And who knows? We might even win!

Ronnie: No, I can't say that we ever have used spanking to settle a bet, but it could be a fun way.

Susan: David took me horse racing. All of my bets lost and before the last race, I was skint, but I really fancied a big gray horse in the last race at 18-1. I asked him if he would give me some cash to back it.

He grinned and said, "OK, if you win, you keep your winnings, but if you lose, you get a spanking to make you more careful."

"A what !?" I asked.

"A spanking. Eighteen smacks on that cute bottom of yours." With that, he patted the tight seat of my tweed skirt.

I gasped in surprise, but said, "All right then, but my bot is quite safe because that horse will win". After it lost by miles, David smiled, "I'm going to enjoy this." Surely he wasn't going to spank me on the race course. "Perhaps we had better go home."

An hour or so later, I nervously followed him into our house. Cheeks flaming, I said, "I suppose we had better get this done. I can't wait."

He sat down on the sofa. "Right, get that skirt up and yourself over my lap." "But, but," I protested.

"I said I would spank your bottom, not the seat of that thick skirt. Now over you go ". I wriggled up the tight skirt around my waist. David patted his thigh and I bent over. I felt his hand on the waist of my panties. "No, no. Not on the bare, please," I pleaded.

"Panties are not bare bottom" and down they came. He pushed me down so that my bottom thrust up firm and taut. Of course, David had seen my bare bottom many times, but this was just so undignified.

His palm landed with a resounding smack on my right cheek. "Ow, that stung," I squealed. By six, my bottom was really smarting, and I was squirming over his lap. By twelve it was blazing, but I was starting to feel very sexy as well. At eighteen swats, I felt as though I would never sit down again, but I was also randy as hell.

"There. Let that be a lesson, Susan." I scrambled to my feet hugging my poor buns. "Enjoy that?" he asked. "Actually, yes, and you are going to enjoy this".

I leaned forward, released his rampant member, straddled him, and sunk my well spanked bottom and eager sex onto him. That was the start of my spanking career, and my bottom has been regularly spanked and more by David ever since.

Spank-A-Lot: I have numerous times and now that I think about it, this is a really interesting and good way to broach the topic of spanking with a vanilla in an "ice-breaker" kind of way. It doesn't scare anyone off and it's really fun sometimes.

Elisabeth: I have never had a spanking bet, but that sounds like fun! Hmmm, what wager can I make with Sebastien tonight?

Bonnie: Yes, we do play games where my bottom and ability to sit comfortably are at stake. As others have observed, it can be tremendous fun!

Thanks, everyone, and I hope to see you here again next week.

MBS Spanko Brunch #241

Hello again and welcome to our community brunch. Here's a fun question that I can hardly believe we've never discussed before now.

Have you ever participated in a bet that involved spanking? If so, what were the terms of the wager and how did it play out? If not, would you or your partner consider betting your bottom?

If you would like to share your experiences and insights, just enter them in the form of a comment below. Once everyone has registered their thoughts, I will post an edited summary.

Jennifer Lopez: Proud of Her Butt

Earlier this year, Jennifer Lopez was quoted as saying, "It's true I could serve coffee using my rear as a ledge, but I'm proud of my butt. A dress shouldn't look like a coat hanger. Skinny girls miss out."

Coffee, huh? I never thought of that!

Love Me Tender

I was a grump last night. Two members of our community (and possibly more) were recently forced to disappear. The cause was a storm of unprovoked abuse hurled by people who cannot accept alternative lifestyles or the people who practice them. It makes me mad because it's just not right.

Had I written this post last night, it would have been quite different. However, given a good night's sleep preceded by some percussive persuasion, I now have a much happier disposition. Tonight's post is a love story. The intended audience is those who do understand.

On Friday evening, Randy and I shared dinner on the patio at a popular casual restaurant. The place was crowded, but our meals were excellent. We enjoyed the band as well. After we finished eating, we felt obligated to surrender our table to the next group of hungry diners. But we wanted to stay and hear some more live music.

We found an open space behind the dining area, but facing the band. Randy leaned against a railing and pulled me back toward him. The next thing I knew, his hands were in the front pockets of my jeans and I felt his telltale ridge poking me from behind. After a quick glance right and then left, I answered his grind by rotating my hips in time with the music.

“I love how hot you look in those jeans,” he crooned.

“Just wait until they come down...” I cooed with anticipation.

“I believe I owe you a spanking.” The last word stretched an extra syllable for emphasis, but none was required.

“Tonight would be a good night to collect.” I turned in time to catch the sparkle in his eye.

With that, we decided to trade guitar music for a turn at the bongos. In the car on the way home, there was relatively little conversation. I think he might have been devising his plan for the evening. I know I was wondering what all it might entail.

Once at home, Randy wasted no time. He sat in the middle of our living room couch and guided me face down across his lap. This classic position is very comfortable for me (beyond than the obvious) and I felt as much at ease as one possibly can immediately before a spanking. He left my jeans up to begin. He expressed appreciation for the way they encased my womanly curves and he rubbed all around my bottom, my hips, my back, my legs, and my crevice. His caress made me long for more of his touch.

The first swat impacted against my right cheek. My dreamy trance was broken by the acute discomfort of a real spanking. Left. Right. Left. Right. The alternating pattern was rhythmic in an unnerving way. It hurt, as every spanking should, but the extra protection and my state of arousal shielded me from all but a rising feeling of stinging warmth. I love those sensations. I was vaguely aware that my bottom was lifting to meet his hand, though I don't recall consciously trying to do so.

Randy kissed the back of my neck as he asked me to get up momentarily. When I did, he lowered my jeans, but left my panties in place.

“That's a nice little swatch of red you've got peeking out there, Missy.”

“Yeah, spankings do that to me,” I quipped.

Randy soon began again using his stiffened hand as one would a paddle. My bottom hurt, to be sure, but only in the most terrific way. We soon settled back into a steady pace. He spanked. I flinched, or moaned, or exclaimed any of a dozen short expletives. He spanked again.

Eventually, my panties had to fall as well. When he positioned me kneeling on the seat of the couch, I imagined he was preparing to unleash a handy implement, perhaps his belt or something from the kitchen. However, rather than continuing with the spanking, my man jumped straight into lovemaking. He reached around me from either side and stimulated my nipples with touches as light as the wings of an angel. He again kissed the back of my neck. After all these years together, he knows just what illuminates my lamp.

Next came a flurry of kisses applied progressively down my spine. I shivered with delight when he reached my glowing bottom and planted one wet smooch on each side. After following up with a few well-placed swats, Randy's fingers explored my love nest. My readiness was immediately evident. The intercourse that followed was brief, but passionate. We were both so turned on, our tango could only have finished in this way.

I love my dear husband, and never more intently than when he guides me through this roller coaster of sensations. The pain amplifies the pleasure and the pleasure makes the pain desirable. Neither could be as enjoyable alone.

I challenge anyone who would criticize our lifestyles to try to convince me that the last thirty years haven't been wonderful or that spankings are somehow bad for me. I am a liberated, college-educated adult woman and I am absolutely capable of making own choices and giving my consent. I not only allow, but sometimes encourage, my husband to spank me because we both enjoy it. A married couple who express their love for one another within the privacy of their bedroom (or occasionally the living room!) seems like a mighty wholesome arrangement.

In with the New: Back to School Edition

Here are thirteen new spanking-related blogs. I invite you to visit, read, comment, and welcome.

A Beautiful New Way

Art of the Spank

Confessions of a Spanked Army Wife

Erica Scott: Life, Love, and Spanking

Little Miss Alexia

Madame Spanks

Me and My Spanking Desires

My Alter Ego

My Life, My Lemons

Punished Brats Blog

The Musings of Miss MacKenzie

Turquoise Ants

Under Cover Spankee

To all of the new members of our community, I hope you find friendship, fulfillment, and fun. If you would like some blogging tips and suggestions, try these. We're glad you're here!

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for August 22

Our question of the week is actually five questions posed by our friend, romance writer Cara Bristol:

1. How well defined are discipline and authority in your relationship?

2. Do spanker and spankee each have specific expectations within the relationship?

3. Do both parties have equal decision-making power in matters outside of discipline?

4. Are there specific behaviors that result in a spanking?

5. What thoughts and feelings do you experience before, during, and after a spanking?

Here are your answers:

Mick:

1. We are in a never ending process of defining discipline and authority.
2. Yes, we each have expectations in this aspect of our relationship.
3. No. The dynamics go across the board. Although there are some things that she is more qualified to handle, I am ultimately in charge.
4. Yes, there are specific behaviors that will always incur a spanking for her.
5. Coming from my perspective as spanker, I'm usually angry at a behavior of hers. Then I calm myself so I can reevaluate what has happened. I'm apprehensive at insisting on a spanking because I know that she'll be upset. During the spanking, I feel relieved and aroused. Afterward, I usually feel very tender and affectionate toward her.

Bonnie:

1. Ours is a somewhat unique relationship in that we don't practice DD in any conventional sense, yet I am submissive and I yield to his authority when he chooses to exercise it. I think our lines are well defined, but he can and does move them occasionally.
2. Yes, absolutely. My husband expects me to fulfill his desires. I expect that he will accept the gift of my freely given submission, love me, handle me in a caring way, and protect me from harm.
3. Yes, for the most part. We each have general areas of responsibility outside of the bedroom.
4. Yes, but not in a punitive sense. These are more unspoken signals between us. For example, if I leave out an implement or wear a thong, a spanking will inevitably result.
5. I've written entire posts on this subject. But in summary, there's apprehension and anticipation before. While I'm being spanked, my emotions range from trying to maintain control to panic when I can't maintain control, and hopefully, to peace and release when I remember that I can surrender my control when it's to someone I trust. When the spanking is over, I typically feel relaxed, revitalized, and usually, sexually aroused. I also feel very connected to my husband. My feelings are completely exposed. Lines of communication are never more open.

Cara: Mick and Bonnie, I appreciate your comments. I do have a couple of follow up questions. Mick, you said during the spanking you feel "relieved." Relieved about what specifically? That she consented to the spanking or that the matter is out in the open?

And Bonnie, you said that during a spanking you're trying to maintain control and panic when you can't. Control over what? Control over the spanking itself or your emotions to it?

Poppy:

1. It's very well defined. I like that he is in charge and he is the kind of person that thrives on that. And yet, in another way, it's not at all defined. We so much embody the roles that we don't have to define them or set out limits and parameters because this is who we are. So, it's defined, but not explicitly explained.
2. We expect him to be in charge and me not to be. He spanks and observes and understands me, but I also have an understanding of bratting and not being mean. I take care of him too. We have normal relationship expectations as well as the more unusual ones. I do expect him to define, observe and deal with poor behaviour. He expects me to expect this.
3. As long as it soothes us both. I decide what we eat very often, but I also cook more than he does. Sometimes, if I am anxious, I need him to take over more decision making because it makes me feel secure and then he will. But as for work and general life, we are pretty equal.
4. Spanking offenses include rudeness, lies, swearing, and not doing as I am told. I am sure there are more. But it is not entirely cut and dried. It is more about him seeing where I am and what needs to be done. The way he manages me leads to me feeling deliriously happy and relaxed. I suppose it is an attitude thing. When a poor attitude takes form, that leads to a spanking.
5. Before a spanking, I may feel anything from rage to sadness to cocky disbelief to happy, silly brattiness to fear. My feelings during a spanking depend upon where I started, but it is always a journey that ends with submission. I relax and accept and the spanking ends after that point. He says he can see it and feel it when I get there. Sometimes, it takes two spanks. Other times, it takes ages and lots of horrible positions, but he gets us both back to where we need to be.

I hope that was not too long winded. These are big questions.

Mick: Cara, it's more that the matter is out in the open. Before we started this, conflicts would hang over us for a long time, but a spanking helps us put issues behind us.

As it were...

Liz Lips: I get spanked by Dan for not eating, not resting, not listening to him or any other associated self destructive behaviours I manifest.
I love and adore the developing trust and confidence I have in our marriage.

Daisy:

1. The discipline and authority are below the surface, really. For all intents and purposes, we are completely equal. But if we disagree on anything, we each state our point of view. He then either concedes that I have a point or decides that I don't! At this point, no matter how much I know(!) I am right, I will defer to him. I promised to obey, after all!
2. Yes. I expect and love the fact that he truly wants the best for me. He wants to help me develop and grow and be the beautiful person he knows I can be. He expects that no matter HOW angry I may be about something, I WILL listen to him and quiet down when he asks me to.
3. Oh yes. We are both equals, as I said. He often defers to my ideas because we both acknowledge the talents each has and we both know our individual strengths and weaknesses. We complement each other. Its like salt and pepper. They are always found together, yet each has a uniqueness that the other cannot supply.
4. The absolute reason I get spanked is failure to control my temper. I get progressively louder, and despite him warning me several times, I usually end up yelling at him in frustration/anger/sadness etc! At some point, he will issue the final warning, "Daisy, your mouth is writing a check your ass won't want to cash..." But I am usually beyond rational thought by then!
5. Beforehand, I think “Who f****** cares?” Once the spanking has been decided, this turns into "Oh, Sh**, I really blew it again...why did I DO that?”
   
   I will then 1) be sorry and try to dissuade him with big blue eyes. I will plead, beg, and employ persuasive charm. I will be really good, hoping he will forget or change his mind. I will have butterflies in my stomach that grow into pterodactyls. Even though I will try to do or promise ANYTHING to avoid the spanking, on those rare occasions when it HASNT taken place, I felt cheated, bereft, and even disappointed! or 2) maintain a stoic, wounded/angry silence. This continues during much of the spanking, until I reach a point where I realise he was right. He KNOWS, without a word being spoken, when I have reached that point.
   
   Afterward, my anger melts into oblivion and I feel safe, loved, at peace, grounded, nurtured. We cuddle and I snuggle into his strength. We are often both emotionally exhausted, and we may both drift off to sleep...

At this point I should tell you I answered as though it were a punishment spanking;. There are so many other sorts, including maintenance, good girl, erotic, etc, and the feelings then are so different! ;)

Bonnie: Cara, during the course of a spanking, I struggle to maintain control over myself, my reactions to the pain I am feeling, my racing thoughts, and my surging emotions. I want to be stoic. I want to feel as though I can take it all.

Fortunately, Randy knows that we can't realize the many benefits of a hard spanking until he pushes me well beyond this threshold. I have to let go, to relax, to accept his gift, and to fully submit. As much as I may need to reach this serene place, it's very natural to try to resist processing the pain.

When I finally capitulate within my own mind, I embrace the pain and allow it to wash over me. My body is now his to enjoy as he chooses. I feel euphoric and utterly compliant.

I cannot control the spanking itself, nor would I want to. My role is to accept everything my husband offers.

Cara: Daisy, thank you for the detailed, specific response! In what ways is a maintenance spanking different from a punishment spanking? A spanking is generally painful, right? So what is it about the experience that makes punishment, maintenance and erotic spankings different from each other? And is there crossover?

Elisabeth:

1. Discipline and authority are very clearly defined. We practice DD and my husband is the Dominant and I am the submissive. We have written rules, general behavior expectations, punishment/maintenance routines, etc.
2. The main expectation is that he leads and I follow. Within those parameters, we set goals as a couple and then my husband sets up rules that will help us achieve those goals.
3. Yes. We discuss "real life" issues as we always have, but with some major positive changes. We are respectful of each other. We rarely raise our voices. We walk away if we get worked up, and we both know that if we come to a true impasse, my husband will consider both sides and make the best choice for US.
4. Spanking infractions include failure to follow the rules, backtalk, rudeness, forgetting important tasks, etc.
5. I'll focus on my thoughts and feelings in the cycle of a punishment spanking. Beforehand, I typically feel apprehensive. I'm not afraid because I know he would never injure me, but at the same time, I know it is going to hurt. More importantly, I'm a little ashamed that I acted the way I did in the first place. Why didn't I think before I spoke? Why didn't I write that task down on my to do list?
   
   During the spanking, I am very focused on what's happening. I'm very attuned to the light in the room, the feel of my hips on his lap, the sound of each spank.
   
   Afterward, I am a little petulant about the fact that I've been spanked. Typically, I have to sit by myself for a few minutes, and during this time, my anger/annoyance dissipate. After my few minutes of contemplation, we cuddle and sit together and I feel any resentment melt away. This cuddle time is like a "restart" button. Whatever I did to warrant the punishment is wiped off the slate and when we rise from the bed to go about our evening, we are back to our normal happy selves and the issue is gone (though not forgotten!).
6. There isn't much crossover for me. Erotic spankings are the easiest to separate. They are in the heat of the moment and are just bare-handed (as opposed to using the paddle or another instrument). I have specific outfits for punishment and maintenance, so there is a physical/visual distinction from the outset. Maintenance is planned ahead, is much more gentle, and is simply meant to remind me of my tasks and my commitment to submission. I usually don't have to retreat and contemplate after a maintenance session, because I haven't done anything wrong. Punishment spankings are harsher, longer, and have a definite tension in the air between us that makes their purpose clear.

Hermione:

1. Ours is not a DD relationship, but my husband has the final say in matters that result in a difference of opinion. I submit to his authority, and he in turn gives my opinions serious consideration.
2. My husband expects me to respect his wishes and do whatever I can to please him. In return, I expect respect and understanding for my personal foibles that make me who I am.
3. We each have separate responsibilities for other matters, and take care of them independently.
4. Specific behaviours aren't a part of the reason for a spanking. We engage in it regularly at specific times, and it's an enjoyable activity for both of us. Our spankings are never for discipline or punishment. If I ask for one, I'm pretty sure I'll get one.
5. Before, I feel excited and apprehensive. When it starts, I almost always think it hurts too much, but I wouldn't dream of asking my husband to stop. I'll usually joke about the pain, and will protest if he takes me seriously and threatens to stop. The pain lessens and the enjoyment increases as the spanking progresses. It's up to my husband to call a halt to the proceedings. He's in charge. Afterward, I feel pleasantly sore, very warm and loving towards the one who made that soreness happen, and both exhilarated and exhausted.

Thanks, everyone, for your insightful responses!

MBS Spanko Brunch #240

Happy weekend, everybody, and welcome to our regular brunch gathering. Our questions come from our friend, romance writer Cara Bristol. As a part of her research, Cara is looking for some first hand insight regarding spanking and domestic discipline. She asked if I could solicit answers from people who really know about consensual adult spanking. As it turns out, I know where to find such people! ;D

1. How well defined are discipline and authority in your relationship?


2. Do spanker and spankee each have specific expectations within the relationship?


3. Do both parties have equal decision-making power in matters outside of discipline?


4. Are there specific behaviors that result in a spanking?


5. What thoughts and feelings do you experience before, during, and after a spanking?

To join the conversation, all you need to do is enter your answer in the form of a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to reply, I will post an edited summary.

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Aug 15

Our topic was whether high profile celebrity admissions contribute to the public acceptance of adult spanking lifestyles. Here are your thoughts.

AQ: The simple answer is "both." The world of spankos would probably be opened up a bit. However, there are a lot of diehard vanillas who would call him/her a nut!

Remember, several HAVE come out already. Dana Delaney is my favorite!

Naomi: I honestly don't think the world is as sensitive to adult spanking as they once were. I've come out to a lot of different people, and their reactions were surprising. Especially my mom! They all just sort of shrugged it off, or told me they didn't like to be spanked because they didn't like the pain.

I'm pretty sure if you polled everyone on whether they had ~tried~ spanking with a lover, the majority would say they have.

Hermione: I think it would depend upon who that celebrity is. Several have come out - Carly Simon comes to mind - but I think it would have to be someone well-known to many people. Whether they are known worldwide or just in one country or on one continent might make a difference too. Perhaps a well-known politician or world leader might do the trick, although it might prevent his or her re-election.

A popular singer or movie or TV star coming out wouldn't have much impact if many people didn't recognize the name. It would depend upon who it was. (I admit I have no idea who Dana Delaney is).

Anon: There are people who disapprove of sex, period. There are people who still think masturbation is a sin. How can people who are so messed up about their own sexuality EVER be comfortable with any kind of kink?

The answer is, they won't be, regardless.

I think the best you can do is be a positive role model for others. By being open and unapologetic, you set an example about whatever others might feel needless shame in their own lives.

So, a kinky celebrity can be a positive role model in that way.

I think the entertainment industry itself has the biggest impact, as opposed to an individual. Shows like Mad Men or Castle that mention kink in a light way integrate the idea into the mainstream, and most people become inured to the shock or surprise value of something completely different.

The plushy episode of CSI comes to mind. I had no idea there was so much plushy sex going on. So now I'm more mentally prepared, thanks to TV, should I find a Spot the Dog costume in one of my friends' closets.

I might even squee and tell them how proud I am that they are unafraid to explore whatever frontiers their passion takes them.

That's because I'm all about empowering someone.

Dioneo: I think it would negatively affect the celebrity's reputation more than it would positively promote the acceptance of spanking. Well regarded or not, celebrities are still "strange" to most people. I think unaccepting people would be more likely to change their minds if they learned that someone they know personally and for whom they have high regard were a spanko.

Celine: The comments so far are really interesting. As I read each one, my perspective changed slightly. ;) I think it might make the celebrity's die-hard fans slightly more open-minded about spanking, but other people might still disapprove or be indifferent.

I'm pretty open-minded about people's kinks and think everyone should do what they want with whom they want in the bedroom, so long as it's consensual and between adults. That being said, if someone famous came on TV and started talking about their foot fetish or the dungeon in their basement, I'd kind of wonder why they felt the need to share such private details in a public forum, regardless of whatever kink they were into. Maybe that's just me, though. :)

Curtis: Thanks in part to celebrities announcing their spanking preferences, it has become much more acceptable and mainstream. Stars who have admitted their liking for spanking or whose significant others have indicated that spanking is part of their lives include Cary Grant, Jack Nicholson, Madonna, Carly Simon, Elizabeth Hurley, and Corrine Calvet (if one is old enough to remember her). It's also made mainstream news (Fox recently), Village Voice and other semi-mainstream outlets. And the spanking community, in terms of groups, blogs, parties, and personal interaction, is huge. I think it's now a personal decision. Are you scared of what such an admission might mean in your life?

Ever since Eve Howard's writings made me comfortable in my own skin about spanking, I don't hide. I don't believe that anyone has the right to out someone. But that's a different kettle of fish altogether.

Make Mine Red: I think it's pretty well accepted already and one more celebrity coming out won't make much difference. Those who don't accept it aren't going to be changed that easily.

Daisy: Several people mentioned our love for spanking as a kink, so I looked up its meaning in the dictionary.

KINKY - Involving or given to unusual sexual behaviour
KINK - A quirk of character or behaviour
QUIRK - A peculiar aspect of a person's character or behaviour

I know only that for me, it is a way of life. In our community, which seems so vast, it doesn't feel unusual or peculiar.

It just seems to be unacceptable because it is often misunderstood. I think many people, when they hear the words DD or spanking, envision the extreme world of violence, abuse, BDSM, degradation, brainwashing, and intimidation. They are by then too embarrassed, shocked or disgusted to inquire further. Therefore, they don't learn what it is really about and imagine they would hate it. It's little wonder they can't figure out why on Earth is Fred/Freda would get involved in that seedy world?

I think there are many reasons why people still find it an unacceptable practice. These may include unresolved fears from childhood and concerns it might be connected to child abuse/pedophilia. Maybe some highly respected documentary on the subject could educate the masses, but the odd celeb coming out? No. People put that down as a publicity stunt and expect celebs to be "into" weird stuff!

Prefectdt: I do not think that one personality coming out would make much difference. As other commenters have noted already, it has happened in the past and after the initial hoo-ah, things just went back to the way that they where before.

If many celebrities, politicians and other public figures synchronized a public coming out, the story could possibly be very different. Although it would most likely be a difficult time for those involved and the rest of us, it could help us all in the long run.

Ronnie: Personally, I don't think vanillas in general would re-consider their views unless a whole bunch of mass popular celebrities came out.

Six of the Best: If the President of the United States would come out of the closet and say I spank Michele, now and then, maybe it would be of help to the 'spanking community'.

Keiter: With the President's problems, his declaration might not help our cause. Sarah Silverman just came out on David Letterman confessing in a story about a conversation with her mom that her "butt was red because she liked getting spanked." We've had Madonna and many others say as much. What it'll take is each one of us common folk stating in quiet conversations to friends that we're spankos and stimulated that way and proud of it.

Alice: I think as far as the younger generation goes, lots of different kinks are accepted as fun and exciting. Every time I open a Cosmogirl and read the list of 101 ways to spice up your sex life , there is always something about spanking or light bondage. I think most people within five years of my age (24) are pretty open to trying new things or being accepting of others kinks. It does help when well known celebrities talk about their kinks (Sarah Silverman comes to mind).

Also, stores like Hot Topix and Spencer's Gifts, which are frequented by teenagers as young as 13 and adults sometimes as old as 40, are very supportive of kink in general as it pertains to sex.

Bonnie: I asked this question because I don't think I know the answer. I agree it would depend upon who the celebrity was. Just as an example, if someone like, say, Mick Jagger, came out as a spanko, most people would react, “Really? Is that all?”

What if, I wonder, someone of unquestioned stature like the late, great Walter Cronkite had said, “My wife and I enjoyed consensual spanking in the privacy of our bedroom for decades and it provided us with tremendous enjoyment.” Obviously, he never said anything like that, but I have to think his words could have been influential in places where average spankos could never be heard.

Curtis: I agree with Daisy's comment about how when some people hear spanking, they think of more extreme activities. When I was in couples therapy precedent to separating from my wife, I discussed that one of our issues was spanking being at the core of my sexuality. She had played along for about eight years, including courtship, living together, and the first two years of our marriage. At that point, she proclaimed that she didn't like it. This began a slippery 15-year slope downhill. It took about ten sessions before the therapist stopped referring to spanking as "beating," and began to get a grasp on the idea that for some, like me it would be playful and arousing rather than hurtful.

Thank you all for participating in our brunch. We'll be back here next weekend for another spanking discussion. I hope you can join us.

MBS Spanko Brunch #239

Welcome back, my friends, to another weekend and a new celebration of spanking. This week, we will consider how spanking enthusiasts are perceived by the vanilla world and how that could potentially change.

Do you think public perception of consensual adult spanking would be improved if a well regarded celebrity voluntarily came out as a spanko? What if they said something like, "Sure, I love being spanked. So what? Lots of people do." Might some vanillas reconsider their views or would they simply dismiss the celebrity as a nut?

I'd like to hear what you think. To participate in our community brunch, enter your thoughts in the form of a comment below. Once everyone has spoken, I will post an edited summary of our conversation.

Yes, It's True!

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for August 8

Our topic this week was Consensual Spanking Week and how our involvement with spanking has changed us.

Michael: I am certainly a better person after a spanking. We started our D/s relationship formally about 10 years ago. We had been spanking since we first met, but not in any particular fashion or with a purpose in mind. Now that our relationship is more mature , we can approach discipline in a way that makes sense for both of us.

I love the feeling of having been well "seen to" and getting our differences sorted out in a brisk and efficient manner.

So yes, I feel happier and my behaviour improves once my bottom has been well and truly spanked.

Six of the Best: Happy Consensual Spanking Day. Yes, I am a happy and a most contented man because I am have the ability to spank some consensual naughty ladies. Plus, blogs like yours make life worth living.

Wow. Thanks, Six

Barely Pink: A thousand times, YES. I've had spanking in my life since college, but it has only been a little over a year that I've actively sought out other spanking enthusiasts.

I find that not only am I much more balanced and centered, I'm also more open-minded and tolerant – and not just in kinky affairs. But in other ways, too. I've learned that everyone is fighting their own battles and to exercise more kindness than necessary in communicating with people. This comes from communicating on such an intimate level with so many people from differing backgrounds.

Perhaps it's not the spanking itself, but the spanking community that has lent this perspective. Either way, I'm happy for it.

And as a sidenote, shouldn't every day be Consensual Spanking Day?

Janet: Spanking has improved so many aspects of our lives together. There are no more late nights with our backs turned away from one another because now things are taken care of right away and there's no more dwelling on problems.

Then there's the communication aspect. We talk constantly now and not just about superficial things, but we really talk.

And, like so many, we more have found the intimacy level of our marriage has become incredible.

What isn't there to love about TTWD?

Hermione: What I have learned from being part of the spanking community is tolerance for other people's kinks. We are all into spanking, but I have found that there are a great many variations on the theme. While my preferences are pretty specific, I can understand that there are different strokes for different folks, and can look beyond those differences to see the common bond. We are all basically nice people who like to engage in some form of spanking.

The other way I have changed, as a result of reading and writing about spanking, is that I have rediscovered the creative muse within me that was buried under the daily grind for many years. Writing and creating posts is fun, and I have the spanking blogosphere to thank for helping me discover that pleasure.

Make Mine Red: After many years of marriage, our love life is HOT again!

Em: I love this topic! But I had such a hard time answering this question that it became an entire post over on my blog.

I can't wait to read what everyone else has to say!

Daisy: When I get in a temper, I am one formidable roller coaster. But giving Davey the right to spank me is like giving him the emergency brake!

It has the power to halt hurtful accusations and recriminations from past events, which would cause rifts and resentments in a relationship. It gives closure on an argument. Davey is wonderful. He can accept that he may be in the wrong, and will apologise. He tries to show me a different, calmer way to resolve issues, but not when I am blazing along like a runaway train. So, he takes the wind out of my sails and calms me whether I like it or not. LOL That makes me use more adult means to convey my feelings!

Spanking encourages and fosters good communication skills. To allow someone to spank you is a sign of trust and, for us, it is an important aspect of intimacy. We also found it enhanced our sex life, as wow, spanking brought an explosion of hunger for each other in other ways too. I see him as more sexy because I have given him the right to exert his dominance. I feel more sexy after a spanking, unless it is a punishment one. Those cause other more powerful feelings such as being secure, loved and protected, and free of guilt. I am utterly content because I know I am forgiven and there is no resentfulness being harboured. There is peace, and harmony again. Bliss.

So, how have I changed for the better? Just know, I have! (ask Davey!)

Todd and Suzy: Spanking has helped us both become better with communication. It's helped create a large circle of new friends and has helped us have a better sex life. Overall, we'd say spanking helped improve relationships.

Scunge: Spanking has helped me become a better me in ALL aspects of my life!

Elisabeth: My relationship has become easier: things are more straightforward, our communication is more open, and we are all-around happier. The credit goes to the deeper connection we have forged as a result of TTWD.

Keiter: I ended a long and unsatisfying marriage at the start of the summer. One major aspect of the union that was unsatisfying was the lack of love, love-making, and spanking. But spanking in my life is my sexual nexus. So it not only makes life better, it makes my world go around.

Love4her: My spanko-ness has not really made my life any better. It suppose it has lead me to bug my wife more to give me something she can not understand. I try to keep quiet, but I prod and suggest spanking me.

I have never really gotten a real, firm, serious spanking. Just very rare, playful swats with a wood spoon that sting and make her feel silly to be giving them. It turns me on, but if she were to really blister my bottom... I long for it and crave it. I am not sure if it would be for better or worse.

Bonnie: Considering this was my question, you'd think I ought to be able to answer it. But I really can't in any satisfactory way. As Em said, spanking has been a part of my entire adult life. I am pleased by that fact, and certainly would not have wanted to live any other way, but I have no basis for comparison. The changes in my life associated with spanking have been concurrent with every other kind of change over the years.

Even so, I am quite certain that I would not feel nearly as contented and in love thirty years down the road were it not for those regular bottom warmings.

Thanks, everyone, for joining in our brunch!

MBS Spanko Brunch #238

Sunday has been designated as Consensual Spanking Day. I won't ask how you plan to celebrate because in my mind, there's only one good way (rubs still tingly bottom). Instead, I think this weekend is a fine occasion to reflect upon what it means to be a spanking enthusiast.

How have you changed for the better as a direct consequence of having spanking in your life?

To join our conversation, just enter a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will post an edited transcript of the festivities.

Poll: The Paddle

This poll was suggested by my swat-happy husband (who has no clue how much his beloved wooden toys hurt when applied to a bare bottom).

1. Is there a spanking paddle in your residence? Yes No 2. How recently was the paddle used to spank someone's bottom? Within the past week Within the past month Within the past year Longer than one year It's never been used 3. Who received the most recent paddling? You Your partner Someone else No paddlings here Current Results

70 Practical Suggestions for Bloggers

Some years ago, I published a series of posts where I shared lessons I had learned about blogging. These posts are still in the archive, but I stopped referring people to them because much of the advice now seems dated. I have long promised to create an updated version. Today, it's finally finished.

Here are seventy suggestions for beginning bloggers. This list is by no means a cookbook. Each blogger must find their own unique path. But if I can help make their journey easier, I am delighted to assist.

I divided these suggestions into four general categories: Approach, Style, Content, and Technique.

Approach:

1. Have fun. Be creative. Share yourself. Do what feels right.
2. Arrange blogging around the rest of your life, and never the reverse.
3. Check out blogs you admire. Notice how they do things. Look for good ideas you can adapt.
4. Explain your vision for the blog early and often. This kind of statement will help to attract and retain the kind of dedicated readers you seek.
5. Stay on topic and on message as much as you can. It's your blog and you can write pretty much whatever you choose. However, it's helpful to have a unifying theme that can be easily understood by first time visitors.
6. Respect your readers. Their time is precious too.
7. Try to learn something new every day. Use your new knowledge to make your blog better or your readers better informed.
8. Ask for suggestions and comments. When you receive them, take those ideas seriously.
9. Avoid being too predictable. Change things up from time to time. Strive to surprise and delight your readers.
10. Pay it forward. Help bloggers who are just getting started. Who knows? They may become a blogging superstar, or better yet, a good friend.
11. Get involved with the informal community of bloggers. These people can provide valuable support, both personal and technical.
12. Avoid judging people or their beliefs in all but the most extreme cases. There's generally no benefit to be derived from offending someone.
13. If you receive an offensive comment, delete it immediately without mention.
14. Avoid becoming too commercial. If you choose to have advertisements, that’s fine. But no one wants to visit an online billboard. Pop-up windows and loud audio are especially offensive.
15. Be honest with people, but not too honest. Avoid sharing details that reveal your specific location and full name, especially if you’re female. Like a superhero, you must protect your secret identity.
16. Be positive. Some people may demonstrate sympathy for your troubles, but few readers will return to a blog dedicated to whining.
17. Take one step at a time. It doesn’t make sense to promote your blog heavily until you’ve accumulated a decent sized body of work.
18. Try to be nice to people. Most of them deserve it.
19. Set reasonable expectations for your blog's growth. It can take months of regular posting to build a sizable core readership.
20. If you are serious about blogging, schedule some time each day for this purpose.
21. Recognize that blogging involves more than writing posts. There are also important backstage conversations with readers and other bloggers. These exchanges are essential, though time-consuming.
22. Don't feel intimidated when you talk with popular bloggers or models. They're real people too and most are happy to converse with bloggers who have similar interests.
23. If you don't know your way around, it's OK to follow the crowd. Once you do know, however, it's better to let them follow you.

Style:

24. Work to create a unique and memorable visual style. Build a brand. Choose a distinctive title, tag line, font, color scheme, logo, and layout. Make it identifiable and uniquely your own.
25. Recognize that a blog is an organic entity. Most successful blogs change and grow throughout their existence. Sometimes, blogs move in directions that their creators could not have foreseen at their inception. Don't be afraid to redefine your blog when opportunity knocks.
26. In general, a clean, consistent, and uncluttered presentation is superior to visually busy pages. Blog widgets can be beneficial, but when used to excess, they draw the reader's attention away from the content you want them to see.
27. Spell check and proofread your posts.
28. Check the links in your blogroll regularly. Trim the dead or inactive ones.
29. Most readers never explore a blog's archives. It's sad but true. For them, all of those great old posts simply never happened. You can encourage visitors to look around by adding navigational aids such as thematic tags or drop down boxes.
30. Structure your text for easy reading. Avoid long paragraphs and run-on sentences. If you frighten the reader with huge blocks of impenetrable text, they are likely to make a quick exit.
31. Artistic presentation is wonderful, but people need to be able to read your text. If the text color is too similar to the background color or graphic, it will be difficult to discern. Many visitors will choose not to work that hard.
32. While we're talking about text and readability, if you're expecting any visitors over the age of, oh, say 35, you'll want to select a clean font and a reasonably large point size. I find the default text size in many templates to be too small.
33. It's generally best to let readers know the subject of each post in the title or first paragraph.

Content:

34. The three most important ingredients for a quality blog are content, content, and content. Only strong material will keep readers coming back.
35. Talk about subjects you know. Especially if they are subjects you love.
36. Share the love. When someone takes the time to comment or send an e-mail, try to acknowledge their contribution and respond.
37. Get your readers involved. People love polls, quizzes, and open questions that invite discussion. Let them be part of the blog too.
38. Be topical. People love news. This can be as simple as tying in the theme of a post with a holiday or popular event.
39. Pace your posts. Many readers examine only your most recent article. If you post much more than once per day, even your regular visitors may miss seeing some of your best work.
40. Pace your comments too. I've discovered that some readers will not comment after I have responded because they think the discussion is now over. As a result, I sometimes purposely wait several hours before weighing in.
41. Variety is the spice of life. It also spices up a blog. Avoid posting two similar features back to back. If possible, separate them with a very different post.
42. It's fine to blend fact with fiction, so long as you explain to readers which is which.
43. Lightweight “filler” content like photos, memes, and polls have a rightful place on most blogs. Few bloggers can produce high quality, meaningful content every day for any extended period of time. Occasional “filler” posts allow a blog to stay fresh for readers without causing burnout for the blogger.
44. When quoting another blog, be sure to reference and link both the author (using the main blog page) and the specific post. Proper citations are a sign of respect.
45. If your blog is intended for a mature audience, beware of links to or from vanilla blogs or web sites. These can cause problems that no one needs. If a vanilla blog has linked you, you may want to write the owner and politely ask them to remove the link.
46. Conversely, if your blog is linked by a site that you feel is offensive, you might consider writing to them. This is far from a sure proposition, but it might work.
47. I find that unless a post is positively riveting, many readers lose patience somewhere around 1000-1500 words. Consequently, even an excellent post can be more effective if broken into bite sized pieces.
48. When another blog mentions your blog or cites your material, it is good practice to publicly thank them for their kind gesture. These folks are doing you a favor by sending you traffic and readers.
49. You may encounter spam blogs that steal your text, or more likely snippets of your text, in order to draw hits from search engines. As of today, there isn't much we can do about these creeps. Save your energy for a worthwhile fight.
50. It's all right to be outrageous or controversial sometimes, as long as it fits the theme of your blog. Many readers like a good rant once in a while. Just make sure you know when you're ranting and, for the readers' sake, please label it as such.
51. Every time you have an idea for a post, write it down immediately, even if you don't think it's a very good one.
52. Maintain a file of post ideas. Consult it when you need a topic.
53. Prepare some posts in advance. These posts can then be used when time and energy are at a premium. It reduces stress on the blogger and keeps the blog fresh and original.
54. Consider incorporating regular features. They give readers a reason to return.
55. Remember that the Web is a flexible medium. You needn't stick to a diary format. Your entries don't have to be prose. Consider poetry, humor, music, video, games, or whatever you think readers might enjoy.
56. When used in moderation, teasers and hooks boost readership. A teaser is a reference to an upcoming post that encourages readers to stop back. A hook is an intriguing post title or lead-off sentence that draws the reader's attention and makes them eager for more.
57. Avoid spending too much time on any one post.
58. Consider guest posts as an alternative content source, but make sure they fit the tone of your blog.
59. Your arguments will carry more weight if you back them with meaningful quotes or statistics.
60. If a topic or formula works, use it again.
61. Remember that it’s ultimately your blog. As writer, editor, and publisher, you make the final decision.

Technique:

62. Post as often as you reasonably can. Readers flock to ever-changing blogs and stop visiting those that become stale.
63. Install a counter and regularly analyze your traffic data. The statistics can tell you a lot about who is visiting, from where they came, and what they choose to read.
64. Links are a critical element in increasing readership. If your link is on a popular page, you will get a lot of first time hits. Few big name blogs will give you a link unless you link them first. Link the blogs you would like to have link you. Choose blogs similar in topic and tone to yours. Then visit those blogs and get involved in the conversation. Beyond a valuable link, you may well find help, inspiration, and friendship as well.
65. Register with search engines. Go to the major search engine sites and submit your blog.
66. Learn about RSS feeds and syndication. It’s an easy way to make your blog accessible to more people.
67. Test your pages to ensure they look right in common browsers.
68. Back up your blog content and your template, just in case.
69. Unless you have a good reason to do otherwise, it's best to adhere to basic blogging conventions such as placing newest posts first, allowing comments, including a date and title with every post, and making embedded links easy to spot.
70. You can easily promote your blog by regularly commenting on similar blogs. If you are inclined, social media tools such as FaceBook, Twitter, and MySpace are another excellent method for getting the word out.

So there you have it. Not all of these recommendations apply in every situation nor for every blogger. But this is what seems to work for me. I hope your blogging experiences are rewarding and fun!

In with the New: Dog Days of Summer Edition

My favorite part of publishing MBS is introducing spanking-oriented blogs. Here for your reading pleasure are fifteen new members of our community. I hope you will stop by and bid them welcome!

Cara Bristol

Devilish Thoughts

Ecce Spanko

Finally Finding Me

Getting It

Harmony with Order

History of Spanking

Just a (Submissive) Girl

Little Precious One

Lunargirl's Blog

Over My Knee, Young Lady!

Parker and Brinlee's Life

Rosy Tales Spanking Stories

Spanking 101

Thursday's Child

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Aug 1

Our topic of the week was how to judge the effectiveness of a spanking. Here are your thoughts.

Our Bottoms Burn: Becall says when the spankee is satisfied. I countered with what about the spankor? I guess when it's a mutual satisfaction, it's most effective.

Kimmie: If it's for fun, then it's when both are happily satisfied, great!

If it's disciplinary, once the spankee has shown true remorse. This usually means taking her past her limit (consensual, of course). Once she feels relieved and forgiven by herself and the Spanker, then I think it has been effective.

Six of the Best: There are two types of spankings that can be given. One is the loving kind and the other the punishment kind. The reactions may be different, For the loving kind, I am sure there are lots of "Ahs." For the punishment kind, there may be plenty of "Ooh, that hurt!”

Prefectdt: The more effective the spanking is, the deeper it gets me into subspace. It's a simple formula but it works for me.

Hermione: A spanking has been effective if my bottom is red, hot and throbbing, and I feel both exhausted and exhilarated.

OnHerKnee: Everyone has made valid points, but I suppose one aspect that should not be forgotten is the intensity of the aftercare.

Whether I am spanked or spanker, when a spanking was effective, the intensity of the aftercare makes us forget about everything and time stands still.

SatyrLover: Spanking, in our case, always leads to intense love-making. Still, the deeper the red of the cheeks and the hotter the flesh, the more successful.

Dioneo: If disciplinary, the more effective the spanking, the longer it will be before the spankee needs to put back over your lap. If it's erotic, the more effective the spanking, the sooner she throws herself over again.

Em: Wow! There are so many types of spankings and they can all be so different. It's difficult to come up with an answer that suits them all.

I think I'd have to say that a spanking has been effective when both parties have reached their desired mental/emotional place.

I've often found that my experience of a spanking is much more tied to my emotional state than the physical one. So while some spankings may aim to arouse while others exist to share a bit of fun, and still others have a goal of discipline or punishment - all are successful when I've reached wherever I needed to be emotionally.

Very hard prolonged spankings can sometimes be erotic, and there are times when a gentle spanking can be a worse punishment than a much harsher one. It all depends on so much more than the physical application of force, response (tears, promises, etc), and results (tenderness, marks, etc).

A'marie: If it's for pure enjoyment purposes, as soon as I've thought, "Damn, that's gonna smart tomorrow" with a smile on my face, we're good to go. ;)

~Make Mine Red~: It's been effective when we're both really turned on! I also like it when the heat and the redness last through the lovemaking. These are the ones that are most satisfying and that leave me looking forward to the next time :)

Anon #1: When I'm left with that good liquid feeling. It's not quite the same as a multiple orgasm, but just as satisfying in its own way.

Anon #2: The best spankings are those where it takes a couple to a few days to fully recover. If two or three days after the spanking I feel tingling when I rub or squeeze my bottom, I know I have had a great spanking. Also, the "want" for another spanking does not come back for awhile.

R Humphries: As a partner in a role-playing spanking relationship (as opposed to a D/D relationship), I guess I judge the ‘effectiveness’ of our sessions by (i) the intimacy both during and in the immediate aftermath of the play, (ii) by our desire to discuss, recall, laugh and joke about the play during the subsequent days, and of course, (iii) from the spanker's point of view, MBJ’s enthusiasm for us to stage our next event.

Bonnie: I agree that any measure of effectiveness has to relate to the purpose for the spanking. For example, a stress relief paddling must achieve precisely that. The measure of a foreplay spanking is, quite naturally, the richness of the sex that follows.

With that said, there are some experiences that I universally associate with a positive spanking experience.

1. A spanking is most effective when I am in a receptive frame of mind. This can be achieved through any combination of spanking banter, rubbing my target, delivering a prolonged warm-up, or instituting favorite rituals.
2. A spanking must hurt, and more than a little, while it's happening. Ideally, it should seem like more than I want at the moment, but create vivid memories for later.
3. I am seldom completely satisfied with a spanking that is not accompanied by some form of lovemaking. Sex is not the reason for the spanking and spanking is not the reason for the sex. But they do go together like chocolate and peanut butter.
4. When I lift myself from Randy's lap (or wherever I have been bent over), my hands always go straight to my bare punished cheeks. The act of rubbing strangely soothes the burn even as it brings out more hurt. Within a few seconds, I am able to assess the extent of the damage and, hence, the severity of the spanking I've just received.
5. There's also the “mirror test.” I like to admire my marks while they last.
6. Aftercare is lovely and always welcome.
7. Feeling that residual ouch when I sit hours later is a special treat. Randy often concentrates his efforts along the lower slopes of my bottom with precisely this intent. When I sense that discomfort, my mind races. “Ooo, I got spanked!” I remind myself as my hand involuntarily travels to the source of the ache. At that moment, arousing memories fill my consciousness.
8. Finally, there's that delicious afterglow. For those who haven't experienced this sensation, I would describe it as a feeling of lightness and well-being. I am left contented for the rest of the day and sometimes longer.

Barely Pink: It all depends. I very recently received a stress relief spanking and one crack of the paddle had me releasing all of my anxiety, tears, stress, and pain of the week. Just one stroke. It was unbelievable and oh, so effective.

Other times, for discipline, I judge the effectiveness by my willingness to make that same mistake again. If I'm willing to risk another spanking for the same behavior, I guess it wasn't too effective of a spanking!

And for pleasure, well, it's a very effective spanking if he has me gyrating over his knee.

So ends another enjoyable community brunch. Thank you to everyone who participated. For those who didn't but wish they had, you'll be just as welcome next week!

MBS Spanko Brunch #237

Shall we sit down (however gingerly) and enjoy good conversation and good company? I was hoping you'd say that. Our topic for this week was inspired by my husband Randy.

How do you judge the effectiveness of a spanking?

When you're ready to join our discussion, just enter your response in the form of a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance, I will post an edited summary.