Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for May 30

Our topic this time was summer spankings. Here are your fond recollections and fantasies.

Poppy: Last summer, I was with the man I love for three long weeks. I stayed at his house while he went out to work in the morning and made his lunch and showered in the longest most pampering way until he came home. I would greet him with a little skirt on and knickers that I thought he would adore. We played word games, we sat and drank mojitos by the pool and I saw fireflies for the first time ever. I got spanked every single morning before he left and about five times a day after that. I really and honestly think that is what heaven may be like.

Here is a link to a postette that I did at that time. It includes a picture of his swimming pool with a raft I made tethered to the centre of his pool with some of his implements on it. Happy days - and he was much more stern about it than he needed to be.

Hermione: My summer memories are of riding lessons, horse shows, and the vivid and elaborate fantasies I created involving strict riding instructors, dressage whips, riding crops, and lunging whips.

Summer's just around the corner. I may leave the dressage whip out in anticipation of its arrival.

D: Summer always means outdoor adventures!

With the warmer weather, short skirts and sun dresses make for a flirtatious invite for a bit of OTK on a public bench overlooking the ocean or bent over a fallen tree in the woods, panties down around the ankles, skirt pulled up... You get the idea. ;)

Missy: One fantasy I still remember from high school was inspired by the novel The Great Gatsby. I was in Advanced Placement American lit! LOL To this day, I love the clothes of the 20s and that's probably why this fantasy is so indelible. Anyway, I'm like Daisy Buchanan, a spoiled, flighty debutante given to sulks and tantrums, and after weeks of toying with Jay Gatsby, my besotted, persistent suitor, never in serious contention, I tell him (borrowing an actual line from the book), "You can't honestly think I'm going to let you make love to me, Mr Nobody from Nowhere!"

Then I guess Mumsy and the help are away that day, because the furious Mr Gatsby - looking fantastic in those cuffed white trousers guys wore all summer back then, according to the movies - drags me off to the boathouse, throws me over the hull of a small overturned boat, takes off his belt, throws the exquisite pleated and beaded silk lavender flapper dress I'm wearing over my head and wallops my debutante derriere then and there.

There were several various endings, depending on how much privacy I had.

(My teacher, Mrs. Russell, always said,"I wish all my students enjoyed literature as much as you do." LOL If only she knew! I spent the entire eighth grade getting repeatedly spanked by Sydney Carton from Tale of Two Cities, but I'll save that fantasy for your Bastille Day brunch in July.) ;)

John: Last summer, we had a visitor with a fetish for cycling and a sore bottom. One afternoon, we went to the beach for a swim. Edith behaved very naughtily. She tried to push her hostess underwater. My wife Danielle is afraid of that and I ordered Edith to stop, which she didn't. So I came to my wife's rescue.

I ordered Edith to stop the teasing and threatened to spank her right there on the beach. "You don't dare, other people might see."

"Do you think I care about that?" I said. No way. She continued as if nothing had been said. I yanked her over my knee and gave her a bottom warming she wouldn't forget. A few people witnessed but continued what they were doing as if nothing happened there on the flood line.

At home, Danielle told our visitor that she was annoyed by her behavior. However, there was a remedy, a good old fashioned one. First, a little warm up was needed. Danielle asked me to take care of that job.."You heard what she said, young lady," I said in an attempt to make an impression. "Get over my knee." Reluctantly, she did. In no time, her bum showed a nice red color. Our guest thought it was over and done, but the ritual had only started.

Now Danielle was in charge. Edith had to kneel on the bench, drop her briefs and lift her skirt. Her private parts were in full view. Danielle said," Now you're ready for your medicine. It's ginger. Of course, you can refuse this remedy. It's up to you. If you refuse, you will never know". After a lot of thinking, Edith said, "OK, I'll try the cure." Danielle had cut the ginger in advance and now it was time to put it into place. Relaxing words were needed to reassure the anxious patient. Finally, the job was done.

Danielle started slapping her backside and soon Edith was on fire. Then Danielle pushed her cheeks together to increase the effect, which no doubt helped a lot. The spatula finished the job. Edith had now completely submitted.

She thanked us for all the attention and though really on fire, admitted she was glad she had tried this. Before she left the following day, she told us, "This has been the vacation of my life. Many, many thanks."

Thomas: A few years ago, just before Leelee moved from Fort Lauderdale back to Atlanta, I went down to visit her. As part of the trip, Leelee talked me into going to a nude beach with her. This took a bit of doing, since I'm not particularly fond of baring skin to the sun (I normally wear jeans and a t-shirt when I go swimming, if that gives you an idea of how much I keep my clothes on). Still, I went, and she eventually got my clothes off and me into the water.

Leelee and I have had spanking encounters in public on several occasions, and the chance to spank and get spanked on the beach wasn't to be ignored. So, just before we left, she went over my knee for a short spanking on our beach towel. It was short, but sweet.

As we were packing up and walking away, though, we noticed two patrolmen on four-wheelers pull up to where we'd been and look around. We figure that someone must have reported us for our spanking play, but we finished and got up to leave just in time. If we'd taken a few minutes longer, we'd have had to explain the spanking to the nice officers.

"She was being a bad girl, officer."

Barely Pink: It was at the end of the summer, and my ex and I were feeling frisky. So we did what all budding exhibitionists do. We took ourselves to the beach for some moonlit fun.

This particular beach had a chain link fence bordering the lighthouse. It was there, up against the fence, that I gripped the links while his belt, like the waves on the shore, lapped against my bottom.

Even though the relationship did not last, that experience will forever be on the top five of my all-time favorite spanking memories.

And I cannot guarantee that our tryst went unnoticed. So perhaps it's a shared memory?

Daisy: If only... We have only ever been together in March! So all of my spankings have been in the winter, usually by a roaring woodburning stove. That's nice, but I kind of don't need the warmth of the fire at that particular time, if you get my drift...

Bonnie: For us, summer means vacations like this one. There's something special about getting away and leaving one's troubles behind (as it were).

Thanks to everyone who participated this week!

MBS Spanko Brunch #228

Hello again, everybody! For those of us in the US, it's a three day weekend and the unofficial beginning of summer. So let's kick back, soak up the warmth, and chat about our common interest.

Have you a treasured summer spanking memory? How about a favorite summer spanking fantasy? Whether it's about beaches, barbecues, boating, brushes, brides, or baseball, we'd love to hear your tales.

If you've participated in our brunch before, you know the routine. Just enter your thoughts in a comment below and at the end of the weekend, I will post an edited summary. For readers who have yet to join in, this seems like an ideal topic. Your summer stories are absolutely welcome!

Keyword Chaos: Mowing the Lawn Edition

Keyword Chaos is a feature where we examine some of the search words that readers use to find MBS.

• bdsm vacation destinations - I picture a genuine Eastern European dungeon
  
  
• best spanking implent - I read that Kim Kardashian has those
  
  
• bonnie luv lap dance - Yeah, but I do my lap dancing face down
  
  
• bought new underwear for spanking - I've done it more than once
  
  
• captain lightfoot over his knee - That's what happens when you wreck the boat
  
  
• controlling teen wife spanking - Who stole the batteries from the remote?
  
  
• daisy rock being spanked - Dwayne Johnson's sister perhaps?
  
  
• did husbands spank their wives? - Those bottoms didn't get pink all on their own
  
  
• first time Russian spanking - I think your cane smells like cabbage
  
  
• flaming bottom paddle - Hey, why else would it be sitting right next to the fireplace?
  
  
• food old fashioned bare bottom spanking - Ow, not rubarb!
  
  
• girl spanked in dieper position - I've changed a few like that one before
  
  
• good spank safewords - Avoid “ow,” “no,” “stop,” and “you bastard”
  
  
• granny panties spanked - You say that like it's a bad thing...
  
  
• I just got a bare bottom spanking am a 10yro girl ow - Except when you're the tooth fairy
  
  
• I like having my butt - As opposed to having a random stranger's butt, or perhaps no butt at all?
  
  
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• ow to become a male spanking model - Yes, that's precisely how it works
  
  
• pine spanking paddles - Pine paddles break. Go for the hardwoods
  
  
• Pixie a real spanko - She's definitely one of us
  
  
• prefer to be spanked - Yeah, me too
  
  
• prepare for sexual spanking class - I can't wait to see the midterm
  
  
• puritan wife spanking - Her scarlet letter was a double O
  
  
• quotes for freshman spanking paddle - It's not hazing if you enjoy it
  
  
• random urge #1.254.854 - Sure, why not?
  
  
• remaining composed during a spanking - Good luck with that plan
  
  
• sex with a doll psychiatry - Quackery I say!
  
  
• she inserts the butt plug and continues to cane my sore bottom - I wonder if it affects her follow through?
  
  
• spank me - I don't think a search engine can do that
  
  
• spanking letters poker - Are we talking about the card game or the fireplace tool?
  
  
• spanking paddle sayings - “The hard way”
  
  
• spanking posicions - Those can be dangerous if disturbed
  
  
• spanking tutotorial - Tuto too?
  
  
• spankings hurt a lot - So how long have you worked as a detective?
  
  
• spankink 101 - I like that word!
  
  
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• strapon spank husband - There must be an easier way
  
  
• teenage tongue depressor - This wood doesn't come from trees
  
  
• whipple implement for spanking - OK, OK, I won't squeeze the Charmin
  
  
• why do girls become spanking models? - Because it's something they want to try
  
  
• why do I want to be spanked? - If you have no idea, how can we possibly know?
  

Friday Evening at Home

I haven't shared a good spanking story in ages. Given that this is the whole point of MBS, that's a real shame. It's not for lack of stories to tell, I just get busy. These events transpired on Friday evening during our weekly fun time. I used the recorder to capture our dialogue, though the best parts involved very little talking.

As usual, I arrived home a couple of hours before Randy. This is a good arrangement most days because it gives me an opportunity to catch up on housework, fix some dinner, and check in at the blog. On Fridays, however, I often use this time to prepare for the evening's scheduled percussive festivities. What's funny is that I can plan only for myself. I generally have no idea what he has in mind. Sometimes, I suspect he doesn't either before it happens. My challenge is to provide suitable visual, auditory, olfactory, culinary, and tactile inspiration.

After a relaxing shower, I started by laying out a fairly tight plain white sweater. This is a versatile top in that it can be girlish, trampy, or businesslike, depending upon the rest of the outfit. I slid it over a padded über-bra (hey, I can pretend to have ample boobs).

For my lower half, I started with a silky pair of full white nylon briefs. Randy loves this style because it reminds him of what many girls and women wore back in the sixties. Next came a pale pink garter belt and dark tan stockings. I actually remembered to put on the garter belt underneath. I know what he likes. Atop this layer, I added a red pleated skirt. With the hem at mid-thigh, it felt pretty short.

Peering in my full length mirror, I liked what I saw, but I couldn't decide how to finish the look. What exactly was I going for? Each part worked fine, but the assembled whole seemed a little, well, disjointed. The stockings ruined the schoolgirl. The panties ruled out a stripper. Maybe a hot but slightly retro secretary... Yes, that was it! I added an old pair of plastic eyeglasses and overdid my make-up just a little. Next came a shiny black belt and matching pumps. A naughty office assistant stared back at me from behind the mirror. This would work just great.

It was still almost an hour before Randy was due to arrive. I had time to prepare the stage, but I wondered what I should do. I wanted to avoid interfering with any of his fiendish plans. Sometimes, he gives me a hint about his intentions, but this day I had nothing to go on.

I lit a vanilla-scented candle in the living room. I knew he'd like that. I turned on the air conditioning so we would be comfortable once things warmed up. I carried two paddles down from the bedroom. One was a semi-rigid roundish leather model. The other was our wooden teardrop paddle. Both are quite familiar and very effective. I removed two small portraits from the wall near the kitchen and replaced them with the two paddles neatly suspended from their respective cords. Randy had seen this little decorating trick before, but not recently.

I briefly considered burning some popcorn in the microwave to create an offense for my ill-behaved secretary, but I decided that stench would clash with the sweet candle in a most unpleasant way. No, we would have to invent something else.

Just about then, I heard the garage door opening one floor below. Randy was home. A wave of anxious anticipation passed through me. I ran into the lavatory, quickly rearranged my hair, and doubled checked my look. Sooner than I expected, I detected the unmistakable thuds of my man trudging up from the basement.

When the basement door opened, there he was. He paused for a moment as if to assess the meaning behind my appearance. His eyebrows raised in unison as a wry smile crossed his face.

“I'm ready for my dictation, sir,” I chirped with appropriate emphasis on the most important syllable.

“All in good time, my dear,” he replied. “First, I think we need to perform your performance evaluation.”

Oooo, he's good, I thought. He excused himself to use the bathroom while I pondered the events to come. I sat on the love seat hopeful that Randy might soon join me.

Naturally, his plan was a bit different. His idea of a performance evaluation involved me standing behind the love seat and bending over the back of it. At the urging of my Prince Charming, I placed my forearms on the seat of the couch. Quite by design, I'm sure, my bottom was way up in the air and completely vulnerable.

It was about this time that I realized that he hadn't even kissed me yet. I rationalized that kissing was probably fairly rare in real performance evaluations. So was spanking, I supposed, but that didn't stop Randy for even a moment.

“What a vision of perfection," he crowed as he unwrapped his human gift. Up went my skirt.

“Someone conveniently hung up two paddles just in case a spanking was necessary. How thoughtful!”

“So is this my performance evaluation?” I teased.

“No, but we will begin shortly.”

I clenched my teeth in anticipation of that first crashing swat.

But it didn't come, at least not immediately. Instead, Randy's palm caressed the taut fabric of my traditional white panties. His fingers assayed my lower curves and traced the gusset line. He rubbed the back of his hand repeatedly against the thin, smooth nylon covering.

Perhaps he was simply enjoying this exploration, but it had the effect of lulling me into misplaced confidence. When I wiggled my bottom in response to his touch, he slapped it hard across both cheeks.

“Young lady, your work of late has been below our standards. I could easily fire you, but spanking you is totally more fun.” I cracked up with this line, but he continued, now mixing friendly pats with stinging swats.

“Besides, if I fired you, who would get the spankings around here?”

It must have been a rhetorical question because he never answered it. Next, he grabbed the leather paddle and began spanking in earnest. Had anyone come to our front door, they surely would have heard the unmistakable sounds of corporal punishment. The swats reverberated throughout the room and my reactions were nearly as loud. I didn't care because the pulsating heat generated by the paddle seared into my very soul. I love being spanked because of the way it makes me feel – sexy and ravenous for his love.

“I can see we're getting nowhere this way,” my husband chided. I might have wanted to disagree, but before I could say a word, my bottom was bared. Now wielding wood, he assaulted my skin with fast, firm strokes. I screeched with pain but no relief was forthcoming. Were my head clear, I might have contemplated employing my safeword, but by this stage, I was simply experiencing each moment.

Despite the intensity, or perhaps because of it, Randy soon moved on to other pursuits. He dragged my panties all the way down and silently invited me to step out of them. After I did, he guided my legs apart and explored my wetness with his skillful digits. I was soon panting and imploring him to finish what he had started. He certainly did. His pleasure piston left me gasping and grabbing fistfuls of the pillow. As he worked, his fingers kneaded my scarlet flesh as if to renew my spanked glory. It was a satisfying soreness that drove me to the crest and beyond.

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Well, I did get that kiss, but not until after Randy asked me what I wanted for dinner. When you live with a man, you take the good with the bad. On this evening, the good was outstanding. Thank you, my love, for a wonderful spanking!

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for May 23

Our question of the week dealt with the desire for punishment spankings. Here are your thoughts.

Love4her: I know I am one to crave punishment spankings. I have never experienced one as an adult and rarely got one as a kid. I really feel the need to be punished, scolded and made to submit... to the point of tears. Humiliation would be added if it were made public in some way or made known to someone that I was in for a spanking. Possibly, I might be taken out of a store to the van while being spoken to sternly about what I was about to get and why.

I know I deserve it for any number of things and vices. I just believe a sound punishment would clear the air and set me on a better course as a husband and lover. Like any other spanking, it is not going to happen. but the vivid fantasy lives on daily.

Katia: I have craved punishment spankings before, I think every wired gal does. We have had very few because it really bothers my hubby.

However, some of my stress relief spankings have been worse than my punishment spankings. I think that is because I don't break very easily. For him, I think it's more the wording than the actual act.

We have played out a few of my stories and that satisfies my desires.

Poppy: The only spankings I like are punishment ones. They can be big serious, scary ones or little "don't stick your tongue out at me" ones, but they alter everything about me.

I always wanted them, for as long as I can remember. The reality is better than I could ever have imagined. I suspect it is about finding a man who is passionate about giving them. It also helps that he is kind with his strictness. When he spanks me, I feel such a sense of peace that I become a better person for at least twenty minutes when suddenly I feel all naughty again.

But I am nice naughty when I have been spanked, not the horrid kind.

Hermione: I believe that the idea of punishment is inherently linked to spanking. The idea of a punishment spanking is attractive to me. The reality probably would not be nearly as enjoyable.

The concept of punishment has no place in our relationship. But flirting with the associated words that push my buttons is something that we are gradually becoming comfortable with. A playful threat of punishment is in itself a terrific turn-on. But that is where it ends. Spanking will certainly remain something we do for foreplay and fun.

Oatmeal Girl: What does or does not happen to me is not for me to request and is not at all under my control. If I am spanked or beaten in any way, it is purely for my Master's pleasure or as punishment, from which of course he also derives pleasure. He is a sadist. He enjoys hurting me. He struggles against the urge to inflict severe pain on me, as he knows it would be more than I can tolerate. I am not a masochist, but I am devoted to his pleasure. It's a delicate balance.

Still, while my own desires are irrelevant, I can't deny that I have them. I do admit to becoming aroused from a spanking, and the fiend had a flogger made which doesn't hurt too badly no matter how hard the blows. I do love being beaten with the flogger.

But a punishment spanking? I get no pleasure from "the experience and sensations" of punishment spankings. They hurt far more than spankings that are purely for his pleasure, and the anger and disappointment that rain down on me with each blow hurt even more than the physical impact.

What I do like, however, is the catharsis. What I do yearn for is the redemption that follows. And what has been so hard following the severe beating I received on Wednesday is that until this afternoon I could not find my way out of the fear and despair. We chatted this afternoon, and I feel better now. But it reminded me that one way or another, whether for punishment or (his) pleasure, spankings are never something I can take lightly.

Anon #1: Punishment spankings are only given for one reason in our relationship – Smoking. Given that she can go months without a cigarette and then suddenly will start and make sure she is caught, clearly they are being asked for. Also, we clearly have not yet found a total cleanliness in our relationship. She wants to be punished and I don't realize it, so she creates the reason. The failure is mine.

These are the only spankings that ever make her cry and she needs that release. These are the only spankings that I do not find cause any sexual stimulation for me (although she will often climax before she cries), yet I find them extremely emotionally satisfying.

Our Bottoms Burn: Nope, no cravings for punishment. We only spank for fun. Odd huh?

Thomas: I feel that while punishment and discipline is an aspect of spanking that's inherent to most of our fantasies, our application stops short of that. It's the fodder that gets our minds rolling, but the spanking never goes beyond playfulness. I think that this is just our mind's way of "setting the scene" for the spanking to happen. Spanking is associated with punishment in the collective consciousness, so we try to play out those aspects to get the "whole package."

There are, of course, those of us who actually practice true punishment and discipline in our spanking relationships. For those of us who do this, I think that it is more a need than a craving. The spankee never WANTS a punishment spanking, and the spanker never WANTS to give one. Punishment, in that sense, is romanticized by spankos in our fantasies. Outside of that fantasy, though, punishment is something that we want to avoid except when absolutely necessary.

Yes, we do, both spanker and spankee, get something from the act of punishment, but it doesn't feed a craving or desire. It feeds some other kind of need. It might feed a need for structure, or love, or relief from stress or guilt.

Anon: My husband and I are relatively new to spanking. I am still trying to figure out where my needs lie (who knew it could be so complicated?). The idea of punishment is what excites me as a bottom. However, I'm not sure whether that fantasy will ever become a reality for us. I would like every spanking to have a 'reason' that resembles being punished. My husband says I deserved to be spanked simply for waking in the morning. ;) I like the idea of being spanked for something a bit more specific, even in play as opposed to a more DD lifestyle. We just haven't figured it all out yet. This topic hits the nail on the head as far as where we are at with our spanking.

Make Mine Red: We feel no need or urge for true punishment spankings at all. We might play at it, like when I wear my school girl outfit, but it's just for fun. All of our spankings are for sexual pleasure. It really turns us both on. That doesn't mean they don't hurt though! :)

Bonnie: Randy and I don't do domestic discipline, or anything of the sort. He has no interest in judging my actions (nor me judging his for that matter).

With that said, punishment spanking scenarios are a huge turn-on for me. They open the door to a submissive headspace that is very powerful and intense. Randy knows precisely how to trigger those feelings and often peppers his spanking monologue with key words and phrases. Setting, dress, and choice of implements can add to the experience. By the time he is finished spanking, I am ready to accept whatever else he has in mind.

So, no, I don't experience real punishment spankings, except perhaps within my mind.

Thanks to everyone who answered our question this week!

MBS Spanko Brunch #227

Hello again, and welcome to our weekly community gathering!

Our topic this time was proposed by our friend, The Marine's Wife. She describes fantasies about serious punishment spankings and wonders whether others share this desire.

Do you or your partner crave the experience and sensations of punishment spankings? If so, do you carry these desires into real life and how do those spankings compare with the fantasy?

If you would like to add your voice to our conversation, just enter a comment below. At the end of the weekend, I will post an edited summary.

Potpourri

Happy midweek, everybody!

I want to begin by thanking everyone who stopped to offer congratulations on MBS's nine millionth hit. It's a staggering number to me too. I am pleased that readers find this blog helpful and encouraging. The content and purpose have evolved over the years, but my vision of consensual spanking as a positive, shared experience remains unchanged.

It's been a very busy spring around here. Lots of events, good, bad, and time consuming, pop up like weeds on our calendars. Real life keeps interfering with my blogging! I'd like to hope that summer heat will bring with it a slower pace, but we'll see.

In terms of spanking, we've had some ups and downs (often involving Randy's hand). Right now, I'm in one of those mindsets where the more I get, the more I want. There is a remedy, but we haven't achieved that yet...

I posted a poll about advertising on blogs a while back. The results were intriguing. After the first twenty four hours, the numbers were running strongly against. Since then, pro-advertising votes increased considerably. Even so, at last count, a solid majority (66 percent) preferred not to see ads with graphic pictures.

A couple of readers wrote me to ask whether this poll was a precursor to advertising on MBS. I assured them this was not the case. I've not collected a single dime, and as long as this blog operates under my control, it will stay that way. I would never presume to tell any other blogger what content they should present, but this is my choice.

So why the hard line? Here are three reasons:

1. As a writer, I am a bit of a control freak. One of great appeals of this medium is that I can be author, editor, owner, and publisher. The content you see here is mine. It is absolutely unfiltered and just the way I want it. Were I to accept advertising, it would be at the expense of some of that autonomy. That's not an appealing bargain, at least for me.


2. Have you seen some of these ads? This blog is not about skin. Pictures of people's private parts have no place here. The issue is not that I think the human body is ugly (quite the contrary), but if readers seek porn, there are plenty of sites that do it well. MBS has a different mission.


3. The biggest single reason why I reject advertising is that I desire to retain my editorial independence. I want readers to understand that when I say I like a product, person, or blog, it's not because I've been paid. My advocacy comes from my heart.

I imagine some readers may think this stance is idealistic and naïve. So be it. I invite them to start their own blog (and I'll probably even link it!).

Speaking of links, how do you like the new placement of the blogrolls? I found myself using the chronological blogroll a lot more often than the classic huge alphabetical list. So why not push it up to the top? I like it, and if statistics tell the story, many of you do as well.

If you haven't tried the MBS blogrolls lately, I invite you to give them a whirl. With 337 links, they're comprehensive. Let MBS be your portal to the newest and most fascinating spanking bloggers. What's more, we trim those pesky dead links and abandoned blogs so you won't waste time looking for old news.

I have plenty of ideas for future posts. Hopefully in the coming weeks, most will find their way to the blog. Until then, please know that I truly appreciate your continuing support.

Bonnie

Nine Million!

Nine million page hits, that is, since 2005.  I offer my heartfelt gratitude to everyone who has helped to make this journey worthwhile.  It's been a great ride, if not always a comfortable seat.

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for May 16

 
This week, we considered the question of why so few first time spankees are turned off by the experience.

PK: I remember Nick telling me when I first got the courage to bring it up that he was more than willing to try it but I might not like it in reality as much as I did in fantasy. It was one of the few times he has been dead wrong!

People who are spanko have usually known since they were children. We're sure, we don't want to go back. I guess some vanilla men who have to be talked into it may decide to give it up, but most seem to like the idea.

I have often worried about men who are spankos, but waited like I did until twenty or more years into the marriage to bring it up. It's much harder for them to talk a vanilla wife into letting them spank them than we woman who just have to talk them into spanking us. That could be a tough situation.

Hermione: As PK said, engaging in spanking is probably something the person has thought of, dreamed about and longed for over a period of many years. The first time is always the hardest for any new experience, and especially so for one so emotionally charged. But once that difficult first step has been taken, the worst is over. The second time is easier, and the third easier still. It's a slippery slope, but such a nice one!

Missy: The last sentence in Hermione's comment confirmed my impression that a first spanking is a little like the first time you have sex. It's usually pretty gruesome, but there still aren't many 'one time only' almost-virgins around. I generally cringe at pop psychology expressions like "I'm emotionally invested in this," but it's true for spankos especially, We can't just shrug off a lifetime of intense fantasies because of one lacklustre encounter.

(I'm sorry I was away for so long. I was taking a grad course and I vowed to stay away from all non-essential websites until it was over. I'm now really looking forward to catching up with MBS and all those videos that went viral on YouTube.)

Welcome back, Missy!

Aeon's Angel: For me, the feeling of freedom and the adrenaline rush was the keeper. I remember being confused at my enjoyment and by the fact that I was so excited and so relaxed at the same time. I can not fathom going back to no spanking. I miss it when we go too long with out. I need the feeling. For me, it is the "peaceful, easy feeling."

Elysia: I don't think this is all of it, but I do believe that the physiological reward that the brain receives (and that OTHER PLACES in turn receive) could be at least part of the reason that first timers don't walk away. There were psychological reasons did brought me to spanking in the first place, that can't be discounted, but you don't usually hear about the real butt to brain to sex organs connection.

Watch this video to know what I mean or you can Google *pudendal nerve* and see how it works - biologically speaking!

Love4her: I think once you come to grips with the fact that you want to be spanked, you have worked out in your mind that you're going to like it. You have in essence become a spanko before getting spanked.

You have fantasized about it for so long and know it is what you need in some form. The issue has likely been finding a trustworthy soul to whom you can bare your desire and derriere. You want someone who can understand your need and give you what you crave versus what THEY think a spanking should be.

Domestic Daisy: My longstanding fantasies had more to do with dominance than with spanking, but not quite in the fully BDSM sense. The first time I found something online that made it all 'click' as to what it was I'd been feeling, it was spanking/discipline related.

My first spanking experience was with my husband, after having timidly approached the subject of domestic discipline. It was exhilarating, scary, and much like first time sex - somewhat awkward for us both. Yet, I knew instantly that I wanted more.

Suzy: I would assume that most people getting into the scene have put in the time and research long before experiencing it and so lessened the likelihood of failure. But I actually think there are a lot of people for whom it doesn't fit. But like you said Bonnie, we just don't hear from them about it. :)

I think some first time spankos end up leaving the scene because it was more intense than they expected it to be. They have a vision in their mind of something more playful and then it ends up being something both emotionally and physically more intense.

When I first met Todd, I knew that spanking in all its forms was right for me, but I was nervous at first that the disciplinary aspect was a bit more than I could handle. But as time went by, we worked it into a very comfortable and necessary part of our lives.

Who's to say if it would have worked that way for others if they'd been more patient, but I'm sure glad it worked for me. :)

Jane: I wondered about what my reaction would be to the reality when I received my first requested spanking. I was surprised that it hurt as much as it did. I was relieved that my boyfriend enjoyed it. I love it!

Anon: I've been a lurker for almost a year now and finally have decided to join in. I, too, fantasized about spankings for over twenty years of marriage before I finally got brave enough to bring it up. It took some doing to talk my husband into it but WOW we've found we both like it a LOT! I only wish I had asked for it sooner! It's true, our first attempts were far from great, but practice makes perfect and it was fun, fun, fun. It added some spice to our love life and it didn't take us long to get it right. Now I can't even imagine giving it up. I would also like to say I really enjoy your site~thanks for making it available!

Hi, Anon, and thank you for joining us!

The Marine's Wife: My husband and I have been married for six years. I confessed during his first deployment to Afghanistan that I wanted to be spanked. After a year of waiting, I had the most boring and unsatisfying spanking EVER! And I craved more, but I wanted him to learn a little on his own. I can count on my fingers the number of spankings I've had the past six years. This just fuels my desire because I'm still unsatisfied (though he's gotten really good the last few months). Despite the bad and infrequent experiences, I would never give up on that perfect "butt whoopin," as it is sometimes to referred to in our redneck/hillbilly mix. I even go as far as to tell my hubby, though I don't think I could ever follow through with it, that if he won't give it to me, I'll find someone who will. ;)

Bonnie: I have to conclude that if you think you're interested in spanking, you're probably interested in spanking. Even sudden and intense pain isn't likely to deter you for long. For many of us, it's just the way we're wired.

Thanks to everyone who participated in our brunch!

MBS Spanko Brunch #226

Welcome back, dear friends.  Our topic for this week is one I have discussed on the blog before, but I don't recall ever explicitly asking your opinion.

Over the past four and a half years, I have had hundreds of readers (primarily women, but several men as well) share with me that they always dreamed of being spanked.  Many of them subsequently realized these aspirations and reported back their impressions.  I don't think a single person ever said, "It was terrible.  I didn't enjoy being spanked.  I don't know why I ever thought I would."  What I heard instead was an almost unanimous enthusiasm to go further and try more.

It's possible that those whose experiments failed didn't bother to write me back, but the more likely explanation is that people who are interested in spanking in the abstract tend to be more interested once they get a spicy taste of reality.  Even if their first experience was less than perfect (and most are), their craving is typically intensified.

So what do you think?  Why is it that few, if any, first timers walk away?

To join in our brunch conversation, all you need to do is enter a comment below.  I would especially like to hear from readers who experienced their first adult spanking recently.  Once everyone has spoken, I will post an edited summary.

In with the New: Cap and Gown Edition

Here, for your reading enjoyment are thirteen new spanking-oriented blogs.  I invite you to visit these members of our community and welcome them with your supportive comments.

Alexia's Daddy

Arianna's Looking Glass

Discipline & Dreams

Feeding the Flames

Free Awesome Spanking Goodies

Hilary's Spanking Blog

Random Writings about Spanking

Serving B

Spanking in Suzy's World

Spanking the Wife

The Journey

The Misadventures Of The Not So Submissive Wife

Thong Spanking

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for May 9

Our topic for Mother's Day weekend was quite appropriately spanking during pregnancy. Here are your answers.

Prefectdt: I cannot see why a woman could not carry on spanking during pregnancy, I would still happily be spanked by a pregnant woman.

Of course, as the pregnancy progresses, putting someone over her lap might prove difficult and swinging toys with a lot of upper body movement may not be possible any more, but using more arm based swings and having her bottom/sub bent over a piece of furniture should solve that problem. Practicing swinging toys from a seated position may be helpful for when standing for long periods of time is difficult.

A woman can also get her sub/bottom to practice the breathing techniques, used during childbirth, to see if they genuinely help one cope with pain, before the main event.

Salvia: I think spanking during pregnancy would need to be modified. Clearly, belly size is something to think about and of course any other health concerns such as lower back pain, high blood pressure, diabetes, etc. If spanking is something a woman was doing before pregnancy, it shouldn't be too big of a deal, as her body would be conditioned. Maybe it's not such a good idea to take up spanking as a new hobby though. :) Lastly, being pregnant causes a lot of stress and maybe spanking would be a way to help with the mood swings. However, too much stress is bad, so maybe save those punishment-type spankings for after the baby comes. Happy Mother's Day to all you spanked/spanking moms out there!

Texringer: I'm much on the same page as the previous comments. Early on in the pregnancy, continuing established spanking routines should be no problem. But, as many things chance, spanking likely would need to be modified or curtailed, too.

Naomi: When I was pregnant with my son (he is two now), a lot of people in this spanking world told me that it was not a good idea. I took it with a grain of salt because, in my opinion, if your baby can withstand rough sex, it can withstand some bottom smacking. I was spanked with lots of different things, with a variety of intensity. I think a woman should always listen to her body. If it is telling her he needs to stop, she needs to express that.

Obviously, as you get larger, positioning can be complicated, but he usually had me on my hands and knees and my belly would rock. The baby would go to sleep in there.

Some people question the effects it can have on the baby as far as your distress goes, but generally we are not “distressed” during it. We may cry and feel pain, but really our endorphins are going and our stress is being relieved.

My son and my daughter were both very calm newborns and didn't act like stressed out babies at all. I personally think it is a great thing (if you are having a normal, healthy pregnancy). Some women who have to stop or go without a spanking for a while can get even more stressed than usual. I noticed it in myself at least. I think having to stop it completely and then having to remember to stay calm and happy can be hard.

If a spanking helps you emotionally, it can't be too bad for your baby.

Of course, you need to be careful about where your swats are landing, what you're using, and how hard you are using them.

Spank-A-Lot: I am of the opinion that spankings should be avoided if possible during pregnancies. However, as Naomi said, there are times when the lack of spankings could cause unnecessary emotional stress.

I guess it largely depends on the individual's physical well-being. If one is relatively weak or has had a history of miscarriages, then probably its best to wait at least until after the first trimester for the womb to stabilise.

Knowing oneself is most important at end of the day. I am sure a large majority continue to have sex despite being pregnant and thus it would not make logical sense to abstain from spanking totally. Though a little more attention could be paid to safety. Positions may have to change, especially as one's tummy increases in size. OTK and even bending over or lying face down may be an issue. I know a couple who found the diaper position to work well.

Thomas: I think the decision should ultimately depend upon what makes the one pregnant feel the most comfortable. If she's worried that spanking might do something wrong, then she will likely think about it too hard. However, the female body is build to act as a natural shock absorber to the womb, so I think that spanking generally shouldn't be a problem. The size of the belly will be a factor, as it is with all things. Later in pregnancy, it will become harder to find a position that is comfortable for her to be in long enough for a spanking to take place.

I would also likely steer clear of very intense sessions, as trauma still might affect the unborn fetus as its mother's body chemistry changes in response. I don't think that I'd administer any punishment sessions to a girl who I knew was pregnant. I've only known one pregnant spanko who I'd been playing with around the time that she realized that she was preggers. We chose to err on the side of caution and forgo spanking until the baby had been born and she'd had time to recuperate.

Elysia: I would not have labeled myself as a spanko when I was pregnant. But I do recall a very strong "need" during my second pregnancy. At that time, it didn't take much to help me along. Punishment type spankings were not in our repertoire, and we wouldn't have gone there. But as Naomi said, if it's OK to have sex, it's OK to spank, as long as it's not too intense. I would have gone crazy without it, but we never would have gone too far with it either. Salvia said it right. Moderation should be key. Relative health and whether the doctor said to take it easy should be taken into consideration, IMO.

Bonnie: From the moment when the home pregnancy test showed positive until the doctor gave us the postpartum green light, Randy refused to spank me. He was concerned for the baby's welfare and wanted to do everything in his power to protect her. I can't say his approach was a failure because she was (and remains) beautiful and healthy. However, the combination of runaway hormones and a sudden secession of spanking was very difficult for me. I wanted to jump out of my skin sometimes, but he kept reminding me that we were both sacrificing for our daughter.

I felt at the time, and still believe, that it would have been fine to spank with light whippy toys that work at the skin level. There were many times when I think even a moderate spanking would have provided tremendous relief. But we'll never know for certain.

Thanks to everyone who contributed this week!

MBS Spanko Brunch #225

Happy Mother's Day!  I hope our mothers are all enjoying a peaceful, pleasant weekend (rare as that might be!).  Our subject this week is quite topical.

What advice can you offer new mothers about spanking during pregnancy?  Would you suggest they abstain, adapt their techniques, or spank on as before?

To join the conversation, just enter a comment below.  Once everyone has spoken, I will post an edited summary of the proceedings.

Poll: Advertising on Blogs

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Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for May 2

Our topic this week was clothing worn during a spanking. Here are your thoughts.

Pattaya Girls: I think the top should always be in some sort of costume.

Alice: He is usually clothed and I am usually naked.

Ken: A simple jeans and t-shirt on the woman doing the spanking has always been one of my favourite outfits. My other favourite is a smart and formal outfit such as a business suit worn with either skirt or trousers.

Hermione: It depends. If our spanking is a prelude to other amorous activities, I will often wear a lacy teddy, and sometimes a garter belt and stockings, to spice things up. Ron is always au naturel.

If it's to be a standalone spanking, then I simply remove whatever I happen to be wearing below the waist, and keep my shirt on. Ron wears his usual casual attire.

I can't say that a spanking is any different in terms of what we are or aren't wearing, but the aftermath sometimes is.

Little Butterfly: Sometimes when I am craving a spanking, I'll wear something more cute, because it seems to get Daddy in that mindset more. And always a dress or skirt. He likes those, and it makes for easier access!

Our Bottoms Burn: We often dress for our paddlings. Since we both have a fetish for panty girdles, we do that once or twice a month. Sometimes we will dress to the nines have dinner out and come home for percussive activities. Other times, we will cook at home wearing nothing.

Sunflower: As someone new to the world of adult spanking, I've only yet observed one thing about clothes and their affect on spanking, and that is: the less I'm wearing, the more it hurts!

Red: It's not always possible, but I do like the times when I'm naked, or next to it, and my sweetie is wearing one of her business suits.

Prefectdt: I used to dress up a lot for spankings, but I do not really have any costumes at the moment. Perhaps it is time to change that.

If the Am' dram' side of spanking is encouraging some players to act out a little scene, for a spanking, a little dress up does add to the atmosphere of the whole thing.

I agree with Sunflower, the less that I am wearing the more it hurts :-)

Dr. Ken: Shouldn't that be UNDRESS for a spanking? :-)

I have no real dress code for such a thing, and I don't really find it that important a part of the whole process. I'm usually in pants and shirt (sometimes just a T-shirt, other times a better shirt like a polo). Whoever I'm spanking wears whatever she happens to be wearing. I don't require any special sort of outfit. Dresses and skirts are probably preferable, as they can be pulled up as the spanking progresses. Pants with an elastic sort of waistband are good too, as they are easily pulled down.

The spanking usually has to stop for a moment if the spankee is wearing jeans or pants with a belt or snaps or clasps, but that's actually not such a bad thing. Making the naughty young lady stand up, undo her pants, and pull them down while standing in front of you can definitely add to a spanking scene. It helps establish the roles – who's in charge and who must obey. It's one of the little things that can get into your head.

LJ Spank: We do a lot of role playing in spanking, and costuming sets the stage and the characters (and the voice). It is so much fun and adds spice and variety. I can be an 18th century maid who has upset the head staff master one day, and a naughty 50's housewife another, and of course the school-girl. I will write a scenario and e-mail it to my DH. The rest of the time, it's whatever I'm wearing at the time.

R Humphries: For as long as I can remember, I have been attracted to females dressed in uniforms. Fortunately, MBJ is of a theatrical bent and kindly indulges this fantasy. For my part, I always wear a suit and tie for our plays. Removing my jacket, rolling up my sleeves, and loosening my tie iare standard components of our little dramas.

Poppy: I like that he always looks a little smart. Even if he is wearing around the house clothes, he looks together and that matters to me.

I like to wear skirts and dresses when I am with him and to indulge my predilection for pretty knickers that often show my mood. During the moment, he is always dressed and I am always in a state of undress, with skirt up, knickers down, and sometimes off. It makes me shy to say that and that may be a bit silly, but it does.

Thomas: Usually, when Cookie and I get impromptu playtime, there's little chance for us to coordinate our wardrobes, though I'm almost always at least partially dressed, if not completely. Usually, if any of my clothes come off, it's after the spanking is finished and I move on to other activities (assuming, of course, that was the intent of the spanking given). She normally wears her usual casual clothes, as well, but with her bottoms/panties down at her knees before long.

If we have the chance to actually plan before the spanking takes place, we pick and choose our outfits. If it's some kind of roleplay (which usually means that the spanking is for one of our videos), then I'll wear whatever outfit is appropriate. Since the object in many of these scenes is to appear authoritative, I might wear a suit, or a collared shirt at the minimum. As for Cookie (or any spankee that I'm roleplaying with), I like them to wear short skirts, preferably loose-fitting and airy (like a sundress or pleated skirt). A schoolgirl outfit is usually a win-win, as it has my favorite skirt design coupled with a popular spanko fantasy. As for panties, I like something that covers the full bottom that I have to pull down before the bottom is visible. While I can still pull down a thong (and will do so, if for nothing more than effect), it just takes away that air of mystery of a full-pantied bottom.

I could probably go on for hours about different wardrobe options, particularly for my spankees, but I'd start to ramble after a while. Suffice it to say that I like to spank a girl in just about anything that is flattering to her bottom, both when she's wearing it and when she has it taken off.

Bonnie: For Randy and me, clothing is closely tied to ritual, and we love our ritual spankings. I've spent quality time being spanked as a housewife, superheroine, cheerleader, or secretary. The script varies somewhat from one roleplay session to the next, but the results are generally about the same.

There are several wardrobe choices that virtually guarantee me a good bottom warming. Here are some examples:

1. Tight-fitting blue jeans
2. White shorts
3. Lycra capri pants
4. Any pleated skirt
5. Thong underwear
6. Light colored slacks
7. Red panties
8. Any bathing suit
9. Drop-seat pajamas

As you might imagine, I get spanked a lot! LOL

As for adapting the spanking, Randy does this sometimes. Pants seem to encourage bend over type spankings, while skirts more often get lifted while OTK. I haven't asked him whether that is a conscious strategy, but certainly it seems so from the wide end of the paddle.

Thanks to everyone who joined in our conversation!

MBS Spanko Brunch #224

Happy weekend and welcome to our brunch discussion!  For those who might be uninitiated, we've gathered here every week for years to talk about adult spanking and related issues.  Yes, that's right.  Spanking, as in whacking someone's bottom until it hurts, and then maybe just a little bit longer. : )  If you have an interest in spanking and/or being spanked, you're invited to join in the fun.

Our topic this week is a classic.

It's been said that clothes make the man (or woman).  Do you or you partner dress for a spanking?  Or do you perhaps adapt the spanking to your mode of dress?  Does wearing certain clothes affect your spanking experiences? If so, how?

I always appreciate hearing from our regular contributors. But I would love for a few quiet readers to chime in as well.  In either case, all you have to do is enter a comment below.  Once everybody has spoken, I will post an edited summary.